Have you ever been in the situation to try Suicide?

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   shamani67posted 13 years ago

   Have you ever been in the situation to try Suicide?
   
   Have you ever thought this is the only way out? I have in the past and need to know if others have also.

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   suzettenaplesposted 13 years ago

   No, I haven't.  I'm sorry to hear that you have.  Remember, it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  I'm not trying to be cavalier about it, but, if you have had suicidal thoughts try to get some counseling.  You may even need some medication to alleviate a chemical disorder in your body.  I have certainly had sad and depressing moments and times in my life, but with the help of some great doctors and counselors I've gotten through it, and had I cut my life short, I would have missed out on some of the greatest moments and times in my life.  Please, if you ever have those feelings again, reach out to someone, even me if you want to, before acting on those feelings.  I truly believe there is nothing so horrible that has happened to you that you can't get through with some help and to snuff out your life and light prematurely would leave this world a lesser place.

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   Seeker7posted 13 years ago

   Yes I have unfortunately.
   
   I don't know just how serious the thoughts were. But a few years ago when I was made redundant after 14 years with a company I loved, I then went into bankruptcy and had other severe personal and mental health problems as well. This made me contemplate suicide. I never made a plan or set a time or date - things never went that far. But I did get medical help and counselling and it helped me to get back on track but it took a year or more.
   
   I wouldn't wish that state of being on anyone. But what I can say is - that these feelings can be dealt with, with support, and they do pass. It is a dark phase in your life, but that is all it is, a phase, it's not permanent. And even at this moment you have created light at the end of your tunnel by talking about it and getting support. I'm not an expert by any means but I can listen to you and I'm happy to do that.

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   tsmogposted 13 years ago

   Yes. However it is a trigger for me and problematic to think about. I do know as suzettenaples stated it is not a solution.

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   lone77starposted 13 years ago

   It's only natural to look for solutions to problems. When you find yourself in a painful situation your thoughts might engage all kinds of actions in an attempt to resolve the situation.
   
   I've thought about suicide on a number of occasions, but immediately rejected the idea each time. So, while the thought was there, it was never seriously considered.
   
   Suicide is perhaps the most selfish thing anyone can ever do. Every cowardly act is selfish. And yes, it's permanent. Even a failed attempt can leave a long-standing scar, mentally. It can leave one feeling incapable.
   
   For any painful event, there are many ways to overcome the mental trauma. They all come under the banner of personal responsibility. We are each responsible for everything we feel. We create our feelings. The object is to take conscious control of this. Approaching such a problem as a weakling (and I've been there) only adds to the problem. You have to approach it from a position of strength and certainty -- "I can overcome this." Seek help, yes! But if you have a counselor who sympathizes rather than shows compassion, drop them immediately. You need someone who empowers you, not smothers you. Anyone who tells you that you don't need to take responsibility is leading you into a trap. Avoid them at all cost.
   
   Personally, I don't recommend drugs, unless there is an immediate threat to alleviate. Long-term usage is poisonous to the body. And the drug companies would love to trap you in a costly, long-term usage. They have billions of reasons to want you there.

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   Rehana Stormmeposted 13 years ago

   Whatever the situation is, suicide is NOT the solution. There was a time I was very depressed in my life - quite a few times actually, where I felt that I could end it all.
   
   But being the coward that I am, I'd just think about and weep over 'the curse of life' but never get round to doing it . And you know what, today I am so glad that I am alive! Life is beautiful! So many people are enjoying their lives out there. What makes you different from them? You too have every right to attract positive things into your life and live a joyous fulfilling life.
   
   Suicide is just a way to escape problems. Being an escapist is not a heroic thing to do. But by facing the challenge, keeping yourself sane through difficulties, you emerge a better person, capable of achieving whatever you wish to.

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   lostwithinmyselfposted 13 years ago

   Sadly yes i have too. Being bipolar and having borderline personality disorder takes its toll on me and sometimes this thought comes in to my head. I have 3 kids and when i think like this i think of them and try my best to fight it. Sorry to hear you have too. x

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   jasper420posted 13 years ago

   yes I have I have tryed it twice but looking back Im glad I lived because you never know what the futcture has in store for you. I think we all think about it every now and then and sometimes it realy dose seem like the only way out however it is a permant solution for a tempary problem.

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   edhanposted 13 years ago

   Being young and not having realize what life is about, I did thought of it when losing love one.
   
   I thought there is nothing in the world matters to me. It was the darkest day of my life. Everything seemed to be still and the world is no longer spinning. It really felt like things were not alive as my heart seemed to be cut up.
   
