Once a cheater...always a cheater...

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   danielthorneposted 15 years ago

   THis has been my experience...these types will always jusify or have a need or desire to fuck around on the side...for just about anyreason...they get mad cause they can't always have what they want in a relationship so...that is a good enough reason...

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      cosetteposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      i think cheaters need to work on themselves instead of sniffing around for someone to make them feel all better about themselves...

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         Mikel G Robertsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I think some cheaters cheat because they want more than they are willing to give. For example they want a constant stable relationship but they also want the adventures of the single life. Knowing that the kind of person that their 'constant' mate is would find that(them sleeping around) unacceptable and themselves not being willing to 'share' equally with their mate (in the case of an open relationship), they choose to cheat, out of selfishness...

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      This simply provides proof to my message that people really don't understand life. Cheaters are lost people who cannot control their own sexual urges. Even, shows that their ability to love others is skewed, because of their lack of knowledge about their life.
      
      It's sad, but provides proof.

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         TheGlassSpiderposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Well said! I wholeheartedly agree, and would only add that due to their lack of knowledge and skewed feelings, they are unable to experience the kind of feelings that make being monogamous worthwhile.

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      Diskobolosposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Pretty much yeah, although I know a few guys that cheated once when they were young and never again.

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      Pamela N Redposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      People cheat for different reasons. First of all I have never cheated on my husband but I've talked to many men that have cheated on their wives and most of them weren't getting their physical and emotional needs met at home.
      
      Men have to have sex and if their wives play games and use sex to get what they want or habitually say no they are asking for trouble. I'm not saying this is a good reason for a man to step out but you need to realize you aren't helping him make a monogamous decision when you do this.
      
      If he doesn't get it at home he will get it somewhere.

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         Mikel G Robertsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Or he will(as in my case) stay faithful to his word,'forsaking all others' until his misery gets to a point of no return, in which he will file for divorce.

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   tantrumposted 15 years ago

   I think 'bored' would be a proper word

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   wesleyacarterposted 15 years ago

   I think that there is certain criteria commonly overlooked to justify what cheating is. At one point, I was polygamous and each of my partners knew about my habits. That doesn't necessarily suggest that my sexual urges were or are out of control. It also doesn't suggest that I didn't share a real connection with one or more of those people. Some of them, we were just in it to have fun. Others, we were great friends and would have been so if we were having sex or not (and in many cases still are good friends). And there were a few that I had relationships with that allowed me to enjoy having sex with other people, as she liked to join me many times.
   
   So I don't know if you can definitely pin down a "need" to go fuck around, unless it is on someone who is completely irresponsible and inconsiderate to their lover(s).
   
   If I lied about it, I would have been cheating.
   
   I don't think that it's a lack of knowledge or skewed anything. I think that if someone is a cheater, then there is some kind of insecurity there in the relationship because there is lying going on. But everyone has their vice, and it wouldn't be right to judge someone for making a mistake.
   
   I wouldn't call an alcoholic ignorant or incapable. I wouldn't call someone who cheats that either. No room to judge.

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   Richieb799posted 15 years ago

   Ive been tempted to cheat when I wasnt satisfied with the gf I had, but I never did because i wouldnt want it happen to me. If I was recieving the right kind of affection and I really liked the girl, the thought wouldnt cross my mind

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   shelly73posted 15 years ago

   You know what i really hate? Is that when they cheat on him/her, they say they do it out of love.
   Ya know give me a friggen break. Or they will tell you that i had to do it to prov to my self that i really love you, and that your the one i want to be with for the rest of my life.
   
   I think that that is a load of crap if you ask me.
   If they want to be with you then they should want to be with just you. Not to be with you and fool around on you just to see if the love is real.
   
   Very sick if you ask me.

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   DeltaSecposted 15 years ago

   When you meet a person for the first time, try to get as much information on them in order to profile them. For example I try to find out info such as what was the longest relationship, how long was she single after breaking up with somebody.
   
   Another, thing to find out is about her relationship with her parents, and what things has she committed herself to, what places she goes out to.
   
   Little information such as this will give you a picture of a person and their behaviour.

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   cosetteposted 15 years ago

   selfishness is right. they want to have their Kate and Edith too

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      Mikel G Robertsposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      

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   cosetteposted 15 years ago

   oOo, the ginormous smiley! love that.
   
   well gotta go...

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   Paradise7posted 15 years ago

   Really is a cool smiley.

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    Mikel G Robertsposted 15 years ago

    Thanks

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    yenajeonposted 15 years ago

    Si. Its very sad but true. once a cheater always a cheater!

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       danielthorneposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I think you are right...

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    donotfearposted 15 years ago

    People usually cheat when their emotional needs aren't met with their partner. So it could happen to anyone.

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    affairdetectorposted 15 years ago

    Is there any exemption to the rule???

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    wifelvposted 14 years ago

    People cheat because they don't anticipate the consequences at the time. The need for attention and to feel good about oneself drives them toward another person. I have had men come on to me many times who are married and it is amazing how they justify their actions. They always blame the wife. When I dig deeper into what the man is really dealing with, it is low self image and the need to feel alive or prove that they are desirable. They never consider the end result and often think that life will be better if they just had the right person. Once they have to live with the cheater in a real life situation, it most always ends or he cheats on her.  He has lost everything and when all is said and done he even tried to go back to his ex. His kids hate him and forever he has to live with the reality of what he has done.  For a piece of ass and some excitement.

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