How do I get closure?

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  1. profile image55
    Enquiring mind78posted 2 years ago

    How do I get closure?

    My boyfriend of 1yr and 6mths and I just broke up. About 4weeks ago he mde a comment about 2women he met and hoe he was intested. I calmly got dressed and prepared to leave. He was mad and said he was later that day. We usully got along well but thimgs changed. We had been making plns to get together for the past week but on thursday night he announced he was taking a woman to the Poconos.He has disrespected&hurt me&wont tell me why he choose to leave or hurt me. My heart's broken I cant stop crying I love him &he always said he loved me too. He expectse to just shut up abt it  what do I do?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    I'm not sure if this question is even real.
    However you said: Your boyfriend is disrespectful, he's hurt you, and told you he is taking another woman to the Poconos... etc
    So, tell me why are YOU "in love" with a guy who treats you like crap!?
    You're trying to make this an issue about (him) when in reality it is about you NOT respecting yourself and loving yourself enough to believe you can do better! "He won't tell me why he chose to leave or hurt me..." Let me tell you something: "Closure is overrated!"
    It's like asking your ex to kick you in the head as they walk out.
    There is nothing your ex can say that will make you feel better about having your heart broken!
    Learn to become a "better shopper" when it comes to choosing friends, lovers, or a spouse. You are responsible for your choices.
    Learn from your mistakes! Find someone naturally values you.
    You need to come up with a better "mate selection process" and have the discipline to stick with it. Don't ignore "red flags".
    "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
    - Oscar Wilde
    If a guy dumps you and tells you he's taking another woman on a trip he clearly doesn't think you're all that "special". You can do better!
    Fortunately we live on a planet with over 7 Billion people on it!
    That man who you can't imagine living without...just know this; Billions of women are doing exactly that! In fact 1 year and 6 months ago you were one of them! Life goes on! (Grieve among friends & family and get in touch with your personal dreams and goals in life. Time heals all wounds.) Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.
    One day you'll be with someone great and look back on this thinking how grateful you are that you're not with someone like him anymore.
    Anytime you have to convince someone you're worthy it means they're not worthy of you. They should recognize you're special on their own. If you have to "figure someone out" they're not the one for you! Every ending is a new beginning!
    In order to "move on" you have to "let go".
    The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world!
    Best wishes!

    1. profile image55
      Enquiring mind78posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your comment I know I am a good person who deserves more however the way he is acting took me by surprise. We were good then he did a 360. Im hurt i shouldnt be but just a few days before this I was being told Im great&loved&wan

  3. Imendez63 profile image74
    Imendez63posted 2 years ago

    Time heals all! I can give you a long lesson or advice on what to do or believe, but the honest truth is that you will get it out of your head in time. The important thing is to remember that there are many other guys who are willing to make you happier than he ever did. Age doesn't matter, you can be 16 or 35; if you can't deal with some a hole that left you then you should evaluate yourself for having feelings about him. Sure it was more than a year, but you know better then that and don't EVER waste your time on someone who does not appreciate you. PERIOD. Yet again, this is just advice so do w.e you think makes you happy.


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