In UR darkest moments, is there 1 special person w/ whom U choose to confide....

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  1. fpherj48 profile image60
    fpherj48posted 4 years ago

    In UR darkest moments, is there 1 special person w/ whom U choose to confide.....Share

    your secrets & deepest feelings with, to seek solace & comfort?  (Is this person, a family member, friend, professional or "other?"  You needn't  mention a name)

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  2. Ericdierker profile image58
    Ericdierkerposted 4 years ago

    The lousy harlot is named Hang. She does not get me at all. But from over a decade ago she seems to be a fine captain of my ship. She leaves me alone in my anger. She leaves me alone in my weeping. She respects what is in and out of me.
    I do not run my rig straight down the river. I don't do things right, I do them sideways. She sees that and stands to the side so she can catch me when I fall. But she doesn't catch me -- she pushes me up and to the side to get a new perspective.
    If there is a better writer's best friend, i just think i have not seen her.
    A dark cloud being at least a 100 feet tall with and alien being within at two o'clock in the morning and she says -- "go boy and write". My cold sweat does not remind her of dead people she has no business in my battlefield. She tells me  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aA9OqUuA6a0
    Don't need to share, she already knows. She is an angel with a direct connection with God for me.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It's a wonderful thing 2 have a spouse one can be understood by & who doesn't need a lot of explanation Bcuz they just instinctively KNOW.  I'm sure U feel blessed.

  3. shanmarie profile image85
    shanmarieposted 4 years ago

    I never had anyone like that. Or just chose not to. As I got older and some things seemed dire, I had the desire to be able to be that comfortable with someone, that sure that nothing can break a bond. But experience has also taught me to be cautious even with those I trust that intimately. When someone is overwhelmed it can overwhelm those who care to the point they hold back or turn away. So I don't know if this really answers your question or not, but there it is.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Nothing wrong w/ Being an independent loner who prefers to work things out on her own. I can relate 2 the "trust" issues. We always gamble w/ that.  Soooo  How's UR method working 4 U?  smile

    2. shanmarie profile image85
      shanmarieposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Depends. I am probably a little more open with friends than I used to be. But there are still times when I just sort of retreat or talk to friends without mentioning deeper thoughts on an issue or situation. Laughter is good and so is companionship.

    3. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I suspect a bit of "I can do it myself" & "I know what's best for me." Why do I suspect this?  Because this is a huge sign of independent gals, of which I am a MAJOR party!!

    4. shanmarie profile image85
      shanmarieposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      My grandma used to say, "She's not stubborn; she just knows what she wants!"

    5. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Ruby Jean...Something wrong that won't let me comment under yours!  Sorry hon!  Hope U see this!  Can't get better than MOM!  She's the best when it comes to comfort!

    6. shanmarie profile image85
      shanmarieposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I noticed u can't comment 2x n a row on the same thread in the questions.

    7. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Shan...We can only comment under another comment when the word "comment" is displayed. 4 some reason it did not show up so I could ans. Ruby. Can't respond 2X in a row?

    8. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You mean...like THIS???     LMAO!!   I have secrets!!  You should know that!

    9. shanmarie profile image85
      shanmarieposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well, wtf, u need to spill ur secrets then b/c I couldn't get the comment button twice in a row on the thread I wanted. And I tried refreshing the page. Did you log out and back on??? And if I did it on mine, y couldn't u 4 Ruby? All she did was answ

    10. Ericdierker profile image58
      Ericdierkerposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      There, now you can continue

    11. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      NO   No & NO....Has nothing 2 do w/ logging in or out.What I tried 2 tell U was the BLUE wording...after we post, it normally displays "comment."  If it doesn't U can NOT comment! & U can't post 2x in a row!

    12. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      YOU, Shan Marie, can't post 2 in a row w/o the secret!!  LOL  LOL  LOL  LOL  LOL  LOL.....

    13. shanmarie profile image85
      shanmarieposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thx, Eric. At least somebody loves me! I knew what I tried 2 tell me already. The blue button doesn't come twice in a row for me!it hasn't in awhile.

  4. tsmog profile image81
    tsmogposted 4 years ago

    Today, not really a person more of muse. When in my darkest hours I write in my journal to my muse. I seek to explain, relate, interact, and confess openly. It is a cathartic experience at times with my muse living in my heart, mind, and soul. My muse is understanding, inquisitive, consoling, and provides insight. Once completed, I become more aware perhaps in a cosmic sense and with a hint of spirituality where answers arrive at times seen as inspiration.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Tim,  I can definitely appreciate UR use of UR muse 2 write it all OUT.  How easy & comfortable is that?  Seeing UR own thoughts in blk & wht. Being able 2 read & think. Solutions usually arrive!

  5. Penny Sebring profile image93
    Penny Sebringposted 4 years ago

    My husband. He never judges me and is always honest with me. He truly is my best friend.

    1. always exploring profile image81
      always exploringposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      When my mother was alive, I could ask her anything and she would do her best to help me along that particular path. I must say that I've not found that complete honesty since. A husband, a friend never reached that part of my heart that needed a smil

    2. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank Heaven 4 UR kind of Husband!  They're nearby, loving & FREE!  4 Spouses to B best friends, is invaluable.  Good 4 both of U!  smile

  6. Michael-Milec profile image60
    Michael-Milecposted 4 years ago

    There is  this One heart who hand out  a note  never to leave you nor forsake you and I accepted that as  a real thing since around ten. If there ever was a "dark moment " or I supposed to be seeking  "help" I either wrot a line for myself mostly ' get even ' I spoke silently conversing in my spirit world. Soon at age fifteen I went to live and support myself, living with " strangers" other ethnic / religious / language people not  my native; beeing occupied with living perspective, there was no human being around to assist. No one ever knew my "seecrets" there were none. Keeping company of the One who  knows  my innermost everything ; why burdening any human being when people are dealing with their  own preferences?

  7. marcoujor profile image78
    marcoujorposted 4 years ago

    I agree with Ruby...my Momma was the consummate listener - with no judgment and full acceptance.
    As she will always live in my heart, I consult 'her' on a frequent basis.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      and as I told Ruby.....Can't get better than Mama!  At least "most" Moms and especially GREAT Moms like ours.  Bless their hearts!  Thanks Maria. Glad to see you!

  8. Sunshine625 profile image91
    Sunshine625posted 4 years ago

    My daughters (Chickies) are my go-to team. If I don't want to burden them I go-to my BFF. Most of the time I just figure it out on my own, I get into some crazy stuff in my life. Ha!!

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Great choices, GF.  I'm quite close w/ my 4 sons, so I agree w/ UR habit of consulting your chickies. My sons R all so different, I have a confidant for 4 different kinds of issues!!  LOL...Hugs SFAM!  Be good!  Love, Effer

  9. Wesman Todd Shaw profile image92
    Wesman Todd Shawposted 4 years ago

    I've about gone full hermit. I sit and chat at people online, and after that - I hardly ever see anyone other than my folks, and whatever visitors they have.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Wes,  Nothing wrong at all about being a sort of recluse-by-choice. Each experience & lesson in life, matures us toward less dependency upon "others." It's a comfort & acceptance in our own wisdom & self-assurance. Much 2 B said of silent

  10. bravewarrior profile image93
    bravewarriorposted 4 years ago

    I usually work things out on my own. If I really have a burning question that I need help in seeing all options clearly, I'll call my mom or my sister, depending on the issue.

    1. fpherj48 profile image60
      fpherj48posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hey Sha....Not surprising a strong independent woman like yourself, relies on her own abilities& smarts to work things out!  I'm with you on that GF!  Nice new photo!  Write on!!!

 
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