Why are people unfaithful in marriage when you know the end result could be a di

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  1. COCOBEWARE profile image61
    COCOBEWAREposted 14 years ago

    Why are people unfaithful in marriage when you know the end result could be a disaster?

  2. robertsloan2 profile image76
    robertsloan2posted 14 years ago

    #27 of 100 -- Onward!   One of the biggest reasons for infidelity in American marriages is a stereotype that men are unfaithful and women are upset about it. Truth is, men get just as upset about it and women are as likely to do it, but married... read more

  3. yes2truth profile image59
    yes2truthposted 14 years ago

    Because the Devil makes it look alluring and enticing - sometimes irresistible. As a friend of mine used to say: The temptation of adultery is like chocolate covered cyanide.



  4. Tamarii2 profile image54
    Tamarii2posted 14 years ago


  5. COCOBEWARE profile image61
    COCOBEWAREposted 14 years ago

    Tamarii, I feel what you are saying! I see some good looking ones too but I keep it moving! The longer you let in linger the worse it gets.

    yes2truth, the devil is the master of illusion. I agree with you but the sad part is you never get to see the end result going into your mess. Everything "looks" all good. The enemy is your friend getting you into your mess then he leaves you hanging in hopes that he will destroy something!

  6. stendek profile image57
    stendekposted 14 years ago

    Why did Adam partake of the forbidden fruit? God may have erred when it came to the sex drive. Humans simply CANNOT control it! Rebellion actually goes back to the jealousy Cain felt for his brother. Was Eve sexually active with Lucifer (most physically beautiful of all angels)? Sure would explain a lot of things. Just food for thought. Peace.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago


  8. LPinky profile image67
    LPinkyposted 14 years ago

    I believe people are unfaithful in marriage because they are selfish. They forget that they have made a commitment or should I rephrase that and say they don't care about commitment.  It's about their needs and nothing else matters.  I have been married for 16 years and there have been many times when I have been fed up.  Was the opportunity avaiable for me to be unfaithful of course it was. But I had to remind myself of the commitment I made to God first and my husband second. When we are unfaithful in our marriage we open the door for many other issues to follow.  When children are involved they too are affected.  So again why are people unfaithful in marriage when the end result could be a disaster?  It's because they are self-ish and only care about themselves.

  9. rb11 profile image69
    rb11posted 13 years ago

    We are a society of instant gratification and this mindset doesn't consider the repercussions of tomorrow. This is evident in the recent financial mess we have in the world.

  10. shirleybill profile image58
    shirleybillposted 13 years ago

    A marriage, should be a bond between a man and a woman. They should come together as one.

    So many people just take for granted that they can get married, run around, do anyhing they want, and then..if they don't like it, they can just simply get a divorce.

    That is the wrong way of thinking. Marriage and the union of marriage should be taken very seriously. This is a union that should be for a life time.

  11. skye2day profile image70
    skye2dayposted 13 years ago

    We are born sinners. Our hearts need to be changed. Christ is the way ,truth and life. The devil lives and lurkes to lead people to destruction. Look out the window it is happening everywhere. There is one that has all power that is God. The Devil is working hard he knows he is doomed to hell. He wants to take as many down as possible with him. He is  a liar and thief.

    Christ can cleanse us from all sin if we but ask him. Check out my hubs for more if you feel led to do so. He restores broken marriages and hearts. He is the great physcian. Answered with Love. Jesus Loves You. Jesus Loves sinners that is why he was sent to us, so we could be spared hell. Jesus wants us to have life and have it more abundantly. (Bible)

  12. selahangel profile image59
    selahangelposted 13 years ago

    There are many reasons for unfaithfulness in a marriage.  Self is at the center of all of them, of course, since lust and sexual desire satisfy the flesh.  As far as knowing it will end in disaster – I have to question whether or not that is even reasoned out by the person committing the adultery.  You can liken it to a person that plans out a murder and knows that they have covered all the bases, watched all the CSI shows and read all the Agatha Christi books to make sure they won’t get caught.  They convince themselves that they have committed ‘the perfect crime’. Adrenaline is released in the body and that just helps to heighten the experience and cloud judgment.  Someone who commits murder never thinks they are going to get caught.  They immediately start to rationalize their actions and pretty soon, they start believing the lies they are telling themselves.

    Yes, it is a ploy of the devil to whisper lies, after all he is the father of lies, but it is flesh that believes them.  By the time they realize there really could be consequences to their actions, the damage has already started to manifest.  Adultery is no different.  The actual chemical reaction in the body that lust produces can temporarily block any reasoning.  The result of all this combined is the act of the perfect deception.  The only problem is that they themselves usually end up being the only one deceived.  That is the reason Romans 8 was written in the bible.


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    Latinsistaposted 13 years ago

    That's what I call demonic spirits that feed from the weak. Lusting is a demonic spirit and if we ask God to bind the lust in Jesus name.  He will ablidge us.  But, we have to be strong and realize the consequences of our actions.  So the best way is to be anchored in the Lord and makes the Love for God our foundation, then the Holy Spirit will take over and gives the us conviction.

  14. laurel phillips profile image59
    laurel phillipsposted 13 years ago

    Unfaithfulness in relationship is a sign of very low self-esteem or self-worth; a lack of understanding regarding love. The way one person treats another is a direct reflection of the way he/she feels about his/herself.
    Not only is the unfaithful person harming others but, they are guaranteeing an outward re-enactment of their inner feelings about unworthiness; they get to feel what they believe to be true about themselves and others – that they and others are not worth much.
    These people draw into their lives others of like nature, others who have low self-esteem. The company they keep are looking for the same concretization of their inner most belief regarding self-worth. They essentially feed off each other hardening their beliefs.
    If you are being cheated on, or are cheating on someone, now is the time to ask why and search for subconscious beliefs regarding worth and lovability.

