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Can a child of God & follower of Christ's teachings marry someone who is not sur

  1. ii3rittles profile image82
    ii3rittlesposted 6 years ago

    Can a child of God & follower of Christ's teachings marry someone who is not sure what they believe?

  2. daskittlez69 profile image75
    daskittlez69posted 6 years ago

    Of course, why wouldn't they be able too?

  3. mdlawyer profile image38
    mdlawyerposted 6 years ago

    It depends on the person's attitude.  I don't think Christ's teachings are against marrying someone who doesn't belong to your faith.

  4. izettl profile image96
    izettlposted 6 years ago

    I thought everyone was a child of God so that puts us all on equal footing. I wasn't sure what I believed in until about age 27. I grew up with a religious background, but needed to believe for myself in my own way and time.
    My husband is not sure what he believes and honestly after 6 yrs of marriage and 1 child later, it is somewhat of an issue for me. I wish we could share that aspect in our lives. So it is largely up to you how important it is- if it's ethical? well, you can marry pretty much whoever you want nowadays, but its a personal decision you have to make.

  5. Ynys Dyn profile image57
    Ynys Dynposted 6 years ago

    "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" - 2 Corinthians 6:14

    There is no moral code attached to such a thing, it is not a sin to choose a spouse who does not believe as you do. But Scripture makes it clear that that is a hard, hard road to go down. For one thing, without a common moral foundation, there is no way to guarantee that your marriage vows mean to the same thing to one another. If each of you doesn't hold Christ in higher regard than each other, then how can you guarantee faithfulness?

    God is a loving and compassionate God who is capable of softening any heart - but to take that sort of task on yourself and marry someone hoping that they will convert is asking for a lot of heartache. The marriage relationship is a partnership, a constant and mutual servitude, and the covenant itself as an expression of God's love for humans. To bind yourself to someone who doesn't understand that, or doesn't place the same value on it, is a very painful risk.

  6. Roy Perrin profile image60
    Roy Perrinposted 6 years ago

    Of course they CAN, but the bible does give specific "instructions" about the situation.  Not being unequally yoked is the big one that everyone knows, but many don't really understand what it means.  This one refers to the idea that if your beliefs are not in accord you will end up disagreeing about improtant things like raising children for example.  There are other places in the bible that talk about when you find that yourselfthe situation you have to come to some type of agreement about "respecting" each others beliefs.  In fact the Apostle Paul talked about the faith of one partner covering the sins of the other for salvation's sake.  I encourage you to look it up as what I've stated here can be taken WAY out of context.  In my personal observations, very few couples who do not have the same beliefs do not make it very long or have strained relationships.

  7. Jonesy0311 profile image60
    Jonesy0311posted 6 years ago

    My wife was raised in a Christian household and as far as I can tell she is still following her belief system. Though, more recently she has become a bit of a free thinker (probably because she is a biology major) and is questioning the validity of the Bible. It probably didn't help that she married an Atheist. But, religion has never been a point of tension for us. We have never argued about it. Honestly, it isn't an issue and is truly irrelevant.

  8. Dave Mathews profile image60
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    We are all children of God created in His image. Therefore it should not matter whether religious beliefs agree or not as long as both can live together in love and harmony,

  9. dahoglund profile image81
    dahoglundposted 6 years ago

    People do it all the time. My mother and father for instance.

  10. ii3rittles profile image82
    ii3rittlesposted 6 years ago

    For thoughs who answered "we are all children of God"... we are all not. We are all born of sin and there for we are sons and daughters of Adam. Threw Christ do we become children of God... At least that's what I have learned from the bible. Adam and Eve were son and daughter of God. They chose sin and there for, their children became cursed.

    As for why I asked this question... My fiance believes in God and Jesus yet, given the problems he dealt with his whole life... He don't really know how to feel about God. He is open to talk about my beliefs and is not judgmental about it. We very rarely argue about what I think or believe. I know in the bible it says God is not against two people of different beliefs being together... But it will no be an easy road. I can certainly see it becoming a problem when children enter the picture.

    Thank you for all your answers!

  11. thomasczech profile image65
    thomasczechposted 6 years ago

    The question I pose is this; does anyone really not know what they believe. My thought on this is that everyone believes something. So in this case, a person either does believe the word of God or not. If a Christian is in love with someone and the person says that they are not sure what they believe I would have to say that the individual does not believe in the word of God. Otherwise he/she would be able to say they do. Neither hot nor cold, then you are luke warm which means you are not  follower of Christ.

  12. SummerSurf profile image59
    SummerSurfposted 6 years ago

    I think u should pray about it and feel how God is leading you.  You may get more peace over one direction. As long as you are seeking to do God's will and be open to whatever way he asks you to go.

  13. Phanti profile image61
    Phantiposted 6 years ago

    I think it could work as long as both people respect the beliefs of the other.  My ex-boyfriend didn't believe in God at all and was a total Evolutionalist and I'm a die-hard Lutheran.  Since we respected eachothers faiths and beliefs, we didn't have any problems where religion was concerned.  We actually listened to what we both had to say on the subject and learned something from eachother.
    However, there are some religions where you can't marry someone not of your faith unless they convert.  I don't agree with this, Religion is a very personal thing and I think that you should never have to trade what you believe in for someone elses beliefs.

  14. Sunny2o0o profile image72
    Sunny2o0oposted 6 years ago

    They can, but I'm not sure that they'd want to.  In my experience, a relationship between a firm believer of any faith and a non-believer is a recipe for disaster, unless the non-believer is open to converting.  For the religious person, he or she is sincerely going to believe that the other person is bound for hell, or some other terrible punishment.  How could (s)he not try to convert his/her romantic partner?  But at the same time, religious conversion attempts are downright annoying, particularly when people are not open to them, so the non-believer is likely to begin resenting the believer for these, in the non-believer's eyes, unwarranted intrusions.

  15. cobrien profile image76
    cobrienposted 6 years ago

    According to the Bible, unbelieving spouses are sanctified by their Christian spouse.