5 Things You Look For Most In A Person to Date/Marry/etc

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 11 years ago

   1) Same spiritual beliefs or close
   
   2) Same lifestyle (social, active, )
   
   3) Looks
   
   4) Personality
   
   5) Financially stable
   
   
   -----------------What are yours?

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      klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      1. How does he treat his mother?(can't be a momma's boy, but he has to love and show concern for the women in his family)
      
      2. Does he have a job or at least an honest desire to get hired?
      
      3. Is he open minded and gives others the benefit of the doubt?
      
      4. Is his personality compatible with mine? (He doesn't need to like the same things I do, but he must respect my space and allow room for me to do the things I like)
      
      5. Respectful and Loyal - Sorry on this one, but I am a LEO. I like to get all of my man's attention. If his eyes are running at the sight of another passing miniskirt, I get turned off.

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         uczenposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Pretty a lot of requirements...
         
         I`m just kidding:)
         
         I like your points the most.   
         
         Anyway, you always get in life what you believe in.
         
         All the best and... take care.

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      your cybersisterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      My top five things would be:
      
      1. He needs to have a good personality - a terrific sense of humor and     
           the ability to laugh at himself is a must.
      
      2.  He needs to love life and look forward to all the things it has to offer -
           ideally he'll want to share those things with me.
      
      3.  He needs to be reasonably intelligent - I want someone I can actually
            engage in meaningful conversations.
      
      4.  He needs to have a genuine smile - one that reaches his eyes.
      
      5.  He needs to have great eyes, as eyes are the mirror of the soul.  I
            need to be able to read his emotions in his eyes and know that he is
           "there", not just a shell of a person.

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         your cybersisterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Sorry, I was trying to reply to schoolgirlforreal and lined up wrong.  I did like your top five though...

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      Emmyboyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      As for me,
      
      if
      
      1. high brainpower/ high level of intelligence checked.
      
      2. very warm sense of humor checked.
      
      3. Adventurous and open minded or freethinking checked.
      
      4.Not Clingy, not overtly, jealous and/or possessive and very understanding, checked.
      
      5. Sexy & highly creative in bed and finance, very imaginative and ability to reason logically checked.
      
      Next, Marriage till death do us part!

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         I can do 1,2,3, and 5 LOL But I get jealous for sure

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            Emmyboyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            if you can do No.5 perfectly well, then we can actually neglect the jealous part especially if you are getting jealous for the real reasons and not out of suspicions or external suggestions. But I am afraid, I can't compromise on No.2 and No.1 and most especially No.3. So are you ready?

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   cydroposted 11 years ago

   1.  Looks- shallow I know, but c'mon...that's the first thing you judge a person on.
   
   2.  Fun personality- Can she make me laugh?  If not, can she have a good time?
   
   3.  Trustworthy-  All women look at other guys and whatnot.  I'll be completely fair unless there's hard evidence she's not being honest with me.  Certain things just will cause me to want her out the door immediately.
   
   4.  Can be decisive- I can be decisive myself, but I don't want to have to be decisive all of the time.  Common problem with shy girls haha.
   
   5.  Active-  Wants to try new things.  Wants to go out.  Likes to socialize with a group and with my friends.  Someone who will do just about anything with you (don't take that the wrong way)
   
   Luckily, I have found a girl that is all of these things...ok maybe not all that decisive (it's cute though).  And our 1 year anniversary is today!

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      Lisa HWposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      In fairness to "shy girls", I think you misunderstand the many different types of shyness a person can have.   There is such a thing as strong, decisive, and even confident person who has some shyness of one sort or another.  There are also a lot of people who have some types of shyness but nobody would really guess it in most circumstances.  I know that's not what this thread is about; but as a person who has always had a little "peripheral" shyness (and doesn't have a lot of patience for the indecisiveness of a lot of other people, I needed to clear that up.     )
      
      As for what I'd look for in someone:  Kindness and respect for other people and animals.  (The person I married won me over when I saw he was someone who "brakes for toads".)  The person would have to be (old fashioned as this is going seem) a gentleman too.  Loud-mouthed, macho, goons are for someone else, as far as I'm concerned.  So is being over-confident.

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         I totally get the shy part you explained

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      klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Congratulations!

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         Lisa HWposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         If that "congratulations" was for me...    No, congratulations.  After I married someone who met all those "lofty" qualifications?   Divorced!!        Now I'm kind of wondering if loud-mouthed goons and no strings attached may not be the way to go.   

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years ago

   1. Similar spiritual views
   2. Active and outdoorsy (minimally, she must love going for walks or bike rides)
   3. Forgiving nature but not a doormat
   4. Takes intimacy seriously/emotionally (not completely flesh obsessed)
   5. If she can sit with me and watch Doctor Who for eight hrs straight, then the first four are negotiable.

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   foreignpressposted 11 years ago

   The most important thing is time. But you wanted five things so it would be time X 5. By this I mean that making a hasty decision could destroy your life. So get to know the other person well. Start out as friends and maybe group date at first. Over two years or more you'll have the answers to most questions. This is especially important for young people as their personalities, emotions, and world view change -- and often. And don't forget about life-altering mishaps. She might enjoy long hikes and bicycling, but what if she suddenly becomes permanently disabled? However "love" is defined, it can be sorely tested at times.

