Buy a house first or Married first?

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  1. sanwij78 profile image39
    sanwij78posted 6 years ago

    It's become a big question for couples who want a new house and get married but they have unless money to do those two things together... It's means : choosing one of them, get a new house and pending marriage or get married first, stay with a parents and then after get money enough, buy a new house?????

    1. luckykarma profile image60
      luckykarmaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I think everyone is different in as much as everyone has different needs to be met. I marry a lot of people who have been living together in their OWN home for years then decide to marry when they can afford it, a roof over your head these days is more important than getting married. It depends on your own personal desires.

      1. sanwij78 profile image39
        sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

        nice opinion, and it's really depend on couples desire... smile

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    idratherbeposted 6 years ago

    Both are probably the biggest decisions you will make in your life. I suggest getting married first.

    1. sanwij78 profile image39
      sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      It's a good thinking and actually I'm agreed with you smile

  3. Jonathan Janco profile image66
    Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years ago

    I'm hoping to marry a woman who is thrilled about traveling the world in humble fashion and visiting different places of historical interest as much as I am. Maybe we'll buy a house when it's time to retire from questing. So, marriage first.

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      klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I'll marry you, Jonathan!

      roll oh . . . wait. . . I'm already married. . . dang it!

      1. Jonathan Janco profile image66
        Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Do you have any idea how many women say that to me?! My spirit guides keep sending me married women to test my character, ya know.
        hmm

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          klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

          how are you scoring in these tests?

          1. Jonathan Janco profile image66
            Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            I'm not scoring at all. Didn't I tell you, they're all married!
            Five years and counting.

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              klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

              Travel Jonathan! You need to change airs!

              1. Jonathan Janco profile image66
                Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                I thought about polygamy for a bit, so maybe I should head out west. But getting one woman to take up the pilgrim/prophet/experimentor lifestyle is hard enough, let alone 4 or 8 or 12. So, it should likely serve me to stick with monogamy, especially since I have such extraordinarily high standards, not in women necessarily but in intimacy. Its hard to explain. Its like the non-physical essences of ourselves (spirit/soul whathaveya) need to be able to fasten together in some way or its really not worth it. Is that picky?

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                  klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  Aw Jonathan! You're a hopeless romantic. I LOVE YOU, MAN!
                  big_smile

  4. Lisa HW profile image67
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    We got married first and bought the house a few months later.  What I thought was nice about that was selecting the house together, rather than one of us having a house and the other living in a house s/he wasn't involved in choosing.

  5. SomewayOuttaHere profile image58
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 6 years ago

    my first thought - i don't think i'd get married and move in with the inlaws or parents...could be a disaster...

    i realize you want to save money for a house...however, just go easy on the marriage expense - live on your own ....you could have extra cash if you choose to buy a house after getting married.

    1. sanwij78 profile image39
      sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Yup!

  6. farru profile image38
    farruposted 6 years ago

    Please toss. Head for marriage and tail for house.

    1. sanwij78 profile image39
      sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      ok! Toss for you, Farru.... smile

      1. farru profile image38
        farruposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        LOL

  7. Emma Harvey profile image91
    Emma Harveyposted 6 years ago

    You really get to know each other when you live together. Although it's not very traditional, it's practical to shack up first. Maybe rent to start with. My partner and I did that, then we bought a house and are getting married this year. It's less of a shock to the system wink

    1. sanwij78 profile image39
      sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Several couples do that..., of course it's all depend on decided two people together. If they want to rent for a while then bought a house and after all that get married, and... some people do that they wanna married first after that bought a new house. Those decisions are good for each. smile

  8. Greek One profile image72
    Greek Oneposted 6 years ago

    Marry a person with a house

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      klarawieckposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Divorce the person, keep the house!

      1. Greek One profile image72
        Greek Oneposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        exactly

      2. farru profile image38
        farruposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        Great answer..! hahaha

  9. Trish_M profile image83
    Trish_Mposted 6 years ago

    Hi smile

    We bought out house shortly before getting married.
    We worked on the house, while planning the wedding, and moved in straight after we got married.

    My parents did the same thing.

    1. sanwij78 profile image39
      sanwij78posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      smile How blessing you are..... Actually, it will be enjoy if couples do anything together and one vision, is that right?

  10. amithak50 profile image61
    amithak50posted 6 years ago

    I suggest getting house first as you will have lots of responsibilities after mariage

  11. incomeguru profile image96
    incomeguruposted 6 years ago

    Get married first, and other beautiful things will follow. From my own experience when i got married, few months after i got a good paying job.

 
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