I'd say three to five years.... is average if it's a financial situation...or one of you has been married before and not ready after year one or two to commit. Longer than five years I'd say is too long. HOWEVER, I knew this woman who went with her man for TWENTY YEARS before they finally decided to get married. So too long is if YOU think it's TOO LONG...you'll know girlfriend.
I waited three years to marry Lover Man. We both had been married before....so I was a bit leery. But it turned out to be great!
i too have been married. im not leery . my mother waited 20. but both of them were alcoholics at the time so that got in the way. they were engaged for 8. it doesn't have to be right now cus theres a lot to it . but i have this nagging feeling in the back of my head that i am waisting my time. especially because it's been 8yrs.
Eight years! Move on, girl. You should have asked him what he wanted after one year.
if she isn't ready to committ to this jelly within 2 weeks, it's time to move on
2 weeks...ykes thats fast....'d say 3-4 yrs would be to long for me.
Trust your gut. If you feel like you are wasting your time, you are. Make the move and suggest a break or seeing other people.
Test and see how each of you is solo.
If you get back together and want to make it permanent, it's all good.
Whatever you do, do NOT issue an ultimatum. Bad, bad, bad idea.
Always retain the upper hand (or the appearance of the upper hand).
Just waiting our "real" resident expert Dawn M to chime in here.She's a marriage counselor. I'm just a marriage 'expert'
i always thought those were a bad idea. but how do u make a suggestion like that to someone u been with almost a decade without rubbing them the wrong way.i think it's a good suggestion.
Why get married?
Man is not a monogamous by nature.
He is a polygamous creature.
Marriage makes attorneys rich and enemies out of friends.
what the hell u think i been doing for 8yrs. i got dipped in the holy water 4 years ago and ever since it's all i can think about.
With all due respect Lamonda, after 8 yrs, why would ya want to destroy a good thing?
If ya have kids and your man signed the birth certificates, be happy!
A marriage doesn't need to to be documented on a piece of legal stationary. You are already married.
Enjoy married life as you have been for the past 8 yrs.
I'd say after one year if he hasn't let you know he wants you in the rest of his life, he doesn't
Life is too short.
Find somebody who does.
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