Buy a house first or Married first?

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   sanwij78posted 13 years ago

   It's become a big question for couples who want a new house and get married but they have unless money to do those two things together... It's means : choosing one of them, get a new house and pending marriage or get married first, stay with a parents and then after get money enough, buy a new house?????

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      luckykarmaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think everyone is different in as much as everyone has different needs to be met. I marry a lot of people who have been living together in their OWN home for years then decide to marry when they can afford it, a roof over your head these days is more important than getting married. It depends on your own personal desires.

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         sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         nice opinion, and it's really depend on couples desire...

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   idratherbeposted 13 years ago

   Both are probably the biggest decisions you will make in your life. I suggest getting married first.

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      sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It's a good thinking and actually I'm agreed with you

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   Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years ago

   I'm hoping to marry a woman who is thrilled about traveling the world in humble fashion and visiting different places of historical interest as much as I am. Maybe we'll buy a house when it's time to retire from questing. So, marriage first.

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      klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I'll marry you, Jonathan!
      
      oh . . . wait. . . I'm already married. . . dang it!

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         Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Do you have any idea how many women say that to me?! My spirit guides keep sending me married women to test my character, ya know.
         

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            klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            how are you scoring in these tests?

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               Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I'm not scoring at all. Didn't I tell you, they're all married!
               Five years and counting.

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                  klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Travel Jonathan! You need to change airs!

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                     Jonathan Jancoposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                     I thought about polygamy for a bit, so maybe I should head out west. But getting one woman to take up the pilgrim/prophet/experimentor lifestyle is hard enough, let alone 4 or 8 or 12. So, it should likely serve me to stick with monogamy, especially since I have such extraordinarily high standards, not in women necessarily but in intimacy. Its hard to explain. Its like the non-physical essences of ourselves (spirit/soul whathaveya) need to be able to fasten together in some way or its really not worth it. Is that picky?

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                        klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                        Aw Jonathan! You're a hopeless romantic. I LOVE YOU, MAN!
                        

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   Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

   We got married first and bought the house a few months later.  What I thought was nice about that was selecting the house together, rather than one of us having a house and the other living in a house s/he wasn't involved in choosing.

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   SomewayOuttaHereposted 13 years ago

   my first thought - i don't think i'd get married and move in with the inlaws or parents...could be a disaster...
   
   i realize you want to save money for a house...however, just go easy on the marriage expense - live on your own ....you could have extra cash if you choose to buy a house after getting married.

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      sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yup!

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   farruposted 13 years ago

   Please toss. Head for marriage and tail for house.

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      sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      ok! Toss for you, Farru....

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         farruposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         LOL

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   Emma Harveyposted 13 years ago

   You really get to know each other when you live together. Although it's not very traditional, it's practical to shack up first. Maybe rent to start with. My partner and I did that, then we bought a house and are getting married this year. It's less of a shock to the system

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      sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Several couples do that..., of course it's all depend on decided two people together. If they want to rent for a while then bought a house and after all that get married, and... some people do that they wanna married first after that bought a new house. Those decisions are good for each.

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   Marry a person with a house

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      klarawieckposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Divorce the person, keep the house!

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         Greek Oneposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         exactly

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         farruposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Great answer..! hahaha

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   Trish_Mposted 13 years ago

   Hi
   
   We bought out house shortly before getting married.
   We worked on the house, while planning the wedding, and moved in straight after we got married.
   
   My parents did the same thing.

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      sanwij78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      How blessing you are..... Actually, it will be enjoy if couples do anything together and one vision, is that right?

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    amithak50posted 13 years ago

    I suggest getting house first as you will have lots of responsibilities after mariage

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    incomeguruposted 13 years ago

    Get married first, and other beautiful things will follow. From my own experience when i got married, few months after i got a good paying job.

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