What are things one can do to spark up their marriage?

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   Cre8torposted 11 years ago

   What are things one can do to spark up their marriage?
   
   Even a good marriage can use a jump start from time to time. What are some suggestions you know that have worked or have heard of that might be worth a shot? Don't be shy, just clean.
   
   

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   cjaroszposted 11 years ago

   Ask her out on a date. Like you would do if you were just starting out.
   Get a weekend to yourselves if life is busy. Truly, to yourselves. No phones, no internet. Be with your wife, and not your technology.
   The next time there is a fight. Just stop and say " I love you". Give them a hug, and leave it alone.
   Make sure to show them, that they still matter most in your life.
   Take them back , where you fist met.
   Do something little, that only they would love.

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      Cre8torposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I agree, technology has had a great impact on relationships when overly used or available. It is the little things, isn't it.

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   wychicposted 11 years ago

   Well -- for us, it ended up being yohimbe supplements for hubby . That aside...I totally agree with dating. People usually either stop dating once they're in a committed relationship, or they never even start. I'm one of the ones who never really dated. Now that we've been together a while and have two kids together, in addition to my son from my first marriage, we're starting to focus on how we can do things that are JUST for our relationship. Everything else in life seems to revolve around the kids, but we're seeing the importance of making our relationship a priority since my husband and I will still be together after the kids are grown and gone.
   
   So, thus far, we've set a "date rule" that we HAVE to get out on a date twice a month. We take turns planning, and make it a game to find something fun and original. We live in a small town, but that's just an extra challenge to our creativity and offbeat senses of humor. There's also little to no money to put into it, so that also adds to the fun of the challenge. Whoever is planning doesn't reveal the plan to the other. It does help add some fun and excitement into a relationship where we know each other inside and out, know what to expect in bed (working on those surprises next), know each others likes and dislikes, life history, political views, irrational passions, etc.
   
   Ultimately, I think the thing that works is different for everyone. The sense of adventure seems to be the major difference between new relationships and old ones. We love the comfort of being with someone long-term, but the adventurous spark dies. So -- something new, something special, something unexpected around the house. Wear hot pink polka-dotted underwear just to make her laugh when they turn up without warning. Whatever it takes. Few people don't like laughter, snuggles and surprises. Contrary to popular belief, every relationship takes some devoted work to keep it alive and strong.

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      Cre8torposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I like the date night being a surprise idea. I do think suspense and adventure come into play very much so. That's the best part of a new relationship.

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   krillcoposted 11 years ago

   Read this book: Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. It will change your life.

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