Is it true how much you love a person, that much the person loves you back?

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   Donya Mehrabanposted 8 years ago

   Is it true how much you love a person, that much the person loves you back?
   
   In some cultures and a lot of expressions, they believe in the fact that how much you love a person truly from your heart; that's how much a person loves you back. For example; a mother that loves her daughter unconditionally. Another example someone that you have fallen deeply in love with will likely feel the same. What do you believe?
   
   

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   blessedpposted 8 years ago

   I don't believe that at all. And speaking from my experience I can say no, love that is given is not the love you receive in return.
   
   You may love a person world without end but the love that you share is not reciprocated to you. The saying goes, "who you love doesn't necessarily loves you back."
   
   I believe if love received is love given back would help to make this world a better place. But some of us are selfish, only wants to receive but not return.
   
   That is my 2 cents opinion.

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      Donya Mehrabanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Very true, it seems its getting worse, the world is getting more crueler and even to find a believe in true love or that one in million feeling we are not even allowed to do it because surely we will get hurt. So to protect ourself we stop believing?

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   Not necessarily! You can't (make) someone love you back!
   There are lots of people who have loved someone deeply only to learn their mate was using them, cheating on them, or waiting for a better option to come along. There are no guarantees.
   Also there are many instances of people being "in love" and surprisingly they got dumped by the love of their life!
   When it comes to love you don't always get back what you put in.
   Some people are just plain "takers" or "blood suckers".
   Being in love means being vulnerable.
   One has to have their own "must haves" list of traits they want in a mate along with having a "mate selection or screening process" and not ignore any "red flags". Choose wisely!
   Each of us (chooses our own) friends, lovers, and spouse. Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart.
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   - Oscar Wilde

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      Donya Mehrabanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I suppose love is a big word and you can mistakenly fall for the wrong person. However, what about the sixth sense, you know that he/she is the one? I think you do get a certain feeling and deep down you know either that he/she loves you or not

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Aaah but is really a "sixth sense" or are you simply responding to them treating you/loving you (the way) YOU want to be treated or loved?
      When one isn't getting what they want, expected, or hoped for they don't usually (feel loved).

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      Donya Mehrabanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think that feeling can trick you, certainly if not treated well then you know the answer is negative. However, when you compromise and that 'loved' person compromises as well and both of you know the answer deep inside is then positive

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      There's an art to not compromising oneself.
      A compromise should never be over one's values or core belief they hold dear. If he wants pizza and you want Chinese food and you both compromise by going to Chili's that's fine.
      Be true to yourself!

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      Donya Mehrabanposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes its very important to be true to yourself, especially when it comes down to making those choices to not under value yourself to another. Otherwise we create this 'expectations' from one another

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