I just heard that Rihanna is getting back together with Chris Brown and I can't believe it. Can someone please shed some light on this?
See, your name is passthejelly. That means you're down to earth. Rihanna is not.
I have never believed women seek out or are in love with abusive men. They fall in love with certain characteristics of an abusive man, then he ends up being abusive. How could a woman love abuse? Most never get out and tragedy is the only end result.
I agree. I just think that the abuse part is enough to make anyone reconsider loving someone. I can't think of quality that would rule out the abuse part.
It is, without a doubt, a mistake to make any assertions as to the complexities and intricacies of love, but one thing is for sure, abuse, at any level, is a travesty of cultural ignorance for all time. We talk of the high profile cases, but gut or woefully fund our social programs that help the abused, and at the very least have little open discussion, and perhaps, trivialize the punishment of abusers, while claiming to care for someone's life we do nothing to truly understand or help with...
Do you know the full story? I dont. Maybe Rihanna is abusive and she lost a fight that she started.
Girls like testosterone. Testosterone can make men abusive. Maybe that explains it a bit.
I shed light on this in my hub four levels of love --- often the lady see's something very masculine and goes after it... believing they will change what they don't like in that person as they see "potential"
Look for a Partner - not a project.... and remember one may be a project to someone and a yet a valuable partner to someone else. We all have different needs - we all are able to love at different levels....
My 3 cents! LOL
I'll pay you 4 cents cause you rock and that was a cool post, thank you
YOu can't generalize... it's only certain women (usually that grew up in abusive homes) that don't know how to stay away from abusive relationships.
These characters are the sweetest angels during courtship but turn into monsters the day you say " I do".
It's not that they chose to love them because they were abusive.Remember, we cannot choose who we love.It's just that they become vulnerable even if their love is abusive.
Perhaps the woman only had bad male role models and sees the same trait(s) in the guy, gravitating towards this nonsense because it's simply all she's known as normal. I have a hard time believing this one too but this is one of the reasons some women gravitate towards these guys. If any guy dare tries this even once with me, he will never again. Many guys put on an act until they get the girl alone and when something is bothering them they literally strike. It's also possible the woman will settle for anything to not be alone and abuse happens to be her anything. Some fear being homeless, hurt, or killed if they leave. The reality is that these are real possibilities for many if they leave. As for Rihanna, she is not very smart at all for going back to the likes of Chris Brown. I am sorry to say he was spawned here in Virginia.
Are we really trying to act like this is a real question? I think if it had an answer we'd know. Better time would be spent on a thread helping abused women.
Rihanna is into b&d (bondage and discipline)
Chris is also into this ... sadly he is also violent which is not the same.
Sadly Rihanna has found a violent partner instead of a loving B&D partner.
Like many physially abused people it can take many times of leaving an abusive partner before the abused person is strong enough to not go back
i think in some cases it is because they think they can 'fix' them. They think that this 'last time' when he said 'I am so sorry' that he really meant he would not be abusive any more, physicall or emtionally.
When I was in a postion where I counseled parents, I had a young mother come in who had been badly beaten. SHe went on and on about how he said he was sorry and he would not do it again. She said she thought she could help him to get better.
So she stayed. Two weeks later I happened to run into her. She was beaten even worse that time. I told her that I would not come to her funeral. She must make a stand. Truthfully I know my words meant nothing to her as she was under his spell. I never saw her again.
Others I have talked to have told me that they wanted to make 'him' better.The man who was inflicting all of this pain and sorrow was in need of help and care. Most of those women told me they felt someway that they were responsible for their significant other's behavior.
These celebrities stuff can do anything for the popularity ..so,better not to discuss about them as they only need this and they catch the Audiences to discuss about them ..We don't need to
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