Is it even possible to remain friends with your first love after you break up wi

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  1. AshleyRB profile image61
    AshleyRBposted 11 years ago

    Is it even possible to remain friends with your first love after you break up with them?

  2. Right On Time profile image61
    Right On Timeposted 11 years ago

    Yep because you had a bond once, provided you can both move on from physical/emotional stuff.

  3. tymmy profile image59
    tymmyposted 11 years ago

    I think it depends on how the relationship ended. i'm still friends with mine.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image84
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    I think it's rare when two people want the exact same thing.
    Usually after a break up there is one person secretly hoping to reconcile but will accept friendship as a way of staying close.
    Based upon my experience it's always better to have some lag time between breaking up and becoming best friends.

    The real test is when one or both you falls in love with someone else. A true friend would rejoice in your happiness. A friend with a "hidden agenda" will pull away.
    Sometimes it's very difficult to go from having a "passionate madly in love romance" with someone to becoming platonic friends. On the other hand nothing is impossible!

  5. ladyjojo profile image61
    ladyjojoposted 11 years ago

    yes it is, anwsering you from experience at first you feel  like you could strangle them to death, you hate them , don't want to see or hear them..... but when you pray to an awesome God like mines he puts everything into place. He takes away all the hate, malice etc and then you feel that you have forgiven the person and then you see them like anyone else. You'd always have a lil skepticism though. As for me i can do without the one on one face to face conversation smile I forgave but haven't reach to stage of forgetting it's the hardest part.

    Also "friends" is enough for me or i'd rather say associate. No relationships with that person again you broke my heart once not twice smile

  6. Klena profile image75
    Klenaposted 11 years ago

    I feel that it completely depends on a lot of factors:
    - what kind of relationship you had
    - how long you were together
    - how amicable the break-up was
    - were you friends before?

    I am still friends with almost all of my exes, bar one. That relationship, however, was a toxic relationship.

    Some exes and I are still very good friends and can chat about everything, including our current partners without a problem or any jealousy. Others we still chat and meet up for drinks but we are different people.

    I do believe you can be friends with your first love, if it ends well and you've broken up because you grew apart.

  7. joleenruffin profile image60
    joleenruffinposted 11 years ago

    I think it is possible depending on what the circumstances were when you broke up--did the other person cheat, lie, hurt or just fall out of love with you, move away, etc. If you both came to an amicable decision about ending the relationship, then definitely, you can remain friends.

  8. AshleyRB profile image61
    AshleyRBposted 11 years ago

    Thank you all for  your answers smile
    It's really a painful thought for somebody who has been in your life so long to never speak to you again. That's why I want to remain friends.

  9. home witch profile image69
    home witchposted 11 years ago

    Yes, most certainly. I think it takes time. It can't happen immediately after a break up because the emotions can be too raw, but over time, if you are really fond of someone, and want to be their friend, it can happen. However, it can only happen when both parties are ready to be grown-ups about the whole thing.

  10. phiphi profile image60
    phiphiposted 11 years ago

    A lot depends on why you broke up. Anytime there is a restraining order, no friendship can come.

    Fifteen years of ex's under my belt, and very few have survived to become true friends.

    But yes. Yes, after a considerable amount of time passes, after you have both really moved on, yes. Yes, you can be friends.

    I say, the two big reasons why normal people that have had an average break up with no restraining orders, cant stay friends are:

       1. You aren't done dating.
       2. Or you aren't done breaking up.

  11. tinaweha profile image61
    tinawehaposted 11 years ago

    I don't believe it would help the girl in any way to remain friends with a former love.

    Help me with this: … ed-anymore

  12. adrianna vaughn profile image60
    adrianna vaughnposted 6 years ago

    yes it is, there shouldn't be no change in the atmosphere if you both go on as the way it was when yall were friends. if he hurt you badly in the relationship then maybe the friendship should be left alone or if it isn't that bad then  communicate with him/her and make it work.


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