Ones worth
Screw your worth. I like you.
Again, youre name says it all.
Troubled may be the state your family is in when they find out they take a back seat to Jesus.
Or, have they been brainwashed to accept their worth?
I became a stay at home father after a bout with a stroke some years ago. I have a blood disorder that has also caused two heart attacks. I know all about being worn out at the end of the day. Before I was a stay at home dad I was a landscaper. I know all about being worn out after a day of work.
I have found that being home, I have been better able to lead the family because it gave me a different perspective on where we all are in our lives. Though my wife and I are married and are one, we still lead two different lives much like you are describing. It's easy to get wrapped up in the stresses that we have on ourselves during the day and forget that the other person has their own troubles. I have found that a good practice in my marriage is to make sure the kids leave their mom alone for the first twenty minutes when she comes in the door so she has time to change her clothes and make a cup of tea or whatever so she has some breathe time to transition from a working person into mom mode. She usually breaks that twenty minutes and only wants enough time to get changed before she is sitting with them and engaging in conversation.
The pastor that married my wife and I said something to me that has resinated within me that I still remind myself of almost daily. He said, "If you spend your lives trying to out do the other instead of judging each other by what you do, your marriage will thrive." I don't know if you meant you and your wife have this kind of problem or not but I know that regularly dating our spouses is more important after marriage then before. As our marriage grows so do we and it is improtant to continue to "date" them to keep up on who they are becoming and giving them the outlet to unwind sometimes. Easier said then done, I know believe me with 5 kids it's hard to get a date night but it's still worth striving for.
As far as the distractions from God goes, it will always happen. I tend to keep my radio station tuned to 91.5, it's a talk radio but usually has discussions of the bible and sermons given by preachers.
I started a practice with my family because like you I felt the same way. I was always doing working or doing something for everyone else and rarley had time for me and when I did have time for me it surley wasn't spent in prayer or reading my bible or devotions. So one night during the hussle of getting everyone to bed and fighting with my 3 year old to stay in bed, I snapped. I yelled for everyone in the house to get into the living room, once they were all there, wife too, I told them I was tired of the routine of life that we were living and that we were going to change. It was going to be slow and hard but we were going to do it together. That night we began the tradition of praying before bed together. Everynight before the kids go upstairs my wife and I sit in the living room with the kids and prayer aloud. I begin then my wife and from oldest to youngest we pray and ultimitly talk and discuss issues with school, work and life. It's truley brought us closer together and I have even tried to do this same thing in the morning with family but that's a little harder. My point is sometimes we have to get aggresive. There is that verse, "The violent take it by force..." I say sometimes we have to get violent with our lives and faith and take it by force.
I don't know if I have been rambling here or if my words have even had any impact but I pray that your head doesn't disappear so much that you loose yourself in the hussle of living. Be blessed!
Well thank you so much,
The question though I guess is out of curiousity of how we see each other. My father in law for instance seems to only think that a man has any worth if he has a job that is measured with a paycheck. Thus is a constant motivator in my quest to sum the worth of a man....or woman.
How many roads must a man walk down?
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