I primarily date from online because I'm just not into bars or clubs and me walking up to a woman at the gym or grocery store seems a bit creepy. from my experience I like to meet after the first few texts or calls and usually within the first two weeks. Mainly so that there is not a huge build up of expectations. Since there is no build up, then the pressure is off and we can (presumably) just be ourselves and fun on the date.
Meet right away, for coffee or a drink in a safe public place - particularly if you know you're an romantic, optimistic kind of person.
If you spend time emailing or chatting to the other person, it just gives you time to romanticise them and get your hopes up. Until you meet them in person you can't make an accurate decision so why put it off?
again...it seems to waste time on these sites..even the christian ones only want sex. It seems.....and if you put on your profile you are a Christian woman who seeks friendship first, you get NO responses.
I met my husband online...LOL He wasn't the slightest bit creepy. We got married four months later. Our third anniversary will be in August. We met in person six days after we made our initial contact and haven't been apart since.
You could meet a killer that lives next door...lol But, I totally get where you're coming from. I think you just need to be very careful no matter where/how you meet someone. I was blessed. Not only was he everything I hoped for, but it was all genuine.
LMAO - We haven't had a penny since we've been together! We've had lots of life experience though. Lots of tears, lots of laughs, lots of smiles...but no money...haha! And, no insurance to speak of. He'd be screwed if he killed me. Not rich, just lonely.
Speaking from experience, you really have to feel like you know the person and trust in that. Move from emails, chats or IM's to talking on the phone. If, when you have heard your prospective partner's voice, you still feel good about it, arrange a meeting in a public place and go from there. The fact is, it's right and okay to meet someone only after you get that good vibe from it. With the internet, it's just to dangerous to go meeting anyone based on a few written lines...
I met my man on a dating site, we talked all day on the internet, then arranged to meet the next day, he phoned me in the morning so we had a verbal chat, met fell in love and have been together now for 18months. We have just got engaged and are going to get married next year. I never believed this could happen. I would definitely say meet straight away, you can love someones mind but you need that xfactor spark, and its a huge disappointment if you meet someone you have been talking to for ages only to find that you physically find them unattractive.
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I think it's just case by case. If you are using a reputable dating site, then it's just a matter of assessing each person as they come along. Because I'm a guy, I understand that there is a greater risk to the woman that I am corresponding with. So pursuing the matter, in the first instance, by email (often an internal date site system) is a safe option and shows a measure of respect. You can also pose and answer a multitude of questions (and let's face it, there are many) before any kind of face to face.
I met my wife through a dating site that I had been using on and off for about two years. It was not an easy process but I never regretted a date nor any correspondence I had with anyone. In the final instance, my (future) wife and I sent half a dozen emails to each other and then met in a very public place on a Sunday. From there it was a matter of slowly getting to know each other and then, falling in love. This is not a fairytale, it's hard work, but it can work out for you.
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