We need to slow down?

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   michememeposted 12 years ago

   Two people not looking for commitment or love meet. They begin spending a lot of time together, and in this time, they realize they are so much alike. They enjoy music, movies, and converse will with one another. When one of them tells the other "I love you." Afraid of love, and what it has done to other's in the past the person who received this, says nothing. However, through their action he/she displays that they love them too. After a few weeks of thinking about the love word, the receiver calls the one who gave the message and says, "I think we need to slow down, you are a great person, and I enjoy time with you but I am not looking for commitment, marriage or anything else; this doesn't mean we have to stop it just means, we have to slow down." What exactly is slow down? What would it mean to you?

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      Ramsa1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      "Slow down" means they're not really interested. The person who said "I love you" should stop wasting time and find someone else to love.

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         michememeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Good insight. What if the person who said they L word thinks this person is worth waiting for? Do you still feel the same way?

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

   slow down?....they are not on the same page...timing is everything...sometimes the time doesn't come around and sometimes it does...sounds like the caller is being honest - not looking for commitment, marriage etc....the caller is male?

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      michememeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Ha. The caller is actually a female.

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   SmartyPensposted 12 years ago

   "I am not looking for commitment or marriage." That to me means a person is a dead-end relationship wise and there is no need to waste time on them.

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      michememeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with your comment. What the person is doing is allowing past relationships to contain them. It took me a long time to realize that I too, had been a contained by hurt. I was bringing all my past realtionships into my new relationships.

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   michememeposted 12 years ago

   The caller is a female.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   It means, "I'm not where you are emotionally" or "I don't want an (exclusive relationship) at this point in my life." The person is simply trying not to set the other person up for disappointment. It's a (warning) of sorts.
   Too many times the listener ignores what they have heard and then they are shocked when they discover the person they have been seeing is also seeing someone else or later reveals they've fallen in love with another person.
   
   Personally I believe in order for someone to be "the one" they must also see you as being "the one". If the love is not mutual then it's not "real".

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      michememeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio you said a mouth full right there!!!!!

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   pharuk temmy tposted 12 years ago

   Slow down means they should both use their sense and mind to arrest such romantic situation rather than using their eyes and body because they are good friends and they might end up being enemies if they don't slow it down.

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      michememeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hmmmm.....I like that answer

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         pharuk temmy tposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hey michememe, thanks though I just feel that's the best answer to such situation...are you the one in question?

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