Why is it deemed unhealthy to feel or act negatively? If I don't feel positive about a situation I feel like it's more satisfying and true to myself to let my negative thoughts and emotions out rather than force a positive disposition.
It seems shallow to me to only want to be around someone when they are happy. It seems arrogant to try to force someone to do the things that YOU think will make them happy.
Positivity and Negativity go hand in hand, but when it comes this you should always be yourself and not what other people want you to be stay true to your own self and dont change by what other people say. Thats what makes us individuals and human.
Hey Pearldiver, wouldn't be nice for them to know the "how to" about going and doing it? If they don't know, then it can apparently hurt them.
On another note, as to the thread. It's not so much about having the right "outlook" or even remaining positive. It's the view of optimism. Sure, you can have a negative outlook on specific things that happen in life, but you cannot have a negative outlook on life in general.
I think there's a difference with being yourself and knowing yourself. we've all seen people who seem to enjoy being 'negative' and the only people who want to be around them are the same. I think like attracts like. personally, I prefer being around positive, real life people. everything is not always 'rosy', but an upbeat attitude towards life is certainly a healthier way to live.
as another poster said here, life is too short to spend time embracing negativity. we can recognize it and learn from it, but I'm not going to stay in it.
Staying true to yourself is always the most positive path to take. Pretending to be positive in a situation that gives you a negative vibe or makes you feel uncomfortable will just make you miserable. When you're miserable, it rubs off on the people around you. If expressing yourself, even when you feel negatively about something, helps you feel LESS miserable, then by all means, EXPRESS YOURSELF! Your attitude rubs off on everyone around you so the less miserable YOU are, the less miserable everyone else will be too.
One of the best reasons comes from a quote by Winston Churchill. Someone asked him if he was optimistic, he said " I am always an optimist, it just doesn't make any sense to be anything else". I agree.
I think it is considered unhealthy to be negative on a regular basis because it isn't good for your mental health which in turn can affect your overall health. I also think it is important to release negative energy when it occurs otherwise it would be like shaking a bottle of soda and twisting off the cap -you never know where the fallout will hit the hardest. As for someone telling you to "Stay Positive" - I take it to mean, keep your hopes up but release any negativity as it comes along.
I believe everyone has moments of negative and positive feelings. At least, all sensitive people do. Others can say or perceive you anyhow, all that really matters is how you yourself want to live your life: feeling negative about things (not to be confused with serious reflective moments) or just being optimistic...and smiling from within. Whatever works for you...
Yes, that's very well said, myownworld. We have both positive and negative EXPERIENCES, so it only makes sense we have both positive and negative feelings. Me, personally, I don't like to impose my negative feelings on other people. Usually time passes, the negative situation passes, everything gets better... The best thing to do is to try and make things better.
I feel like it's a common notion to not want to be around negativity or let someones negativity bring you down but I feel like that practice leads to fair-weather friendships or problems being ignored rather than addressed.
Positivity attracts positive energy and would equal to positive disposition in Life. Yes we always have choices but then what will matter at the end of the day would be the results or outcome of those choices. The effect of those choices. It is always best and advisable to stay positive within a normal level for there are things that are meant to happen and so we should make sure that we are also wiling to accept the outcome of such. In every positive mind comes with a negative feeling but then you should not be persuaded by anything or anyone so learn how to weigh things. Example: A negative spiel or thoughts can be transformed into somewhat like positive thoughts just by using approriate words and language. So the impact of positive scripting will lighten up customers and people around you, around us :-)
You don't have to be positive, not about everything. Sometimes its best to say "this isn't going to work," and cut your losses. Did Charlie Brown ever kick the football? No, he didn't. Someone should have told him that it wasn't going to happen.
If I care about someone a lot, such as my wife, I'll hang around when the conversation "goes negative". With a spouse who has been clinically diagnosed as being severely mentally ill and tends toward homicidal thoughts when she feels betrayed (which is all too often), that's not nearly an uncommon enough occurrence to suit me.
However, lacking that powerful motivation (lifetime commitment) to stick around, I subscribe to the philosophy of Edwin Land (creator of the Polaroid camera) who stated,
"I insulate myself from negative thinking people since it only takes one negative comment to kill a good idea."
If you are falsely positive then you may not be owning a problem that has a solution and if you don't own it then the problem can only get bigger and bigger until it overwhelms you. Being negative sometimes can be as healthy as being positive just so long as things don't stagnate.