Will you behave differently toward a loved one, if a diagnosis of terminal is gi

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   pstraubie48posted 13 years ago

   Will you behave differently toward a loved one, if a diagnosis of terminal is given to that person?
   
   Do you think your behavior toward a loved one would change if that person were given a terminal diagnosis? Do you know what a terminal diagnosis really means?
   
   

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   Team Leaderposted 13 years ago

   Not necessarily. I am already very caring, protective and loving towards the people that are important to me. Spending more time with them and helping them with whatever they need would be natural for me and it would not be any different than it is at present.
   
   If there was someone who I haven't seen for a while I would find it very odd to push myself back into their lives for that reason alone. I sometimes feel that if people are really important to us then we should make time for them in health and illness. I would not want to be in a situation where I would not see a person for ages and then I would turn up at their hospital bed or in the worst case funeral. If I had a relationship like this in my life I would change my behaviour immediately and would make sure that I show that person how much I love them NOW.
   
   Your 'Team Leader'

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   Jewelsposted 13 years ago

   How could you not?  Not many people are in a relationship waiting for their demise.  This may happen late in life when mortality becomes obvious.  But if a loved one was diagnosed as having a terminal illness it would be normal to be concerned and jump to attention, instead of being complacent and feeling safe with your relationship.  Imminent death does amazing things to people.

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   Dave Mathewsposted 13 years ago

   No! My approach is that it is in God's Hands.

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   Agantumposted 13 years ago

   I assume we all have a terminal condition and will die one day.  I can understand that a sense of urgency is sometimes associated with one or another of us as we learn this time is approaching.  Until we are gone though, we are still here and it is lousy to have to focus on the end because everyone is bringing it to your attention because they treat you differently.
   On the other hand if you can get sympathy for falling off a bicycle and maybe an icecream to cheer you up when small, maybe getting at least a lollipop from the doctor will help to make it all seem worthwhile when diagnosed with a terminal illness.
   It depends on the individual and what they need. If you do not treat everyone as an individual then you have already taken them for granted.

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   Lady Summersetposted 13 years ago

   Greetings pstraubie48, At first I wanted to jump right in and say Yes, of course but I know of too many people who've been through this and I've been on the brink of it myself.  Love is a powerful tool, an action.  With it much can get accomplished.  From my experience loved ones start out with good intentions.  However, caring for a terminally or just ill mate is both trying and difficult.  It demands your full attention and dedication and even with the best intentions some lose the battle.
   
   We must remember that life continues and has its own demands that you must meet with the full-time dedication to the sick mate.  When my husband got sick for weeks, everything was on me, taking  my grandson to school, granddaughter to daycare and son to work.  Run to the hospital, oversee his care, stay until 3 p.m and do reverse pickups, cook dinner, do homework, run back to the hospital until visitor's hour were over.  It took ALL that I had and knew to maintain my sanity and walk in love.
   
   Finally, would I behave differently if a loved one was diagnosed with a terminal illness, yes!  I'd try to live it with more grace, peace, compassion, and thought for others.

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   ftclickposted 13 years ago

   I would not but I believe I am familiar with others who will. I will still love them as much as I did and definitely not work more than I need to.

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   daskittlez69posted 13 years ago

   I think everyone would.  You know there will be a point in the immediate future that you will not be able to visit or speak with that individual.

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   Jynzlyposted 13 years ago

   
   
   When my British live-in fiance Colin was first diagnosed of Burger's disease on January 1, 2008, I was just three months promoted in my new position as the Coordinator of the Social Science Department in SPCC. I filed a leave of absence for 8 days, the whole time that Colin was confined in the hospital. I suspected that something worse was going to happen to him. I eventually left my lucrative and prestigious job to attend to him full time. In June that year he was diagnosed of a fourth level cancer after moving in and out of five hospitals and 14 cancer specialist doctors; we spent some two million pesos or an equivalent of around fifty thousand U.S. dollars till he finally died on October 31, 2008.
   It was such a lengthy yearlong ordeal and combat with cancer. In this photo of Colin, the small urn is his ashes after cremation; I still keep it to this day.
   
   To answer your question I would say yes; my behavior completely change, I burn bridges, leave a lucrative life if needed just to attend to my loved one 100% of my time, service, love, care and attention, even forget myself and who I am.

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    edhanposted 13 years ago

    Everyone will come a time where we will be dead.
    
    So, having a terminal diagnosis does not mean to have a different behavior thereafter. Of course, everyone hopes for a better way of dying but if unfortunate to encounter this situation, one should continue living as per normal. With encouragement and living a normal life, things can change as I believe our bodies can heal when we feel better.

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    LaThingposted 13 years ago

    Yes, I will behave differently. My love will only grow for that person knowing that we might not have enough time together!

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