If you fall out of love with someone, was it ever really love?

Jump to Last Post 1-2 of 2 discussions (11 posts)
  1. perfectperception profile image60
    perfectperceptionposted 7 years ago

    I hear people say, I fell out of love.  Does that mean the feeling they were experiencing was really love or just plain old strong infatuation?

    1. Daniel Carter profile image74
      Daniel Carterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      It was what it was at that time. My relationships have not lasted, but I truly loved the people at the time. I was married for 24 years. Things change. We change. I no longer believe that we were all meant to be together forever. Love changes. Accepting that it does is a part of growing and learning how to love more.

      At least for me it is.

      1. skyskater profile image55
        skyskaterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well, 24 years is quite a long time for a memory to fade, your mind may have gone through a lot of things, the feelings and the memory associated with it may have been locked out, but what about the heart? Is it possible that if you're together, just to refresh, the locked door will be opened again?

    2. skyskater profile image55
      skyskaterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, this is a more serious question than most can realize. I don't truly think one can fall out of true love, but he/she may be able to release the thought of being together with the person, however deep inside, the love will still be there. Funny, I just realized this today.

    3. Just Ask Susan profile image90
      Just Ask Susanposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I believe that you can be in love with someone for years and if you grow apart, develop different interests and so on you can fall out of love with that person. Divorce lawyers thrive on this.

      1. skyskater profile image55
        skyskaterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        hmmm.. does love necessarily thrive on our independent interests.. I have a feeling that interests might bring two people together but diversified interests will not necessarily cause them to 'fall out of love'???

        1. Just Ask Susan profile image90
          Just Ask Susanposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I really think it can and does.

          1. skyskater profile image55
            skyskaterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Well, while I doubt it is because, before I met this girl, I wasn't interested in her kind of things, I am sure she's the one who made me interested in such things now, the same on her side. I somehow believe this has to do with a matter of their characters, there are dependent lovers and independent lovers.

          2. EmpressFelicity profile image71
            EmpressFelicityposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Surely it depends on way in which the individual(s) concerned follow those interests!

            For example, say my other half becomes interested in coin collecting and I don't share his new-found enthusiasm - does that mean we're headed for separation?  No, of course not.  But if he spends all our joint income on buying coins, so that we can't afford basic necessities, or if he spends all his spare time with fellow coin enthusiasts and stops communicating with me, then it DOES become a problem and could well lead to separation.

            Then again you could also get a situation where one half of a couple starts subscribing to a new set of values that the other half doesn't share and even actively disagrees with.  One example could be a relationship between two atheists/agnostics, where one of them develops a new-found religious conviction.  Again, much probably depends on how the newly "religious" person follows those convictions and whether they respect their partner's right to abstain.

    4. Stevennix2001 profile image87
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Well to be fair, ALL RELATIONSHIPS start off on infatuation, as the whole love at first sight is pure romantic nonsense. What happens with people is there's a mutual attraction for one another (i.e. infatuation via physically, intellectually, emotionally or a combination of the three).  Then as the two lovers date each other for a certain amount of time, those same said feelings of mutual infatuation grows to become love.  Now the only problem is that as easy as it is to fall in love with someone, it's just as equally possible for people to fall out of love with each other. That's why relationships often require a lot of work, and it's not always easy to maintain, as most people have to get their heart broken various times, until they find the right person.

  2. Ultimate Hubber profile image63
    Ultimate Hubberposted 7 years ago

    The more you love someone, the more easily you get hurt by them. Selfish behavior of your loved ones can hurt you more than anyone else ever would be able to. So, I believe it is possible to fall out of love no matter how deeply you loved someone.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)