How do you feel about dating folks within your apartment complex, or work environment?
For me I made it a rule never to date someone I worked with unless I or he transferred or got another job.
Being in the same house share or apartment CAN be okay. But it will change the synergy with your housemates. That may support or detract from your relationship in the sharehouse. I've had both happen to me.
But don't let that put you off. If there is someone? Take the chance life is too short!
I don't think Marc was talking about being housemates or roommates.
He was talking about someone who lives in the same group of buildings/complex. They may live across the hall or in the building next door. As you noted: Life is short!
Cheers! For the correctiin Dashingscorpio. I realized I hadn't used the relevant word once I had posted it but too late to correct. Luckily i'm human...I make mistakes.
I hope you're having a good day?
My first instinct, is "you don't crap where u eat." If u are going to crap where u eat...well, good luck with that.
Never in your apartment complex. Home is a very special and private place and if you start dating someone who lives in your complex you could end up with unannounced visits, unpleasant chance meetings, or just a run of the mill voyeur. Work would depend on the size of the company. If the office is 20 or 30 people then definitely no. If the company is 30,000 employees then sure as long as proper respect for co-workers is practiced during working hours. The company I worked for that had 30,000 employees had a rule that married couples could not work in the same department. I think that's a pretty good rule for dating too.
You've got me rethinking about rhe apartment complex cissy...good point
It's beyond creepy when you realize that someone is watching you in your apartment. I lived on the 12th floor and it never occurred to me that I could be watched--with binoculars!
I disagree with the answers above. It completely depends on the context of the situation. If you and the other person seem to get along and you think you would be great in a relationship together, just feel it out and see if it works. I actually don't think the apartment complex one is a huge deal, as long as you're not sharing a wall or something like that. Being in the same apartment complex doesn't mean you're roommates. I think it's entirely possible to date someone you work with, as long as you don't push any drama on to your coworkers. If you break up, never make the coworkers choose sides or anything. Or if you break up, just be mature and act like civil adults toward each other. And just don't do anything to make the coworkers feel uncomfortable.
In all honesty when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. In other words most our relationships will fail!
Knowing that it's highly unlikely that any relationship we enter into is going to last means there's a very good chance we could find ourselves stuck either living near an ex or having to work with an ex.
Since most relationships don't end on a "high note" or a loving platonic scenario it's probably best not to set yourself up for any potential drama.
Generally speaking when a relationship ends most people want to be "free" of having to deal with or see their ex for at least the immediate future. That's not possible if live in the same building.
Imagine you getting dumped and now you see her new boyfriend coming by her apartment or picking her up for lunch....etc
I would feel uncomfortable doing both, for the same reasons others stated. But you're liable to come across the same problems from any social circle. When I lived in Silicon Valley, I was a member of a folk dance society that consisted of about a thousand members scattered across nine counties. There was a situation where a man and his ex-wife showed up at the same dance, and he knocked her across the floor. So even a large venue like that doesn't protect someone - emotionally or otherwise.
Far better is to learn ways to deal with awkward situations that are bound to arise, regardless.
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