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What are your thoughts on dressing modestly?

  1. profile image72
    ElleBeeposted 5 years ago

    What are your thoughts on dressing modestly?

    What are your thoughts on dressing modestly?  What does modest mean to you?  Do you think it's important to dress modestly? How do you set standards for personal modesty?

  2. rdlang05 profile image89
    rdlang05posted 5 years ago

    I think you've read my hub on the matter.  But for the women its all about protecting their dignity, helping men not see them as objects, and looking amazingly beautiful while still covering up appropriately.  For men I don't think modesty of dress is quite as important, but they should go around showing body parts just to get women attracted to them or to be arrogant.

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      ElleBeeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I did read your hub smile. I agree with your point on the tie between dignity and modesty. The topic  has been on my mind lately  Trying to come up with what my standards of modesty are, instead of deciding on the fly all the time.

    2. rdlang05 profile image89
      rdlang05posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I think there's definitely a way to do it looking beautiful, and a way to just look... stuffy.... I hope you figure it out.  Even if you're just considering it you're  a step ahead of a lot of people.

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      ElleBeeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Very true!  I would consider myself a modest dresser overall, but there are sometimes when I'll catch myself, and say "hmmm.... didn't I deem something very similar to this immodest last week?"

  3. calynbana profile image82
    calynbanaposted 5 years ago

    I think the way we dress shouldn't cause anybody to stumble. For example I was on the subway with my husband not too long ago, I noticed him look straight and turn his head quite suddenly. Then he looked away from that direction as well. Straight in front of him he had a woman's chest in his face, she was standing right in front of where we sat and I got a full nipple view when I looked straight. It was uncomfortable for me and I am a woman. Then looking to the side I saw a woman's thong, right through what I am sure she thought was a dress. I don't mean just outline of the thong, I mean I saw the color and pattern.

    Should a married man have to feel so uncomfortable just looking around? No.

    We should dress in a way that won't make others uncomfortable, I work with kids, so I dress in a way that even with kids tugging at my clothes I will never be exposed so to speak to an uncomfortable situation.

    I think often women think that the way they dress is all about them. It isn't. We need to consider the men around us, their comfort, (for example how comfortable would a teenage boy be seeing his mothers cleavage, or high inner thigh?). We need to consider the kids around us, not even just the ones we know. They are learning what is acceptable by observation. What we wear should be what we are comfortable seeing a fifteen year old wearing, ten year old wearing, a four year old wearing and so on.

    To me modest means that I can comfortably bend, turn, sit, jump, dance or spin with out any need to adjust my clothing. My standard, would I be okay with one of my preschool kids wearing this. If not, there is probably something wrong with the clothing.

  4. mikejhca profile image92
    mikejhcaposted 5 years ago

    People usually dress less modestly in the summer.  You can see people in public wearing very little clothing. In the winter people dress more modestly.  They cover their bodies up.  When people wear less clothes in public they are more likely to take better care of their body.  It is not just because other people see their body.  They see their own body more.  Dressing modestly can be bad for your health. 

    To me modesty means you don't show off body parts.  Modest clothing hides the flaws and the strengths.  It mostly hides the muscles.  For instance modest clothing hides the calf muscles, abs, shoulders, triceps, chest etc.  As a result people look more similar.  I improved my body by exercising a lot but it is less noticeable when I wear modest clothing.

    I do not think it is important to dress modestly.  While I may not want to see certain people in revealing clothing they may notice that their body needs some work.  For the people that look great I don't think they need to hide the fact that they look great.  I do think people should dress modestly enough that they are not breaking the law.

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    As a teacher it is only natural to dress modestly. I think some people dress modestly because of their reserved or conservative personality, others due to religious beliefs and still others because they like clean simple fashion. To me it is important for people to dress according to what looks appealing on them. When we wear clothes which bring out our best features and make us look attractive, we naturally feel better and more confident.

    The saying to each his own is fair. However, there are so many out there who dress in such an odd or provocative way that it seems as though they are desperately trying to attract the attention they lack. And mothers should be more responsible of the way their daughters dress, but that of course goes part and parcel with the parents' relationship with their child.

    Avoiding the provocative to me is modesty and it shows that the person respects him/herself.

  6. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 5 years ago

    I believe people should dress however they want! I believe that unless I'm having to explain a nipple or scrotum hanging out to my children it is none of my business. People place far too much into the whole how people dress thing. In the summer I wear short shorts and dresses and low cut tops year round. I look good in them (look good in a sweater too but that isn't an option in summer) and I am not going to dress any different for the sake of other people unless of course that other person is my husband. However I do apply common sense. I don't go to my sons' school wearing a mini skirt.

  7. am301986 profile image59
    am301986posted 5 years ago

    Modesty isn’t just about covering yourself up. It’s about communicating your values through the way that you dress, allowing others to see what you believe by their mere perception of you. So if you don’t put some time into how you look, it can actually detract from the beauty within, believe it or not. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to spend hours in front of the mirror making sure that your eyebrows are plucked perfectly, THAT'S vanity! But when you wake up and roll out of bed, you should ask yourself two questions as you get dressed and ready for the day:

    1) Is the way I look today going to scream out to people that there is something different about me than everyone else?


    2) What do I want to communicate to the world today?

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      ElleBeeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This is so well said. I love that you really looked to the vales behind modesty, and also what you communicate to other.  Couldn't have said it better myself.

  8. M. T. Dremer profile image95
    M. T. Dremerposted 5 years ago

    Modesty is something we've invented, as humans, but something that doesn't really exist in nature. Animals are always naked, and they don't seem to care. And many tribal societies don't worry about modesty and it doesn't destroy them as a society. Ever since this concept of covering up has been in play, we've just given more power, and more offense, to the body parts that are getting covered. If nudity wasn't taboo in the modern world, I doubt the porn industry would be as lucrative as it is. So, honestly, I think people can wear whatever they want. But they just have to be prepared to get looks at their exposed skin because our constructed opinions on modesty are too ingrained to overcome without rethinking all of society.

  9. chiradeep profile image64
    chiradeepposted 5 years ago

    We express something the way we dress. For example, 'Jeans' expresses 'attitude.'
    So a responsible person will always dress herself/himself responsibly.
    A disciplined or well organised person will always dress formal.
    Some times we dress and it reflect as pride as there's 'a don't care' expression seen on our face. Even rebellion shows through our dressing. 
    Likewise a modest person can only wear modestly. 

    We are not animals but we not only have a body but also have a mind and spirit. We all understand what we do even we all know what modestly exactly means.

    A very good question for discussion and debate. Thanks for posting it.

  10. TNSabrina profile image59
    TNSabrinaposted 5 years ago

    I think people should be free to dress as they choose as long as they are not offending others. I really don’t want to see someone’s private body parts, but more importantly I don’t want my children seeing it.

    It also gets into good hygiene issues. I would definitely not want to sit in a chair that some pant less and panty less stranger just sat in. Seriously, who knows what that thing has on it!