i hate being jealous and insecure. it is nasty. i am not normally someone who is competitive over boys nor do i usually care for another woman's beauty. i have had a history of dating boyfriends who have pick apart my appearance and would quickly state how they can easily score a Megan Fox or a Beyonce. My question is are there extremely beautiful women willing to sleep with absolutely any man? My past boyfriends were never the best-looking looking but they made it their mission to prove to me harems of incredibly sexy women would throw themselves at them and they were somehow better than me because i was a woman. I could never score a man better than them. I currently came in contact with my ex-boyfriend again and all my insecurities have came back.
If you are that insecure you're better off being alone until you learn to value yourself. Stay away from unhealthy relationships. Sounds like the men you've met are full of excrement. You don't need that!
Good one Klara... Lovelylovergirl (not nosey, just curious) How old are you?
You can't find love if you don't love yourself.. Sure we all have insecurities. It's part of life and everyone has them. It's ok to have them, cuz it helps you to improve.
ALSO!!! I would suggest that you date someone who likes you for you and not who they want you to be. Because, once you head down that road where you twist and bend to everything they want you to be, you lose yourself. You lose you. You lose happiness and they will still never be happy with you.
Yeah, why hang with losers like that?
They are really insecure if they need to prove any of that.
Tell em' "See ya, wouldn't want to be ya!"
Here's my view on it... If he really could be with these "beautiful" women and that's what he values, why is he "settling"?
My ex was very short and thin. He spent 13 years calling me an amazon and a behemoth... until i finally looked at him and said "It's not my fault you are short" If he thinks you are unworthy of him then by all means set the poor shackled man free to find his harem. He's not going to be happy until he finds a woman that he feels is worthy of him... and you aren't going to be happy as long as he is resentful of you for not living up to his dreams.
In my case, me and my 5'10" ass moved on to a man that was 2 inches taller than me and his 5'3 inch ass moved on to a woman that was 4'11. And I am as happy with my giant of a 3 year old daughter as they will be with their brood of hobbits.
And, just for the record, it doesn't matter if beautiful women are throwing themselves naked at his feet. THEY are not the problem. There are two people in your relationship. You and him. The responsibility for any problems in that relationship falls on one or (most likely) both of you alone.
Beauty begins on the inside. I would never sleep with just any man. I am secure with myself inside and out. But any guy who looks at you from the outside is truly not looking at all of you as a woman.
He has insecurities you do not. Kicking him to the curb and find a man who will appreciate you for all that you are and all that you can be. Any man that tries to make you feel less to make himself feel better, is not worth your time.
It seems to me that the men you have dated felt intimated by you and insecure in that they make you feel less beautiful in order to control you. You can't be that ugly or they wouldn't be insecure enough to make you feel crappy. I say to hell with men like that. Start seeing yourself as the beautiful person you are and appreciate you for you, the way God made you.
If you feel insecure being around a certain guy, it may be pointless being around him then. Especially if he's the type of guy would constantly remind you how much better he could do. A guy who tells you this is essentially telling you he will not commit and if he does he wont be faithful. It's really nothing for YOU to be insecure about, it's his insecurities. Next time a guy pulls this crap, tell him that you hope someday to date a guy who isnt so shallow and insensitive and see how he feels about that.
There are a lot of women who aren't particularly selective about who they'd have that kind of relationship with, and being "easy" can make some pretty unappealing/unattractive women look pretty darned attractive to some men.
In any case, if you have a boyfriends who picks apart your appearance tell him to go find one of those "beauties" (even if the only beauty involved in the deal would be the "beauty" of being with someone who is "easy").
You used the word "boys", which suggests you're young. I'm guessing there's a good chance you're just insecure because you're young and likely to be dealing with some very immature people. The RIGHT kind of guy will want you to know he feels lucky to be with you. THEN, if he's the right kind of guy you can feel happy to be with him because of that - not because he tells you you ought to feel lucky. Dump any moron who is less than that "right kind of guy".
Seriously, why would you ever date someone who constantly stomped on your self esteem to elevate their own? Many men believe they're a gift from the gods, but more of them are really desperately insecure inside and have to say things like that to maintain what they think is the masculine veneer society expects of them. Women who are that insecure act the same way. Wait until you meet someone who treats you right, and in the meantime don't even bother. The boys you've described are just that, and may never be mature enough to be called "men". Soon you'll realise how strong you can be on your own and that you don't need any man's attention to validate yourself.
It sounds like you were taught that you are SUPPOSED to find someone in order to be complete. As many of us were. This is LIE.
If you were my daughter,... I'd say, Don't waste your time on a man who can't trust their own decisions. Who keep finding themselves in situations that they regret. Many people who feel insecure attempt to put others down thinking themselves elevated by doing so.
A man who feels secure in and of himself, if he is searching at all (?), will be looking for a woman who is like minded.
If you are secure in yourself and become joined with an insecure man, the product will be insecurity. or 1 plus 1 equals minus 0
Two people who are equally secure with themselves AND Compatible; when joined together Well, (???) A thing is greater than the sum of its parts .
I sometimes forget to ask myself; Is my intellect making my choices or is it my emotions.
I think the right answer lies "right smack dab in the middle".
Who needs men?! They suck. If they're dragging you down and claiming they can get a Megan Fox on their own, let them go see if they can find one! You don't need a guy to lead a complete, happy and productive life. It's too much drama anyway.
I've been with Megan (or Meggy, as I call her during coitus)....
No big deal
Poor girl... I can only imagine the sheer horror...
..In her honor, I sang to her an altered version of the Transformers theme song during our rendezvous..
"Transformers, here's some meat between your thighs,
Transformers, how do you like my maid's costume disguise"
Ah Meggy.. I think of you sometimes
Oh God... I can never un-see what just popped into my mind.
buy you CAN see more.. just visit my blog...
www.MyTimeWithMeggy.com
($5 monthly membership... but you get a tshirt with that)
Hmmmm.... the t-shirt IS enticing... can I get one of your nude calendars that I've heard so much about thrown in?
ok.. but I can't give you November.. that is a collectors piece, and it wouldnt be fair to the others
That's my birthday month! If I can't have November, I don't want the rest of it.
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