Can they still be good friends after divorce

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   Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years ago

   Is it not possible for a husband and wife to stay as friends after divorce? What would be your say in this?

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      paradigmsearchposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      My guess is that more do than don't. The media only covers those that don't.

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         Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         The media is the real problem all the time. They project all that is bad and mean, nobody wants to show the positive side of anything.. Thanks for the reply..

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      Sally's Troveposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      My ex and I have been divorced for 16 years. Only now do we have a kind of friendship, via facebook. I admire those who can remain friends after divorce; that was not my experience.

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         Zabbellaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Ditto...we have had some rough years after the  ugly  divorce.  But now with grown kids and grandkids we connect via facebook , like old friends each with loving relationships of our own. Plus it helps that I'm on the East Coast and he is on the West Coast 

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   My mother and father divorced when I was 7 years old, but that always remained friends, up to the point he died.

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Cagsil.. Your parents have shown the true spirit of their relationship! You should be real proud!

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   saddlerider1posted 12 years ago

   I believe it's critical that they do if there are children from the marriage. I tried to stay friends with my ex but instead she decided since I divorced her she would ensure she divorced my children from their father and she succeeded. Are we friends today? Nada

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sad to know this, but are you still friends or in touch with your children?

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         saddlerider1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Of the 4 children I only have contact with one who lives with me and stands by his daddy. The other 3 have chosen to be brain washed by their mother.

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            Sally's Troveposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I'm not so sure that was their choice, to be brainwashed.

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            Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            I totally agree. its finally their choice, if their mother brainwashed them don't they themselves have any say on it? How old are they anyways? Good to know at least one has a brain of his!

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   rus-leelaratneposted 12 years ago

   I guess depends on the personalities.  I know some people who are divorced, but still act as if they were married together.  Then there are others, who would not even have the name of their ex mentioned.  I would say the vast majority at least stay in speaking terms, specially when kids are involved.  It must be horrible for the kids though.

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks rus-leelaratne..yes its hard for children who get sandwiched in the whole process. But parents need to understand what a child wants. They want to divorce..fine, but why should a child be kept away from one of his parent. Does not apply to those cases where being with any of the parent could be really harmful in any nature, but what about the rest!

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   jcmayer777posted 12 years ago

   Absolutely possible.  I am very good friends with my ex-wife.

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks jcmayer777..its good to know that!

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   KCC Big Countryposted 12 years ago

   I and my first husband met when I was 14 and he was 16.  We married after I graduated from high school.  We were married 23 years.  After our divorce we have remained great friends.  I think we're better friends than we've ever been
   
   I think it largely depends on WHY a couple divorces and how much resentment or anger is there and how mature the couple is in getting past it.  We were two people who still care for each other, we just don't want to be married to each other.

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes KCC Big Country..that's what the point is all about! Even if you care for each other or know each other very well, yet you don't have to stay in the marriage just to prove it! You can still remain great friends and share things with each other. Love your point!

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   Jenna Popeposted 12 years ago

   I think that being friends would be close to an impossibility.

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      Fellow Mumbaiteposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I believe finally it depends on how worse the things went between both of them! If the battle of divorce went off ugly then maybe you could say it was impossible to be friends.

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