Can you be in a sexual relationship with your friend?

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   JoyMoore13posted 14 years ago

   They are having all these movies coming out suggesting that you can have sexual relationships with your friend, I have been in a friend/sexual and the benefits are good, no strings attached,but when the emotions get involved that's when everything changes! You loose the frienship and everything is akward and sometimes you may begin to want something and they don't. So i think they need to put a warning label on this like they do on cigarettes! Warning: Possible side effects, heartbroken, loss of friendship,emotional distress and lonliness! Remember the movies always show the happy ever after version but reality is nothing like that!!!!
   
   
   
   
   Live,Love,Pray
   Joy

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      lady_love158posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The trick is not to fall in love, remember you have sex with your friend because you are seeking satisfaction not because you're interested in satisfying them! Once you make their pleasure more important than yours, you've lost!

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   mtsi1098posted 14 years ago

   I have had these types of relationships and they never come with no strings attached...good luck

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   Ruben Riveraposted 14 years ago

   I think men think so women don't. Once emotions, feelings are involved it's a mess.
   
   Good clip from Seinfeld about this topic
   
   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bs37wcFGIQY

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   Stephanieaaarrrposted 14 years ago

   I've had small experience with it and it was a disaster.
   
   It's like how a square can be a rectangle, but a rectangle can't be a square.
   
   You can do friend stuff with your lover, but you can't do lover stuff with your friend.

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   Stina Caxeposted 14 years ago

   I think it would be difficult not to have feelings for someone you are intimate with on a regular basis.  I've often found that when one person thinks it's just a friends with benefits situation the other thinks it is, or could turn into much more.

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   mabrurahmedposted 14 years ago

   This ultimately sabotaging the friendship........wife is the only friend for such relationships.....

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   jennywhitfieldposted 14 years ago

   i agree think emotions eventually take over and if the other person doesn't feel the same back then thats where the problems lie ie if the go into a serious relationship the green eyed monster can take over and destroy a great friendship.  Everyone dreams like it would be like the movies but if we are realists we know to stay well away from any sexual contact with our friends.

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   Ashantinaposted 14 years ago

   Yes.
   And if it happens, then so be it. I'm hearing too many comments here about rules ie 'you lose the friendship..' 'what if..'
   Listen. If you are friends and you just happen to become attracted to each other then go with it.. and have fun for chrissakes!! And if you lose the friendship, then go get another friend. At least you would have had fun and maybe some really great sex, lol!
   When you get into a relationship, whether it be mutual or otherwise, there is ALWAYS a risk. What's the difference here..?
   When you start getting logical, you miss out on life..
   Live.

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      lady_love158posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Best answer! I love it!

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