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      klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      ...or what if she suddenly develops a Scifi phobia and can't continue watching Dr. Who?

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         Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Huh? I suppose you directed that at me?
         Well, if she gets sick of Doctor Who, then I hope I didn't take a bath on the other four.
         I mean, there are like 27 seasons to get through.
         Of course, if that runs its course, there's always Twin Peaks.

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            klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            LOL
            
            2 7  S E A S O N S !!!
            
            Sounds like All My Children soap opera! Geeeeeez!!!
            
            Tell me more about the bath and the twin peaks. LOL

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               Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

               The bath is just a metaphor. You know like when you take a bath on an investment.
               
               Twin Peaks was a serial drama created by David Lynch and Mark Frost and was on for about three seasons. It dealt with the paranormal, spirit possession, dream prophecy and interdimensional reality. It started with the FBI arriving in a small logging town in Northern Washington to investigate the murder of a high school girl and then went totally bizarre after about two episodes.
               In other words, one of my all time faves.
               
               And as for Doctor Who, if you like the first episode, you'll love the next couple hundred.

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                  klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                  I used to watch it.

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                     Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                     You used to watch Twin Peaks? So why'd you ask about it? I figured you mustve since we're bout the same age and we both take an interest in that sort of thing. Or was that like a popquiz?
                     btw, if u check out DrWho, go for the episodes from the 60's and early 70's first. The writing is so much better.

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                        klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                        @ Jonathan,  When you were watching Twin Peaks in 1990 I was just getting off the airplane and was too busy trying to learn English and trying to fit in high school.
                        What I meant to say was that I started watching Dr. Who as an adult and I liked it. I had to give it up so that I could have more time to read and write. I've struggled with the language barrier since I moved here at the age of 15 in 1990. I've lived here longer than I lived in Cuba, and I know both languages halfway. It's weird not having a dominant language, but I try. I read a lot (in English and Spanish) and most English-speaking people think I was born in the US because I don't have an accent (most of the time). I've been told that I have an unusual way of modulating my voice that makes a Cuban scratch his head and wonder if I'm Cuban at all. Maybe because I'm not the loud, total flirt (hard to chew that one, but yes!)stereotype of a Cuban woman? I don't know.
                        Either way, I was joking with you on the bath... I was trying to spark the conversation (twin peaks? bath?) but it went right above your head! I was just messing with you.
                        
                        @Lisa, The congratulations were for cydro, although I did compliment you on your 99 hubscore.

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                           Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                           Jeez, Klara, I never wouldve guessed. You certainly write in English very well. And your hubs are impressive, but especially now. And yeah that went right over my head. Innocent boys like don't catch that kind of innuendo;-)

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                              klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                              It's not your fault. I need to get my mind checked!

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                                 Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                                 I may have a real live job interview this week.yayyyy

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                                    klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                                    That's good news!

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                                       Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                                       Tomorrow afternoon as it turns out. Being interviewed by a woman, too. Should give me an advantage, right?

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                                          klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                                          Wear that disarming smile. You should be fine!

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      Lisa HWposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Oopsie.  I didn't notice the "5-Things thing".      Guess I was reading too carelessly.      Moral to the story:  Don't come to the forums because you're trying to get your mind off something that's worrying you.   

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         klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Lisa, nothing can make you worried when you have a 99 hubscore!

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   logic,commonsenseposted 11 years ago

   Cash
   Twin Peaks
   Cash
   Sexy
   Funny

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      klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, you surely are a meat and potatoes kind of guy!

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         logic,commonsenseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         It was just tongue in..........ah..........cheek!

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            klarawieckposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years ago

   wow I was just guessing that Doctor Who was on for 27 years. Just looked it up on wiki, turns out I got it smack on the nose.

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   pajamazzonposted 11 years ago

   1. A gentleman
   
   2. who has a good laugh
   
   3. Who has a nice smile
   
   4. Who has a good job
   
   5. Family oriented guy

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 11 years ago

   Nice answers, stuff to think about

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   My neck is redposted 11 years ago

   Looks, looks, and looks. how can you look past whether or not someone is attractive.
   
   -my opinion-

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    4tuneposted 11 years ago

    #1. ) Available - meaning NOT married already, running around on someone, into drugs, and or alcohol and is emotionally available. (Good Luck finding this guy.)
    
    #2.) Passionate and Just, has great morals and values.
    
    #3.) Forgiving ( Has to be this because I'm a total basket case sometimes just for the fact I am woman. )
    
    #4.) Gentle and non-abusive in nature, Has strong protective instincts.
    
    #5.)Really really LIKES me as a person and is great friend.

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    ocbillposted 11 years ago

    similar beliefs
    
    financially responsible
    
    A friend with similar lifestyles
    
    positive and happy personality
    
    fair, loving & understanding

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    kmackey32posted 11 years ago

    great sex...

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