what to do u do when the spark has left your marriage.

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  1. profile image47
    taya566posted 7 years ago

    i think what a person should do to rekindle that flame is get to know each other again,and remember what it was when u first met the reason why u liked that person from the beginning .like try communicating without argueing,try a romantic dinner and a movie or even a getaway for the weekend and finally write down your likes and dislikes about that person and hopefully the likes weigh out the dislikes and if u do all that then hopefully some kind of spark rekindles so goodluck.

    1. Mark Knowles profile image61
      Mark Knowlesposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      One word: Oral.

      Good luck. lol

      1. tritrain profile image84
        tritrainposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        And you could be right...

  2. prettydarkhorse profile image62
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    buy a kindle, rekindle I mean! take a break, alternate weekend alone! Time and excitement in a relationship is inversely proportional they say!

  3. Greek One profile image73
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    accurate and suckcinct

  4. Joy56 profile image76
    Joy56posted 7 years ago

    why are men so absolutely horrible

    1. Greek One profile image73
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      because reality is absolutely horrible?

      1. Joy56 profile image76
        Joy56posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        men just have one track minds is all

        1. Greek One profile image73
          Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          well i am assuming that the OP is female, and that her partner is a male... so if men have a one track mind, why not travel down this one track to see if it helps?

          If that is the case, provided that the certain act in question has not been part of their history, or has not been part of it for some time, then the performance of said act would no doubt put a 'spark' in things

  5. prettydarkhorse profile image62
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    you guys are naughtily bad, but very helpful indeed! Do you know that forums are being indexed faster by G these days, you will help a lot of couples now!!

  6. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    both parties have to be willing, not one or the other...

  7. profile image0
    Home Girlposted 7 years ago

    If you do not have fuel in your car don't suggest going to Florida on a weekend... Not going to work.

    1. TamCor profile image81
      TamCorposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I don't know why, but that just cracks me up!!!

      lol lol lol

  8. Pamela N Red profile image85
    Pamela N Redposted 7 years ago

    Pay more attention to each other. 

    There are many reasons why the flame has flickered and depending on your age, how long you've been together and which gender we are talking about it can be many things.

    People get busy with kids, work and forget to take care of each other whether that be sex as our bad boys have pointed out or just listening when they talk.

    Unless you talk you will never know what is bothering them.

    1. Greek One profile image73
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      "just listening when they talk"...

      EXACTLY.. oral!.. it's all about oral communication!

      I'm glad a lovely lady also agrees with Mark and I!

      1. Joy56 profile image76
        Joy56posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        you were right all along.

        1. Greek One profile image73
          Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          *cut, paste, print.. and show to wife*

          1. Pamela N Red profile image85
            Pamela N Redposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            smile

  9. Valentine Logar profile image71
    Valentine Logarposted 7 years ago

    Find things to do together, common and shared. Even if you don't necessarily enjoy them look for things you can do.

    Examples:

    I don't enjoy golf (can't play) husband loves it so I drive the cart.

    Husband hates museums I love them but he will go with me now and then without complaint.

    Find the compromises that are important to each of you, examples:

    I cannot stand to get into an unmade bed, husband couldn't care less. The compromise though is whoever is last out makes the bed these days.

    Husband hates doing the yard work, I hate ugly overgrown yards. The compromise, I personally pay to have the yard kept up,

    The saying in our house: You don't have to care about the things I care about, you have to care enough about me to participate and compromise on them.

    When you like each other rather than resent each other, the spark just naturally sparks to life.

  10. ar.colton profile image82
    ar.coltonposted 7 years ago

    Date like you did when you were first together. Dress up, get flowers, flirt, giggle, talk, talk, talk and talk some more.

    1. ar.colton profile image82
      ar.coltonposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      And listen, listen, listen, listen, listen, listen, listen...etc.

  11. ddsurfsca profile image74
    ddsurfscaposted 7 years ago

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder.  Take a short vacation from one another, and bing bang boom, when you get back together, it is all fresh and new again

  12. ljv21 profile image70
    ljv21posted 7 years ago

    In our situation, we have found innocent...well...flirting online has provided a lot of additional excitement to our marriage(12 years)....gives a big ego boost to have someone else find you attractive and interesting to talk to.

    Not suggesting affairs, that is just disgusting, but the more we realize that we are living creatures even after marriage can bring a couple closer. Have to say, have heard a lot from both sides...either we have something special or we really have huge problems....never felt that since both of us have always been honest with each other and share everything that we do.

    But to make any relationship work, you must have communication....and not have secrets...far too dangerous and cruel to your partner.

 
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