What do you think why is it hard for one to move on after a break up or a reject

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  1. Divya Merh profile image56
    Divya Merhposted 22 months ago

    What do you think why is it hard for one to move on after a break up or a rejection?

    Is it because that person is still in love or is it the ego which gets hurt?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 22 months ago


    In order to "move on" one has to {want} to "let go".
    You can't get to second base if you insist upon keep one foot on first!
    Believe it or not most people don't want to "move on" initially after breaking up. Deep down they're holding out hope for a possible reconciliation.
    The first thing one has to do is accept the relationship is over!
    Discard your rose tinted glasses! Stop romanticizing the past!
    In order for your (ex) to have been "the one" they would have had to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a "soul-mate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa). 
    The next step is to go about putting away things that remind you of your ex, unfriending them in social media accounts, blocking and deleting email addresses and phone numbers.
    Essentially go "cold turkey" staying out of contact with them.
    Your (ex) is the last person who can help you "move on"!
    Allow yourself time to grieve your loss with friends and family.
    Afterwards (focus on you) and get back to hobbies/interests and goals you may have neglected while you were in your relationship, exercise, and love yourself. Travel and explore new things.
    Gradually you will have a desire to meet someone new.
    Thankfully there are over 7 Billion other people on this planet!
    Odds are in everyone's favor there are lots of them who'd want us.
    Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.
    Every ending is a new beginning!

  3. Divya Merh profile image56
    Divya Merhposted 22 months ago

    I feel like it's more of an ego issue in specific cases because when one gets rejected or the break up was one's partner's decision and not one's own, then it gets complicated for that person and he/she simply can't digest the fact of being abandoned.

    Though the conscious mind makes you feel as you are still in love or you can't live without your partner or you badly want him or her, but the fact is hidden in the deeper mind, the subconscious mind. If you look for it you will find that it's just the basic ego, which gets hurt, which troubles you and don't let you move on
    So, if you work on that part you can easily move on

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      You're negating the fact the "dumped person" may have truly been "in love" and was blindsided by the breakup!
      I think ego might be an issue if it's being rejected for a date or they had only been out a few times.
      A (relationship) is different.

    2. Divya Merh profile image56
      Divya Merhposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      That's why I said for the specific cases and not all of them. It doesn't apply to the person who is truly in love though what I said is possible in the long relationships as well, maybe because hardly anyone understands the true meaning of LOVE.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      I doubt there's an "universal definition" for love.
      Each of us has our own idea of what love is "suppose" to feel and look like along with how people "in love" should behave.
      If they're not loving us "the way" (we want) we don't feel loved!

  4. Anjili profile image81
    Anjiliposted 22 months ago

    The ego gets hurt.
    We don't want to imagine or hear our spouses do not love us any more.
    We suffer from low esteem and even imagine people can see through us, hence we try to avoid other people.
    We waste too much time sympathizing with our predicament and crying over spilled milk.
    We shy from any other second bite in the future
    We become overly self conscious and protective
    We fear the opposite sex
    It becomes quite difficult to move on unless we undergo counseling


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