how do you find the time to be intimate with your spouse after kids

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  1. dawnM profile image57
    dawnMposted 12 years ago

    what are some of the ways that you and your spouse find time away from the kids to be intimate.

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      Keith Phillipsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Set the alarm clock to go off early n the morning and let the alarm be the bell. Ding ding.

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    china manposted 12 years ago

    green candy - call out the kids then sprinkle them over the lawn to give you that all important ten minutes for a quickie big_smile

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    ralwusposted 12 years ago

    my grandkids have asked me that too. We hunnyfuggle, the wife and I.

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      Rookie70posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      What is "hunnyfuggle?"

  4. Shadesbreath profile image81
    Shadesbreathposted 12 years ago

    For the most part, you don't.  You send the little bastards to be as early as you can and hope for some reason you both happen to not be completely beat to death by rigors of the day.  On rare occasions it happens that you both have some energy left, but usually someone is either asleep or cranky by the time the other starts making a move.

    The upside is it only takes about 18-19 years to get them rolling out of the house, so, if you have 3 kids, two years apart, it's only a 22 or so year run before the next time you get some.  big_smile

  5. Mighty Mom profile image81
    Mighty Momposted 12 years ago

    I recently read an article about marital sex.
    The interviewer was doing a poll about the use of vaseline in sexual relations.
    He interviewed a woman and asked her, "Mrs. X,do you and your husband use vaseline when you have sex?"
    Mrs.X: "Oh yes."
    "And how often do you use vaseline when you are having sex?"
    "Every time."
    "Would you mind telling me exactly HOW you use vaseline when having sex?"
    "Not at all."
    The interviewer was a bit taken aback, because very few of his subjects had been this candid.
    "We apply it to the doorknob to keep the little bastards out of the bedroom."

  6. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

    "He said to me. ..... Why don't women blink during foreplay?
    I said to him ..... They don't have time!"

  7. LeanMan profile image82
    LeanManposted 12 years ago

    Very easy, the kids are in one country with their cousins, aunts and uncles and we are in another country having "fun"...

  8. wychic profile image84
    wychicposted 12 years ago

    We have "quiet time," during which every member of the household is allowed to play with whatever they want, as long as it's relatively quiet and in their own rooms. My son takes time to himself to play with his police toys and watch Transformers, and my husband and I have time to play with each other wink.

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      Rookie70posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Do you play video games with your husband, or table games like cards or dominoes?

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    houseazposted 12 years ago

    One of the best ways is to schedule it each and every week. Guaranteed that way!

  10. Greek One profile image65
    Greek Oneposted 12 years ago

    i just take my camera phone into the bathroom with me, take a few snap shots while I am being 'intimate', and then text them to my wife

    1. jaymelee23 profile image70
      jaymelee23posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's a good one! LOL Actually my honey is a captain on ship so he is gone for a month or two months at a time and we do that sort of thing wink

  11. dashingscorpio profile image84
    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    I think you'd be surprised to learn that "childless couples" don't have as much sex as people with children think they do.

    I suspect the people who state "having kids" as the reason for their lack of quantity and quality of sex would still have the same issues only they would blame it on stress from work, simply being too tired, or something else.

    In fact I think it would interesting if there were a study to determine if couples not living together had sex more than couples who live together or have married.

    In my own life I have observed this many times.
    Once I had a relationship with a woman where we saw each other every weekend and once during the week.
    The relatiohship lasted for 4 years.
    To the best of my knowledge we had sex everytime we spent the night at each other's home. (Tuesday, Friday, Saturday, & Sunday).

    I've been married and I've lived with other women.... Never has the sex in those relationships been nearly as frequent or as passionate  beyond 6 months to a year.

    Naturally there is much more to a healthy & loving relationship than sex but still I have to wonder does "living togeter" children or not cut down on the frequency of sex a couple has?
    I think it does!

    There's something different about packing an over-night bag and going to someone else's house for a day or couple of days.
    It's like taking a mini-vacation. Vacation sex is the best sex!

    The person hosting usually plans something special with regard to meals or activities.
    The person visiting isn't expected to do anything other than to enjoy and relax.

    Once people move in together or get married they don't pamper each other as much. "You want something to eat? You got two hands. Fix it yourself!" LOL!

    1. Dave Barnett profile image57
      Dave Barnettposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Babysitters, my mom used to give us a Liberty night, pick 'em up next morn. After they are asleep too, we were vvvvvery quiet

    2. LondonGirl profile image77
      LondonGirlposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think you're saying that after 6 months to a year, you never have sex 4 times a week?!

      I've been living with my other half for 13 years. And your above implication is scary.

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    klarawieckposted 12 years ago

    I don't have kids, but I do lock my dog in the bathroom. I don't like it when she stares at us. It's creepy!

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      Rookie70posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      The dog don't know what you're doing. Why is it creepy?

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    John Wiggensposted 12 years ago

    Don't bother with wife, and the kids there birthday, christmas, easter, thangsgiving.

  14. LondonGirl profile image77
    LondonGirlposted 12 years ago

    1. After infant bedtime

    2. When infant is out playing with a mate

    3. Quality time for infant with his grandparents / aunts / uncles

    4. Whenever else the opportunity presents itself!


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