How can a woman find a nice guy?

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  1. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
    schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years ago

    I can't seem to find any...

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      JaxsonRaineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately, there aren't enough of us out there. Guys are under too much pressure to be manly, nice guys get trampled underfoot.

      I do agree with Someway though, sometimes it isn't until you stop looking that you will find what you are looking for.

      1. Shadesbreath profile image78
        Shadesbreathposted 12 years agoin reply to this

        It's so funny that you said that. I literally published a hub that came of that sort of thing, that emptiness. We've been doing it to women forever (some argue it's normal to do it to women), but men's magazines and movies have turned men into purely visual, visceral hunk things too.

        Women used to be seen as the keepers of the hearth, the "angel in the house," the canaries in our moral coal mine. But the last century and a half saw that idea ferreted out, lamented, spat upon, aggressively attacked, lobbied against, protested against, marketed against, and, victoriously convinced modern women that the "gentle sex" was a vicious lie perpetrated by vile controlling men and that women are nothing more than the exact same base, lust-filled, craven sex-fiends that the male of the species repeatedly proves himself to be.

        Now that both genders are reduced every day in the media to empty vessels of humping, we've got nobody championing nice guys (or nice girls who appreciate them). Time to put down the books and start working on your abs. Nobody is going to read what you have to say beyond the 140 characters of your Twitter post anyway.


        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image76
          schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

          Nice response Shadesbreath. I admire your point of view smile

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      Onusonusposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Go to a Church.

  2. SomewayOuttaHere profile image59
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 12 years ago

    well sgfr....i think the trick is not to look..what's that saying?

    "Happiness is like a butterfly.
    The more you chase it, the more it eludes you.
    But if you turn your attention to other things,
    It comes and sits softly on your shoulder."
    Henry David Thoreau

    patience, grass hoppa!'ll happen one day for you!

  3. Shadesbreath profile image78
    Shadesbreathposted 12 years ago

    Well there's some kind of balance between the idea that you never find someone while you are looking and the idea that sometimes you have to lower your standards if it's been long enough that a Sir Galahad complex has soured your sensibilities to mortal men.

    Don't know where you are on that spectrum.  Hope you work through it though.

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    logic,commonsenseposted 12 years ago

    Girls really want bad boys and then they think they can make them nice when it suits them, but still be bad enough to want them.  It is nature's way of trying to make sure the strong survive.  The meek may inherit the earth, but they sure as hell won't know how to keep it. smile

  5. karthikkash profile image83
    karthikkashposted 12 years ago

    I would say, stop chasing the bad boys and you will automatically find the good guys smile Remember one thing, a dog's tail can never be straightened.

  6. davidkaluge profile image54
    davidkalugeposted 12 years ago

    I think it is a matter of luck except when we have known and studied the guy before starting the relationship. But it happens on both sides. Guys want nice girls/ladies while the ladies want same, just as I am searching for one that will understand me and my stand on global issues esp. religious tolerance. It is possible to find a nice guy and we have to understand that our actions can make people nice or bad. That is we have to be good to get something good.

  7. Jonathan Janco profile image60
    Jonathan Jancoposted 12 years ago

    Unfortunately, you're not likely to find a nice guy because they're all at home ready to give up finding nice women. Sad to say, most people where I live are not nice because they are far too self-absorbed to comprehend words like empathy or forgiveness or gratitude. I work with the general public and I've found that treating people the way they treat me is a great way to get people to treat me with the kind of respect I feel I deserve.

    So, start doing a little bullying and see where it gets you.


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