People send out vibes, chemicals, real chemical transmitters that prompt our intuition (older) or our instincts (children) or both when we grow up.
A child reacts accourding to their instincts. Instinct tells the baby she is hungry, her reaction is to cry because she doesn't know how to communicate that well yet.
Same is said when a mother and father fight in front of their child, they send out chemicals that the baby picks up on and acts according to the "feeling" the vibe the parent or parents sent out. So then baby becomes fussy, she cries.
Likewise when a parent is happy, the parent sent out a signal, a chemical from the brain that the baby instinctivly also picked up, and the baby reacts by babbling or giggling or smiling.
I think the baby does react to feelings. She feels like she has to breath, instincts instructed her to, she feels like she is hungry, insticts instruct her to want to eat etc..
They also react to load noises. Depending on how the parents react to this, the baby will probably react the same way. If a parent is startled when she hears a loud noise, then when the baby hears a loud noise later, the baby will become startled.
So when reading parenting books, they suggest that you do the vaccuming and stuff with your child, because the child will become acclimated to loud noises and it realizes it is not a threat.
If we are talking about Nature v. Nurture. Part of our nature is to come equiped with a personality. Ie: my child is natrually stubborn and hot headed. The mother needs to know her baby so that she can nurture the baby's traits.
Our enviornments also effect us even when we don't realize it. A child likes to play outside, the enviorment says it is too cold to play outside, the child becomes irritated, the mother has to occupy the child and find other things, nurture the baby's adaption to their enviormnet.
Other things too of course, smog, not enough sunlight etc.. also have an effect on your attitude. Not enough sun, not enough dopmine or seritonine to keep you mood up. thus people who live in Seattle are more likely to be depressed then ones who live in Sunny SanDiego.
We do have the capability of using several different methods to handle our responses. I think one of the problems with western society or just society altogether is that the womens role shifted.
If a women wants to work and make money and live that kind of life, that is fine and good for them if that is what they want. At the same time there are less jobs to support the growing population for women who also want to be equal to men.
Long analysis short, the need for money has taken away from the strong family foundation, leaving your children to be raised in a day care or by strangers takes the role out of what it means to be a parent.
I believe that the mothers job is to be with their children until they are old enough to go to school. I believe this because it builds a bond between mother and child, it establishes the authority of the household. It gives the children some understanding of what the Alpha Dog is. They get to know and understand and "nurture" their children and give them a proper foundation to start with.
To me, it seems, that if you leave your children in daycare you cannot get mad at them for being disobedient to you. Having play groups is one thing but leaving your duties up to another person is another.
Spiritually, the concept is sorta like this Nature = Devil vs. Nurture = Angel. (for this instance only because nature is not the Devil etc..) because it is natural to become disobedient to a lesser authority, but the Angel nurtures the childs Spirit to know the difference.
I really like the topic Eng.M. What are your thoughts.
