Ask a woman, what she wants in a man, and half the time she'll probably say, a sensitive, loving, warm guy and all that. But a lot of women still prefer the tough kinda dude, better. Some would like a fella who can pull both, that is a tough guy who can explore his feminity and all that crap. Ladies, who do you really prefer?
Koh Nee Chee Waaaaa What do you mean "explore his feminity and all that crap?"
I think lots of guys have absolutely no idea how to deal with modern women and their mothers. Why would you need to ask such a question here? Why do guys always tend to generalise like you have here. Times have changed alot in twenty years.. Put Your Club away man; it might indicate that you don't have a clue!
The Two posts above this come from 2 x individual women. When you get a response from another woman it will be different again.... Can you see a pattern in that?
Sorry if I offend.... I was just exploring my 'feminity'
Neither, they're extremes on both sides of the scale. Personally, I think the whole idea of "macho" is completely outdated, immature, and microcephalic. Unfortunately, around here it seems that any males from high school through their 20s still think it's the way to go. Get a clue guys, most girls don't go for the bad hygiene, obsession with loud trucks and loud music, drinking, and short tempers. Yes, there are some out there, but they seem to be in the minority.
Loving, warm, and sensitive do not denote a sissy. It's when it's taken to the extreme and you have a guy that can't handle the trials of daily life because it's too much for his fragile emotions (no, I don't think this is acceptable in females either) and he becomes overly clingy that's a problem.
Personally, I found what is, in my opinion, the perfect balance. He's incredibly warm and affectionate, loves to cook, always takes out the trash and such without me ever having to ask. He does believe there is such a thing as "woman's work", in that women should only have to do the work they want to and should never have to handle disgusting stuff such as garbage or dirty toilets. He's not afraid to cry when he feels the need, though he doesn't make a habit of it, and always tries to identify emotions before expressing them (the typical "macho man" has difficulty with emotional honesty and is much more likely to express any negative emotion as anger). He keeps his temper in check and will do everything he can to avoid a fight and will be nice to anyone who lets him. On the other hand, he's perfectly capable of holding his own when the time for fighting comes.
Overall, I suppose my preference leans more toward the sensitive type than to the macho, because I really despise the macho posturing and self-centeredness. However, my ideal man is certainly not a sissy, though he loves nothing more than to cook me gourmet meals and hold me for hours on end.
I like a guy who can go the distance in the bedroom. Is a little sensitive, but not too much that he can't handle Lillith. He has to match her intensity but know when to get out of the house when she's about to blow her top and needs space. He has to pay most of the time. He has to know how to dance - waltz preferably. He has to want to take out the garbage and mow the lawns and do odd jobs around the house. He has to be half intelligent but not a know it all. He has to be witty but not a smart ass sarcastic twit. He must be able to be dominated in the bedroom as well as being tied to the bed posts. He also has to be able to tie me to the bedposts - but geez it better be worth it! I'm sure there's more, I'll have to come back to you later on this.
who cares? unfortunately for us humans addicted to stereotyping and categorizing, all kinds of guys get all kinds of girls... Its not about appealing to everyone of the opposite sex just the kind that will make you happiest.
Same with business. If your market is everyone your market is really no one. You've got to find your niche. Once you do that you'll start making a profit
Fierycj.... shame I have a man already, as I think you would be perfect for me, always out there trying your best, despite rude people....... I love your hubs on Africa, make me wanna come and visit.....
One about 6ft tall, not hairy, nice teeth, cute buttocks, piercing eyes,in a Navy uniform, so next time it floods here he can come rescue me in style, bad, but not to me, sissy when I ask him for something.
I like a challenge. I don't want a super sweet sensitive guy or someone who agrees with everything I say, but it's nice to be caring and considerate (and all that other sweet stuff most guys try to hide) ... very important - respectful. I'm also with Ivorwen on the real man stuff listed. I think some women are attracted to the macho tough guys because they feel protected with them. It really depends on the woman as we are all created unique.
My experience shows me that bi guys are the best of both worlds.
1. They can talk about their feelings - and they like to. 2. They like to listen to me talk about my feelings. 3. They are both manly and sensitive. 4. They make EXCELLENT lovers - in part because of the good emotional connection, in part because of their sensitivity, and in part because to come out as bi you have to be comfortable with your sexuality. 5. They don't have stereotyped role expectations. 6. They kiss other guys in front of me (now THAT was an unexpected pleasure - who would have thought that was so hot?) 7. It's like being able to have hot sex with your gay best friend. 8. They are not all competitive and testosterone-driven around other men, the way straight guys can be, especially the "macho" ones. 9. They remember your birthday, your anniversary, where you met, what you were wearing, what colours you like, and whether you get on with your sister's husband. 10. They are great with kids, even if they have never been around them and don't think they "get" kids.
Of course, bi guys in many parts of the world are in denial, because of homophobia, and identify as straight, in which case some of these points won't apply.
But the out bi guys - they are the ones to go for, girls!
3 - I don't know what either of those adjectives means, if they even have a set definition, so I don't know if I'm either/both.
4 - Um...I just like the lady to enjoy herself - if that's "great" then it's me I guess.
5 - Check. There's no role - it's just get done what needs to get done.
6 - Well - I'm out.
7 - No idea.
8 - If I am playing a game, I play to win, even if it's for fun. If that makes me competitive-driven, I don't know, but if I'm playing Spades or such, I'm sure my partner doesn't want me to play to lose because "it's just a game".
9 - Yeah, just part of getting to know the lady, imo.
10 - I think kids are fascinating.
Does this mean I'm a bi-guy in denial?
Dang it - I'm all confused again. LOL. At least I know it's cool to be able to cook (though, that was on no-one's lists. Ut oh...)
I'm sorry... I want to know the guy is more selective than that. I wouldn't be ok with the "visual images" a bi-guy would conjur up for me; and I need to know that it is only my "feminine appeal" to which he was attracted. I think bi people need other bi people, and everyone else needs someone who has "chosen a side".
Well not to get toooo personal in the love nest, I was in one of those amazing experiences where I was about to go to the moon and the goof just couldn't control the launch pad, if you know what I mean. So it's important to be able to take direction from time to time.
Really none of the above. Attractive, intelligent, confident, 'nice' build--athletic--would describe it. 'Sensitive' sounds skinny and given to fits of the 'vapors,' lol, or something, and 'macho' sounds like a wife-beater from a South American country (from the term 'machismo').
agreed.well probably shouldnt have blamed your sexual preferences. Just felt a bit upset for the labourers as I think there is no bad work-that is all in our mind.you some how reminded me of general degrading attitude towards manual work.By the way I have noticed in Australia such work is quite appreciated what about NZ? And yes intelligence is sexy for intelligent.
What I'm saying is that is a natural thing to be a little jealous--for BOTH partners. If you realize it's part of a certain reaction, it can even be a little sexy--making it attractive... (I don't usually spell sex stuff out sooo much, cuz its better to be a little more subtle, but since you ask and assume things as usual--there ya go, )
So, to turn it around with the semi-rude questions-- Do you have issues with women?
All you are saying about jealousy is well understood.All I wanted as usually is answer, but you, as usually, made another well performed self psycho-analysis;)I appreciate your aspiration for self-knowledge.Perceive others through yourself. Issues?- Not more than with any other gender.
Is this from old fashioned picture I liked the mustache. But I probably have spelt wrong. I have been in an old Homestead and there were many people and their photos all look like you Avator shot. Maybe just Mustache.
No, I don't mean the kind of man that changes himself, and adjusts so he can either attract the best spouse or the best-paying job... What define honour for you? Real homour - the one that comes from within?