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  1. dakota ray profile image59
    dakota rayposted 13 years ago

    i need so much help with my life because my anoying cousin drives me up the fuging walland i also need help to breack up with my boy friend and i am so so so so  scaared that he will get mad at me because he is so senitive and he asked to get married and i don't know what to say and i think i need to break up with him but i want to get married so please help me who ever you are please please please please help me i need it so so  so so so much help

    1. profile image52
      Zynxposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Why are you scared... or at least, what are you afraid of happening?

      1. dakota ray profile image59
        dakota rayposted 13 years agoin reply to this

        him getting mad he starts punching and kicing things

    2. the pink umbrella profile image75
      the pink umbrellaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      ok Dakota, you dont want to marry this guy just because if you say no he will get mad...so if you have to, text him. I know that sounds horrible, but go to your parents house, or to a friends and text him. If hes gonna fly off the handle because you wont marry him, just think about the arguments you will have over whos parents to have christmas dinner at when you actually are married. Dont get stuck.

      As for your cousin, tell the cousin to f off..even if your wrong, just dont communicate for awhile. You can always apologise later if whatevers going on is your fault, but just give yourself some distance from your problems for a few days so you can gain some perspective. If your boyfriend is dangerouse, and he texts you back that hes comming to talk to you, call the police. Nothing ends a relationship like calling your local law inforcement.

      your 20 years old babe, thats way to young to be stuck in an unhappy situation. if you wanna talk about it : pastel.umbrella@gmail.com  ill be on.

    3. miserableandinlov profile image61
      miserableandinlovposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I broke off an engagement, which was very difficult for me, but I realized that although I loved him, I was not in love with him and going through with a marriage would not be the right thing to do.  If you don't feel comfortable speaking to him alone, then do it with your parents present.  You will have the moral support you need from them, and he will not have the chance to fly off the handle.  At 20, you are way too young to get married and it sounds like he's pretty immature if the way he resolves things is through violence.  As far as your cousin is concerned, tell them you need to put some distance for the moment and don't answer calls or messages.  good luck.

    4. sathish54 profile image54
      sathish54posted 13 years agoin reply to this


  2. KCC Big Country profile image83
    KCC Big Countryposted 13 years ago

    Dakota, how old are you?

    1. dakota ray profile image59
      dakota rayposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      20 years old

  3. KCC Big Country profile image83
    KCC Big Countryposted 13 years ago

    I'm confused.  What does the cousin have to do with the boyfriend situation? Why do you want to get married if you want to break up?

  4. wychic profile image85
    wychicposted 13 years ago

    Sounds like you could use the same advice I give my son...take a few deep, slow breaths. Now, think about what you're trying to say and express each thought in complete, coherent sentences. Sometimes just breaking it down into one problem at a time can really help instead of letting them all completely overwhelm you.

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    kimberlyslyricsposted 13 years ago

    hmm:  so confused, sorry.

  6. SteveoMc profile image72
    SteveoMcposted 13 years ago

    You need a human being to talk to, not a forum.   Check with your clergy or local mental health agency.   

    Are you feeling desperate, alone or hopeless? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK           1-800-273-TALK  (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

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    1. profile image52
      Zynxposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I almost called once for this girl I knew, she always looked so sad and wouldn't talk about things.

  7. Phenomenal woman profile image60
    Phenomenal womanposted 13 years ago

    Sit him down and talk to him.Don't marry him for your own selfish reasons,just to have the wifey title.Thats wrong,if you don't love him,let him go,so someone else can.You have plenty of time to marry the one you really love.

    1. Solista profile image60
      Solistaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      THAT IS AMAZING ADVICE.....if I were in that situation, (your BF), say it how it i to him in the most sensitive way you can think. Say you're too young yet and want to experience life still. You just feel like it's too soon. Give a small time frame, and say that you need to really think about it. At least 3 days. and take it from there..

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    Ana Louisposted 13 years ago

    I am sorry, but from what you said, your boyfriend sounds like he has the tendency to be an abuser, if he is not one already.  Tread carefully.

    If you have someone to shelter you, then have a plan in place.  Do not act impulsively. I strongly recommend that you talk to someone you trust, and I agree that you should not break up with him in person. Write a letter, send an email. Don't put yourself in harms way.

    I don't know how old he is, but it sounds a though he is immature, and lacks self control...a dangerous combination when confronted with emotional issues.

    The behavior he exhibits now will only become much worse if you marry him.

    Abusers always promise never to hurt you again, and always lay the blame for their behavior on the other person. 

    I speak from experience.

  9. profile image53
    gandhiniposted 13 years ago

    I Just completed my Btech in BIOTECHNOLOGY...Now i going to do Mtech in BIOTECHNOLOGY..But before this i want training in bio tech...so please tell my from where i can get it...



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