When both the husband and wife are working, why they have misunderstandings and

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   Dheeraj Dewaniposted 8 years ago

   When both the husband and wife are working, why they have misunderstandings and problems?
   
   People think that if they get in relation with someone who is working too, will probably understand them better and can even help them with in money related problems. But later when one's work is given attention and other's is not, or anything between them which is related to their job or their salary. They start to have problems, where man thinks he's superior and woman thinks she's good or say clean at what she do. After all this is what they wanted a companion who works and would understand them better. But, they end up fighting about who's better or who's getting much salary. Why?
   
   

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   nochanceposted 8 years ago

   It's all about communication and knowing what you're getting into. If a couple is fighting about who has the "better salary" there are probably other insecurities that are the real problem.
   
   I feel like more people are worried about being in a relationship with someone who isn't working and having to support them while also worrying about money problems of their own. Especially women who work and their partners don't look for a job and don't do housework.

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   kerochan21posted 8 years ago

   Husband and wife tend to have misunderstandings maybe because both of them were stressed in their workplace. They have different atmosphere and they got burned out in work. They had a hard time facing their boss' scolding attitude or their workmates who haven't done anything good in the environment or maybe they have other work issues that really affected their mood and ended up raising voices in each other. They got a lot of responsibilities at work and at home so they were caught up in between and become furious on how to balance it. Another factor that may lead to misunderstanding is pride. If they belittled the other who only had a small salary than the other, then someone might feel that they are superior and cause more misunderstanding. So, it is much better if both husband and wife should agree to what they entered. They must bear in their minds that money is not permanent, it is just temporary and you can't bring money in your death. Give more love and value each others presence.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   Sounds like too much "You & Me" and not enough "Us & We".
   Ultimately marriage is about two people being on the (same team)!
   Ego competitions are a potential sign they are incompatible.
   The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least have a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
   Compatibility trumps compromise.
   There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply does not want what you want.
   Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

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   tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

   Both spouses need an equal say in the household. Too many working couples try to say if he earns 60% of the money, he has 60% of the power deciding how money is spent and what she does. And when she works plus does all the housework and most childcare, it feels like her unpaid work is devalued though she works as much or more of the day than him combining housework with paid work.
   Dave Ramsey's advice is each spouse has an equal say in the budget and running of the household, working for pay or not.

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   Kiki Estimeposted 8 years ago

   They might be a lack of communication. Some men don't have great communication skills. A women must teach them that. Your both have to make time as a couple and talk about your problems.

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