How to React to A parent who thinks there child can do No wrong?
so frustrating any helpful advice?
Your child needs to learn they are subordinate to you, who provide all their needs.
Take away all privileges, provide only the basics. You get dinner, no dessert, healthy snacks but no cookies, books to read but no TV or electronic devices, no new toys but get to play with current ones.
When the child becomes appreciative and/or more obedient, you can add privileges back.
With direct disobedience, long explanations hurt your position and don't gain obedience. Discipline then and there, whether leaving the store or spanking or taking away items that they want and will not get back for a set time. (Always make the punishment easy to enforce instead of many little rules to micromanage and negotiate.)
Never negotiate your consequences, do not give in to whining. Either ignore the whining or discipline it in order to stop it.
And do not tell your child to do something ending with an "OK?" at the end. That makes your instructions an optional request. Tell your child to do it and have them do it. If they are pooping or doing what Dad said, then they can finish that and then do what you said. But they don't get to wait until the end of a TV show to do what you told them before the show started, they don't get to refuse to do what you need them to do because they want to do something else.
I think it's important to be very careful about assuming a parent thinks his child "can do no wrong". The parent may not make a big deal about the child's behavior in front of someone else (and with kids of SOME ages SOME "wrong" may be along the lines of, say, a two-year-old taking a toy away from another young child. (One parent may understand that if you put a two-year-old together with another young child there's the chance that will happen, so that one parent may not do more than separate the children and return the toy. Another parent who doesn't realize that may think some big, dire, consequences should have happened to the two-year-old.
So sometimes "can do no wrong" isn't just in the eye of the beholder, but in the eye of someone who doesn't understand two-year--olds very well.
That aside, though, there are parents who are not about to make a big deal out of their child's behavior in front of someone else - out of a sense of aiming to preserve the child's sense of dignity and/or aiming to protect what may (more than many people realize) be a matter of a child's not being humiliated in front of others.
There are also parents who are sure enough of themselves that they aren't going to do/say/believe something just because someone else thinks they should.
If one doesn't like what someone else's kid does stay away stay away from that other kid or graciously cut short a visit. I'm assuming it's a home/personal situation because schools/preschools deal with parents, so "some other parent" doesn't have to spin their wheels over them.
There are people who have an "all-us-adults-versus-all-everyone's-kids" mentality. There are also people who are more worried about getting peer approval (from another adult or parent) than they are putting what is appropriate and fair (and more discrete) to/for their child. (They're the ones who will hit a toddler in a store because they think someone thinks they should.)
Some parents are secure enough, and respectful enough of their child and relationship with him, that they won't betray him/that just to satisfy someone who doesn't/shouldn't matter all that much (and who may not understand one or another thing.
It's never good to presume to know what someone else thinks or doesn't think (particularly about his own child). That's a "mind-reading kind of thing"; and regardless of who thinks or understands what, people can't know what other people are thinking.
Thank you no the situation is more of other parent does not go outside with child to see what is going on and her children run inside over everything and she comes out and complains about every child other than her own.
even though she has no idea
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