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What is the purpose of arguing?

  1. Lewis Roe profile image61
    Lewis Roeposted 17 months ago

    What is the purpose of arguing?

  2. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 17 months ago

    It is an attempt to prove you are right or win a debate so the other does what you want.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 17 months ago


    Usually when arguing happens with the context of a romantic relationship or marriage it's usually about someone setting a "boundary" in an effort to demand some respect or an attempt to get their mate to "change".
    Essentially arguments can be the potholes in the road of love.
    When a couple first gets together they go through an "infatuation phase" where they make each other's happiness their top priority. The word "no" is seldom if ever used. Laughter comes easy, conversations lasts for hours, token gifts, flowers, candy, and weekend getaways done "just because".
    However the "infatuation phase" only last for weeks or up to several months. Eventually someone "steps over the line" or unintentionally does/ says something which offends, disrespects, or is seen as inconsiderate, and possibly a betrayal of trust (in the eyes) of their mate. (Anger is the Mask that Hurt wears.)
    Those arguments are a part of the discovery process of learning about one another, seeing your differences, and expectations.
    In other instances it's a (battle of egos) and "power struggles" to determine who is going to be the dominant person in the relationship. Oftentimes a person may feel like they're always "the bigger person" or always "gives in" and occasionally they feel the need to (hold their ground on something).
    Lastly there are some people who simply LOVE to argue!
    I recall one woman writing an answer to a question stating she'd be completely bored with a guy who seemed to always (naturally) want what she wanted.
    "I need to be with someone who will (challenge me) and make me grow."
    Personally speaking I have all the "challenges" I need on the other side of my front door. Harmony and serenity at home is far from boring in my eyes. At home I want to lay the shield down and remove the armor.
    Nevertheless some folks feel if there is no arguing/fighting from time to time the relationship becomes stale or passionless.
    Some folks will start a fight with their mate as a form of "shock treatment" to put some new life into the relationship.
    Naturally if you hate arguing and find yourself with someone who loves to argue it means you're with the wrong person.
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!
    Compatibility trumps compromise! smile

  4. CapCooL profile image93
    CapCooLposted 17 months ago

    I would try to explain but it would most likely start an argument. So I'm just going to sit this one out.

  5. Oztinato profile image71
    Oztinatoposted 17 months ago

    Cool debate has been responsible for human advancement but arguing heatedly causes human failures.
    It is essential to confront modern ethical dilemmas with genuine debate and even cool arguments. Scientific arguments are not heated or insulting.