Are you feeling lonely too? Do you get lonely often? Why or why not? Is there a particular reason you're feeling lonely?
Nope, never have.
I say hello easily and in return, friends are made.
Try it, it works....:-)
Oh, yeah...in fact I was thinking just tonight how lonely it is loving my own 21 year old son. He's going through the know-it-all stage and battles with me constantly. Yet I love him. It's a strange sort of loneliness.
I feel lonely now! I'm a people person and need people around me! I do like my own company and space sometimes though
I feel lonely, not because I'm alone, but because I found my way of thought kind of different with my friends, and it make me feel lonely.
I feel lonely, because all my friends who appreciate my thought, all live so far away from me. Including the man I love.
sometimes only, when I hear about children being kidnapped etc and dying because of other peoples selfish objectives etc..
I am happier most of the times
What's up PDH? How are you?
You're always happy when I run into you.
CAGS I am sad only when I watched CNN and there are many children abused kidnapped etc
overall I am happy all the time
how are you CAGS??
I am doing well and I could be happier, but presently happy.
it's weird I'm not lonely but feel all alone, does that make any sense at all?
Yes, ma'am, that makes perfect sense...at least to me! Btw, how are you, Lyrics?
I am usually lonely because I do not get out of my own environment much...it is hard for me to get out in the snow, even if I wanted to..
but people do come over which is nice and I always have a phone and computer to communicate to others with...
but yes, I get lonely quite often, honestly I get lonly evey time I wake up...
but I guess thats just life???
I use to feel that way a while ago, but it has stopped. I think i use to worry too much about things i shouldn't have before, and now that i have more of a care free attitude about things like drama and such, i feel perfectly fine.
I think anyone, can cure themselves of loneliness if they take the right methods for themselves. That is something they will have to figure out on there own.
I don't get lonely, never have. Am pretty sure I could live for years on some remote mountain, return to society in a century or two, and function fairly well as long as the language hadn't changed beyond my ability to communicate.
Which does of course fit the residence location Pam and I have chosen as our "retirement haven"--an acreage 15 miles from the nearest small town and 25 miles from the nearest small city. Even here, we mutter to each other that there are far too many people in the area, keep "overlapping" schedules so that while we do have time to talk to each other each day, there are also times when one is asleep and the other enjoying wide-awake privacy...AND we still require separate bedrooms so strongly that she sleeps in the camp trailer while I head off to an unheated steel storage shed to catch my zz's.
Guess we're not much help for this thread...
oh i'm so familiar with that word lonliness. i guess we all do but some allow it to stay longer than others and some are so used to banishing it that they don't event know what it feels like any more. it's that feeling that makes a baby cry out when left alone. i'm used to being lonely and i allow loneliness to take over at times.
i also think the shy people know more about loneliness and being alone but also they are usually more experienced in enjoying their own company that they only allow themself to be lonely when they want to enjoy the lost feeling of loneliness
If you are truly your own best friend there is no such thing as loneliness...
True. I've felt alone before whenever my husband and son were out of town, but not lonely.
I am more inward and enjoy being in my own thoughts.
Loving your own company is the secret.
I am an introvert and welcome time alone to think.(In my case introvert doesn't mean shy just concerned with my own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things)
However some people are extroverts and like being with others. When no one is around they feel lonely.
I'm not even sure someone can change this about their personalities. I do think they can alleviate loneliness by busying themselves.
You need to come out of yourself and get out and keep yourself busy. Your feeling lonely due to the fact that your probably not in a stable relationship or any at that. You need your needs met, feeling alone or lonely is horrible we all have felt it at some stage in our lifes, but to let your guard down a little and get out and start meeting new and exciting people you will soon notice that feeling of alone and being lonely will soon disappear. Feel good in yourself
Thanks. it just felt worst than usually the past couple of day... i guess I've always suffered from loneliness even when I'm not alone.
Hi Figment, I use to have this feeling a long time ago. But one day my husband told me. "Try to appreciate your on compagnie, and you will feel the benefit". At first i didn't understand, but I finaly got it. And now when ever I am alone, I really apreciate my on compagnie and its a wonderful feeling. Sometimes we all need it. It does help you to think properly and rest your brain. . And you feel good. Try and see.
You need to really apreciate those moment. When you will, you will never feel alone anymore. Good luck. I really hope that help you.
i went through a stage in my life, when i felt so lonely..... it was quite the most horrible feeling.... that is when i discovered hub pages..
Being Lonely Together Is Kind Of Great..... if you know what i mean
I do enjoy people and would like to be married again and have that one on one but after all these years I'm also content by myself for I have quite a few intrests such as photography, painting and reading along with hunting in fleamarkets etc that keep me busy. so do I get lonely or feel alone, sometimes yes, sometimes no but....
Yes,sometimes I feel alone when I'm not actually by myself. I feel alone in my sadness or hurt or despair, but I know I'm not really alone. I like solitude, but I despise solitude in the midst of people. Know what I mean?
I wrote a hub about loneliness being contagious after I read a newspaper article that said it is. I know it is - but I also know that you need other people's input so you can get over your loneliness. I'm thinking now what I didn't realize before is that loneliness being such an emotional thing, is like jealousy - it isn't a bad thing to feel it, but you don't have to ACT on it - that is you don't have to make others feel bad just because you feel bad. Saying you are lonely and need a friendly voice is a healthy way to heal from it.
Since I have HubPages I have people to talk to which is really very nice and I love it. However, I miss being out there in the world, talking to strangers in coffee bars, making friends at work, meeting new people in classes - and I don't get to do those things. ahh well - then there is chocolate!
Nope never lonely I enjoy my own company way to much for that. I love being around others but am just as ok being alone. Sometimes I actually would rather be alone.