   Fortunately I recovered from that thought after a few months later. Now I realize that our lives in this world is to pursue the true meaning before departing. So everyone should treasure his/her own life and making full use to find your own purpose.

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    I Am Rosaposted 13 years ago

    During my first marriage, things were so veryvery bad that I eventually hit a point where I considered it very seriously.  When it came time to make a decision of whether to follow through on it, I realized that I could not commit such a horrible crime of betrayal against my Self.  I believe that I am an immortal being (my soul lives on) and that I would be reborn.  I believe that anything I do not resolve in this life, I will carry with me into the next one and that to harm myself in this life would be a betrayal I would carry with me for ... how long (??)  before I would able to forgive myself??
    
    Knowing that I am my best ally and worst enemy, I made the choice to be the best friend I could ask for.  I thought about what I would tell a good friend in the same situation:  You have the power to change what you don't like in your life.  Don't make excuses.  Do what is necessary to remove the harmful things in your life, eliminate the negative people and leave the destructive environment.  Find people who will support you and emulate those you admire who are successful and happy.  Be true to your Self.  Be grateful for the good things you already have.  Change your thoughts to reflect the good things you want and stop focussing on the bad.   Know your beliefs and values.  Stick to them and look for others who share them ...
    
    Then, I took that advice.  Over the next few months, my life "fell apart" as all those harmful things in my life disappeared .... I felt empty, but in a good way.  In a fresh way.  I embraced it and slowly began to fill that beautiful emptiness with positive things; blessings, gratitude, successes (no matter how small), etc.
    
    I've never regretted the choice.  My life has become filled with blessings, simply because I chose to be my own best friend in the darkest hours of my life.

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    onegoodwomanposted 13 years ago

    Being an amatuer wordsmith.........I have questions about your statement.......but, you are not asking me about grammar....
    
    
    yes, there was once a brief period of time...........when I, ( a business person, a Christian, a manager, a free spirit, a creative person, a modern Mom).........
    
    did, indeed think of just a such of thing.
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    I laid upon my bed and thought out the details......of which, I will spare you.
    
    
    It came to my mind............how will my daughter ( his mom), my daughters,  ( his aunts), my hubby, ( his Grandpa).............explain to this beautiful little, 4 year old boy, that his beloved "Mam" ( grandma) was a quitter.
    
    HOW?
    
    
    I could find no reason for ducking out on this little boy who loved me so.   NONE.
    
    I could not entrust to ANYONE to say the very things that I wanted to say to him, no one else, would ever, brush the hair from his eyes like I did..........no one else, IT belonged to ME..........to teach him.............to cool down,  his words echo,
    
    
    "Mam, my head is hot".....................NO ONE else would know, to cool down his   forehead and neck with a  wet cloth.............I , alone was his beloved and trusted grandmother (Mam)..............no one else could be this person in his life.
    
    
    Years later, he is a teen, and far less dependant upon me or his own parents,....but that little boy and his needs.................saved my life..........and I have other cherished grandchildren today.
    
    
    The mere thought of that little boy, asking why, kept me from being a quitter, or taking the easy way out.
    
    
    Take yourself...........leave others with questions and doubts.
    
    
    
    YES, YES,AND YES,  we all have doubts, fears, and insecurities.........it is a shame, that we reach success, we have forgotten them.
    
    Yes, shortcomings are human wide, we all  have them.........
    
    fear is a part of us all..........each and every single one of us.
    
    doubt is a terrible taskmaster
    inability, a terrible, unyielding silent ghost
    
    
    PLEASE.........focus on the ones you will leave behind............Please, seek help,  PLEASE think about the "tomorrow" you leave behind.........
    
    Please, above all else..........please know,  that you are not the first person who has felt, struggle, isolation, aloneness, unappreication................there IS someone, even a small one, who looks up to you........
    
    DO NOT kill your ownself............it leaves too many unanswered questions, about you, your loved ones, society, our schools, our classrooms............
    
    It IS the cheaters way out........it is..........by ending your life.......you will not have not face ANYTHING or
    Anyone.................not even those children who love and look up to you

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    stuff4youposted 13 years ago

    there was a time when I was a teenager that I was considering it. Thankfully, I didn't come close to trying it.

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    eveowlposted 13 years ago

    Absolutely, tho I know it is not the natural way to go and there could be consequences to deal with in the after life. That is based on my own personal belief which may of cause differ from somebody else who is an atheist.

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