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   gifty1posted 14 years ago

   
   What would you do if you find out that your fiance is cheating on you? In the worst case senario the only person you've ever trusted and loved with all your heart.

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      Disturbiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      What you do all depends on your values.  What I would do is walk away and not look back.  His "cheating" speaks to his character and what his values are and apparently fidelity is not big on the list.   If you are not in an open relationship where both of you agree that it's OK to have other partners, you are going to be miserable.  You might be able to overlook it once, or even a few times, but ultimately you will be very unhappy in a relationship where your partner is always looking for fresh meat.  So unless you are willing to overlook his cheating for a lifetime you might as well get out now before you have kids and property to divide.   This is NOT someone you can trust.  He's already betrayed you.

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         gifty1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Thanks Disturbia for your advice, it's very helpful.
         You are right.

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      ccdursinaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      call Delilah at Magic 98

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         gifty1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         OK I will.Thanks

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      jpcmcposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Walk away!  Don't fall for the I'm sorry, I'll never do that again spiel.  Chances are, he will do it again.

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      Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      move on

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      dutchman1951posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      walk away, because obviously only one person in that relationship is happy and satisfied, the other is still looking, and may never be satisfied with one person. Do not waste your life like that. Move on

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   knolyourselfposted 14 years ago

   I would confront 'em and have it out. After you get the story you go from there.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   Dump him.  End of story.   

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      jpcmcposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree!

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         Disturbiaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Absolutely, and I speak from experience.  If you think he will stop, you are only fooling yourself.

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            jpcmcposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Too bad you had to go through that.  I have not cheated nor will I dare cheat on my wife.  If you love the person, you do everything to keep the relationship sacred. 
            
            I'm no saint and I do find other women too attractive for comfort.  But I make it a point to to remove myself from lustful thought nor inappropriate situations.

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   SandyMcCollumposted 14 years ago

   I would have to know more details, like, was he drunk and stupid, or is it an ongoing relationship? I can forgive some things, but not a relationship being carried out.

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      gifty1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It's an ongoing relationship my dear.

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      jpcmcposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Does this mean if the relationship is no longer on going you will still accept the guy?  Come on, he cheated, he lied, and chances are he'll do it again.

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   DIYweddingplannerposted 14 years ago

   Dump him.  If he did it to you once, he'll do it again.

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