  15. Wealthmadehealthy profile image61
    Wealthmadehealthyposted 13 years ago

    Because they do not know any better.  If their marriage is so bad they have to do this, they should get divorced first, but the Bible plainly states the only reason for divorce is adultery...Yet if you get divorced and remarry, you are still committing adultery. This is what is Written.

    If is better to try and work things out.   If you are unable, you never should have gotten married in the first place...Sorry this is how I feel, not what God states.

  16. H P Roychoudhury profile image41
    H P Roychoudhuryposted 13 years ago

    People could not think of at the outset of the marriage that a time will come when he will be unfaithful in marriage. Why? It is because the person at the time of marriage was in the height of his emotion to get united to get the real pleasure of a family life. Strain and stress is the way of life either in scarcity or in luxury of life. It is the rationality of a human life that will guide the future course of life. That is why people go to teaching institute in schools and colleges to stimulate the sense organs of rationality. Unless the momentary emotion is control by the virtue of rational thinking in the midst of stress and strain of the life, the symptom of unfaithful character in marriage life is bound to appear which will bring an emotional disaster.

  17. sherard29621 profile image57
    sherard29621posted 13 years ago

    The Flesh is weak...but as long as you do what you are suppose to do, God will take care of the rest


  18. coughlan666 profile image59
    coughlan666posted 13 years ago

    Why do so many people constantly abuse themselves by getting drunk and Intoxicated when they know it isn't likely to end well?

    What is it that makes people drive their car very fast without a seatbelt?

    Why would someone choose to get into a ring with someone else who plans on punching you very hard?

    Why do people always want to do things that all common sense, the law & their own intuition tells them that they should not do?

    Answer: Because that is how we're all programmed. Marriage might change a persons surroundings, financial status and routine...but it can't change the emotions that a person feels.

    That's how i see it.
    All the best

  19. topgunjager profile image61
    topgunjagerposted 13 years ago

    I think maybe because it's human nature=)

  20. profile image53
    lauriermooreposted 13 years ago

    Because we all sin and fall short of the Glory of God. It is man's sinful nature and only the Lord can help us tame our flesh. You can not do it on your own. And satan is here to destroy us and to deceive us. But ultimately you have a choice. The devil can not make you do anything, but without the power of the Lord we are helpless and will fall for that dangling of the devil. Put your faith and trust in the Lord and practice His ways and you won't fall.

  21. mosfar2009 profile image67
    mosfar2009posted 13 years ago

    It's not always the case that one knows the consequences.Most of the time people are ignorant of the results and are fooled by the devil into believing that it is the only way out...It is only after the disaster has happened that one's eyes are opened.

  22. aoiffe379 profile image62
    aoiffe379posted 13 years ago

    Some people make a mistake. A friendship goes beyond its intended boundary; and before long, two persons are stuck in a mire of infidelity. Sometimes, the infidelity is intentional. Divorce is granted on the grounds of adultery; and the only route out because of rigid standards in a church or a family is blatant infidelity. Being married to a jealous , abusive person, someone with  illegal/legal drug habits  or  even a bisexual is a serious matter. Finding someone new and moving on is an answer some individuals do not regret.

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    Because they just don't care!!!  That is the reason why people will do hurtful things in any kind of relationship.  Sometimes we choose to stay in denial because the reality of whatever the situation is, is too real.

    Vonda G. Nelson

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    Joseph Tposted 13 years ago

    I agreed with the answer of aoiffe379; we are human beings who are weak and can make mistake at any time in our life, a friendship goes too far beyond its intended boundary...and they stuck in their network; However, I still believe with a clear mind, an understanding and respected though for their own mariage , as well as with a determined act they can escape unfaithful action what ever intentionally or unintentionally.
           We can not blame anyone when he/she made mistake since we are all sinners, only God who is not a sinner can judge one person by his/her act.
           Many people destroyed their beautiful mariage and family by their unintended sin...So be carefull when you touch your temptation..

  25. LeslieAdrienne profile image74
    LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years ago

    They are self-deceived....you can do something so long without a consequnce that you begin to believe there will never be a consequence.....then one day...P.O.W.!!!

  26. terced ojos profile image60
    terced ojosposted 13 years ago

    It is the most unnatural thing for one man to be with one woman.

    It is conversely the most unnatural thing for one woman to be with one man.

    In our basic natures sex with more than one partner is the norm.

    That being said. As a married Christian man. Husband to one wife and father to our four children.

    God has also put within us the ability to transcend our nature our flesh as it were.

    To attain a measure of divinity and power over this flesh through Jesus Christ.

    I didn't get married because I thought it was going to be some crazy sex party and my wife was going to fulfill my porn fantasies.

    I got married as a covenant with my wife before God for the express purpose of producing children and raising them in love; in the manner written on my heart by Jesus Christ.

    God has so deepened my love for my wife far beyond any filial or erotic love that one could imagine.

    Usually people who are unfaithful in marriage are thinking of themselves. Usually it is just self centerdness.

  27. Eileen Serapio profile image60
    Eileen Serapioposted 11 years ago

    because they're self-centered. they don't think about their partners and just think about how good it would feel to have two or (God forbid) more lovers at the same time. personally, i don't think these kind of people should have married at all. marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment and it entails faithfulness and loyalty to your spouse. nothing can justify cheating. not even inadequacies of one's own partner. because if there's anything wrong with the marriage, it is straightened up by talking about it and trying to work out differences instead of causing more problems. and what's with all the lame excuses when they're caught cheating anyways?


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