I do today~
I just had a somewhat rotten day, and my friend who calls me every other day some weeks, didn't give me a moment on the phone. I was lonely, meh.
Apparently coffee was too important--but, I'll get over it. :]
I seem to only feel /lonely/, in missing specific people. If I begin to dwell on my friend Akila, and the fact I haven't talked to her in quite some time now, I start to feel lonely again, because I miss her.
Sometimes I feel alone, but this is usually only when I've become very upset or sad because of something that just happened, or when I tried to reach someone I miss, by phone or internet or otherwise, and couldn't get in touch with them (for similar reasons as to why the other makes me feel alone).
It is when the two are happening at the same time, that I begin to run into problems. But it is because of those moments, actually, that most of my friends have been made. When I am feeling both lonely and alone, I usually end up seeking out the company of someone other than the specific person I've missed. If it's way late at night, or some other circumstance is in effect, to keep me from talking to one of my friends, I tend to reach out to people I don't know, or people I don't usually associate with so closely. That's how I met my friend Akila in the first place.
Still, it makes life feel too transitory, to accept things as being like that, so, for now... I check on Hubpages and peek around, I do a quick update to my Facebook apps, and then sleep. Perhaps tomorrow, I'll call Akila, and see why it is she hasn't been talking to me lately...
Good luck to you, and I hope you feel better. <3 Remember your own wonderful mind, that other people love you for, can be adored and enjoyed just as much by yourself, as for them. And stay strong.
I struggled with the issue of loneliness and read a couple books to help me through it...
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figment - I am wondering whether what you call "loneliness" isn't a kind of low-grade depression which is often caused by some basic nutritional lack. I know a lot about this because I've suffered from it all my life, even when I have been happiest in events of my life there is often this gnawing lonely feeling. So a therapist and a Dr. both instructed me to take mega-doses (FORGIVE PUN) of multi-vitamins whenever I start to feel this. and now I take multi-vitamins religiously every day and it really helps prevent this - so maybe?
I've suffered from depression all my life... that's exactly what it is. I'm on meds. I'll try some vitiamans. Thanks mega
And some really positive people around you really helps too. I know what it is like Figment, don't know if you know much about where I came from, but truly there is a way past it. I am living proof.
My mother and sister also suffer from depression, so I really can empathize with you. Big hugs all the way from Australia to you!!!
You can always get on MSN and I can call you up. I guarantee to put a smile on your face whether you are laughing at my jokes or my silly Aussie accent lol.
I often feel lonely. But I refuse to let that negative emotion force me into something that would not be best for me.
I felt lonely but then Mavis my inflatable companion walks through the door and everythings a-ok!
One place where almost every religion agrees with philosophy is that - "we have to love ourself before we can love someone else" I would guess this question comes from the same place, the line of reasoning above goes along with how "we see ourself in how others see us." That is we understand ourself by how others react, respond and treat us. If this line of thinking is right - then being lonely means that not enough people are looking at us in the way that we see ourselves.
Nope, I believe it comes from misunderstanding others.
yep - I'm always trying to read other people's minds and reacting like an idiot when I don't hear exactly what I want - misunderstanding because I can't really just accept how they are sometimes = then I get lonely because they just give up on me. but here, somebody is almost always on the forums no matter when I tune in - and I can re-read what they wrote if I don't get it the first time. so not lonely for awhile.
You're never alone, you just think too hard.
Good times are only ever just around the corner and a shared smile away.
A line from one of my favorite songs says "when you are lonely you're the only one to blame." I had to take many years to understand it. Here goes. I watched yes man and all of these people make a covenant to say yes.
What would happen in stead of saying no, I said yes. Like here. I said no, no one wants to hear what I have to say... Then I said wait, if I say no what huge opportunity am I missing.
I knew about this place three months before I joined. I was so busy trying to find another place to fit in as layoffs approached and I would be leaving people I had worked with for five years. We had become like a family. I knew I would miss them.
I would never have found you guys and girls if I hadn't decided to take a risk, that same thing might happen here, and you won't lay me off.
Great film, it might be a comedy but its message is a powerful one.
There are so many amazing things I could be doing right now instead of sat here typing this bullshit at 3 in the morning..
I do my best work at 3:00 am which is why I don't sleep.
In fairness I do to, but I'd much rather be on a tropical beach someplace.
Which is where I could be this time tomorrow, if I didn't think twice about it.
I live in Florida and have for many years (1984) I think I have walked on the beach maybe six times, which is why I so loved your story about it. I have been too busy working to take the time to live.
I want you to go walk the beach.
This month if not this week.
You know you should.
nope - you can't be laid off from HP, and we, your friends, only demand that you be nice to us! how easy is that!
I ate my dose of chocolate today...not feeling so lonely anymore!
I am not even able to get up for the chocolate. I have chocolate coffee instead.
Sorry I was wandering about getting photos for some of my hubs.
makeovers you know.
She did two the video was excellent. I don't know how to do any of that stuff yet.
you are too sweet. I have to make myself go to sleep. figment pops in tell her I said g'night. And g'night to you iamsam, love that name, reminds me of the movie. Love that movie.
I found that being lonely is wasting precious time thats left on our lives!...................But eaiser said than done.
It amazes how come i do not feel i am alone - i feel Presence and it makes me feel good.
No I was always loneliest in a crowd, worse than being alone actually. Much worse. Still bad with parties and holidays.
I am alone. But I am not lonely.I tend to be kind of a solitary figure anyway.
I usually am not lonely alone, but in crowds. Do you feel lonely in a crowd? I used to be such a people watcher, but that sort of changed, don't know when. Middle school I think.
I don't really mind being with people as such, I guess it depends on who they are. Often I feel I don't fit in or I feel a bit invisable or a bit too visable. Does that make any sense?
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