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Once a cheater...always a cheater...

  1. danielthorne profile image39
    danielthorneposted 7 years ago

    THis has been my experience...these types will always jusify or have a need or desire to fuck around on the side...for just about anyreason...they get mad cause they can't always have what they want in a relationship so...that is a good enough reason...

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      cosetteposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i think cheaters need to work on themselves instead of sniffing around for someone to make them feel all better about themselves...

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image79
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I think some cheaters cheat because they want more than they are willing to give. For example they want a constant stable relationship but they also want the adventures of the single life. Knowing that the kind of person that their 'constant' mate is would find that(them sleeping around) unacceptable and themselves not being willing to 'share' equally with their mate (in the case of an open relationship), they choose to cheat, out of selfishness...

    2. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This simply provides proof to my message that people really don't understand life. Cheaters are lost people who cannot control their own sexual urges. Even, shows that their ability to love others is skewed, because of their lack of knowledge about their life.

      It's sad, but provides proof. smile

      1. TheGlassSpider profile image74
        TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well said! I wholeheartedly agree, and would only add that due to their lack of knowledge and skewed feelings, they are unable to experience the kind of feelings that make being monogamous worthwhile.

    3. Diskobolos profile image49
      Diskobolosposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Pretty much yeah, although I know a few guys that cheated once when they were young and never again.

    4. Pamela N Red profile image86
      Pamela N Redposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      People cheat for different reasons. First of all I have never cheated on my husband but I've talked to many men that have cheated on their wives and most of them weren't getting their physical and emotional needs met at home.

      Men have to have sex and if their wives play games and use sex to get what they want or habitually say no they are asking for trouble. I'm not saying this is a good reason for a man to step out but you need to realize you aren't helping him make a monogamous decision when you do this.

      If he doesn't get it at home he will get it somewhere.

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image79
        Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Or he will(as in my case) stay faithful to his word,'forsaking all others' until his misery gets to a point of no return, in which he will file for divorce.

  2. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    I think 'bored' would be a proper word

  3. wesleyacarter profile image51
    wesleyacarterposted 7 years ago

    I think that there is certain criteria commonly overlooked to justify what cheating is. At one point, I was polygamous and each of my partners knew about my habits. That doesn't necessarily suggest that my sexual urges were or are out of control. It also doesn't suggest that I didn't share a real connection with one or more of those people. Some of them, we were just in it to have fun. Others, we were great friends and would have been so if we were having sex or not (and in many cases still are good friends). And there were a few that I had relationships with that allowed me to enjoy having sex with other people, as she liked to join me many times.

    So I don't know if you can definitely pin down a "need" to go fuck around, unless it is on someone who is completely irresponsible and inconsiderate to their lover(s).

    If I lied about it, I would have been cheating.

    I don't think that it's a lack of knowledge or skewed anything. I think that if someone is a cheater, then there is some kind of insecurity there in the relationship because there is lying going on. But everyone has their vice, and it wouldn't be right to judge someone for making a mistake.

    I wouldn't call an alcoholic ignorant or incapable. I wouldn't call someone who cheats that either. No room to judge.

  4. Richieb799 profile image74
    Richieb799posted 7 years ago

    Ive been tempted to cheat when I wasnt satisfied with the gf I had, but I never did because i wouldnt want it happen to me. If I was recieving the right kind of affection and I really liked the girl, the thought wouldnt cross my mind

  5. shelly73 profile image50
    shelly73posted 7 years ago

    You know what i really hate? Is that when they cheat on him/her, they say they do it out of love.
    Ya know give me a friggen break. Or they will tell you that i had to do it to prov to my self that i really love you, and that your the one i want to be with for the rest of my life.

    I think that that is a load of crap if you ask me.
    If they want to be with you then they should want to be with just you. Not to be with you and fool around on you just to see if the love is real.

    Very sick if you ask me.

  6. DeltaSec profile image59
    DeltaSecposted 7 years ago

    When you meet a person for the first time, try to get as much information on them in order to profile them. For example I try to find out info such as what was the longest relationship, how long was she single after breaking up with somebody.

    Another, thing to find out is about her relationship with her parents, and what things has she committed herself to, what places she goes out to.

    Little information such as this will give you a picture of a person and their behaviour.

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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    selfishness is right. they want to have their Kate and Edith too wink

    1. Mikel G Roberts profile image79
      Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years agoin reply to this


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    cosetteposted 7 years ago

    oOo, the ginormous smiley! big_smile love that.

    well gotta go...

  9. Paradise7 profile image84
    Paradise7posted 7 years ago

    Really is a cool smiley.

  10. Mikel G Roberts profile image79
    Mikel G Robertsposted 7 years ago


  11. yenajeon profile image80
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    Si. Its very sad but true. once a cheater always a cheater!

    1. danielthorne profile image39
      danielthorneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think you are right...

  12. donotfear profile image90
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    People usually cheat when their emotional needs aren't met with their partner. So it could happen to anyone.

  13. affairdetector profile image55
    affairdetectorposted 7 years ago

    Is there any exemption to the rule???

  14. wifelv profile image62
    wifelvposted 7 years ago

    People cheat because they don't anticipate the consequences at the time. The need for attention and to feel good about oneself drives them toward another person. I have had men come on to me many times who are married and it is amazing how they justify their actions. They always blame the wife. When I dig deeper into what the man is really dealing with, it is low self image and the need to feel alive or prove that they are desirable. They never consider the end result and often think that life will be better if they just had the right person. Once they have to live with the cheater in a real life situation, it most always ends or he cheats on her.  He has lost everything and when all is said and done he even tried to go back to his ex. His kids hate him and forever he has to live with the reality of what he has done.  For a piece of ass and some excitement.