I am tired of this...I think people can be beautiful with their natural body types...people that say things to make people change their healthy weight piss me off...and I don't just mean to lose weight but I mean so many people told me that "skinny is ugly" "skinny girls have no curves" that it really hurt me. I felt ugly for being a healthy weight for my bone structure. I started eating more and more and couldn't gain so I ate more and more and I finally gained some weight and lost my natural curves and got very out of shape. So I don't want anyone to say big is better or skinny is better, but for people to say hey you look good being a healthy you...It goes both ways...
I agree completely, and much is relative to height and bone structure.
I am 43 years old and have never weighed more than 125 pounds, naturally. Check this out I was a skinny pregnant chick too! Now drec, that is not a glowing nurturing look, its nasty. Really nasty.
Okay so I do enjoy being skinny, not underweight for the clothing options, and they have a larger selection, and fit in a 'tailored' fashion.
However I have forever wanted more poundage, well, like my mom truthfully.
I am tiny boned (perceived as fragile), skinny legs (over rides the length when your thighs were given to someone else), girls like me just got no booty. fact. (not cool for jeans) we also were overlooked in the breast category. Majority says if skinny chick has big boobs, bought and paid for by considerate and giving husband. Oh yes, the combo can exist, However how often, naturallY?
So lets recap, my overall fortune of being thin basically has left me looking far younger than I am, questionable regarding eating disorders, never getting to cuss out some dude for rude comments or starring, dresses, not jeans, asked for ID in bars til 28 years old, become an ugly angry pregnant skeleton, but be glad Ann Taylor dresses fit well
I want boobs too - free ones, then I can spend that money on jeans with padded jlo behinds
Crazy to purposely starve? Yes. Crazy to be thin? No.
I have never intentionally starved a single day in my life, yet am quite thin. At one time I believed that I would gain (and keep) weight with pregnancy, but after five kids, I am about the same size I was in high school.
Don't assume that every thin girl you see is starving herself!
I think the media plays a huge role in this desire to be skinny. TV, print, radio, movies -- the thinner ones get the job.
Still, this shouldn't be encouraged. I mean, to paraphrase Lewis Pugh, a made-up mind is unstoppable. Success shouldn't be about how thin or how fat one is, or how tall or how short. It's about how much you want something that gets you to where you want to be. There's proof EVERYWHERE.
Answer: Skinny? Is subjective and solely based on one person's perception of another. As long as the person is comfortable with their figure and they are also healthy, then it shouldn't make that big of a difference.
The only reason anyone would be dumb enough to starve themselves, so as to be thin or skinny, as you say, is out of complete and sheer stupidity, and laziness.
It takes about 3 days a week, about 30 minutes of working out, to maintain a slim and healthy body. It also helps if people are eating properly.
no, starving yourself is not sexy. some modeling agents almost require it! although that seems to be changing, at least in parts of Europe. anything now can be altered with photoshop. girls look at the magazines..
sexy is a state of mind anyway. being too skinny looks unhealthy but some also just have small frames.
I can't stand the "real women have curves" mentality. Everyone is fine just the way they naturally are. Yes, overweight people should strive for a healthier weight, but skinny women shouldn't be made to feel inferior just because they're small. I could stand to lose a few pounds, so I'm not just ranting because I feel persecuted. I feel so sad for anyone who is told that they're not okay the way they are.
I agree with 'analog Talk' the media does play a huge role in girls wanting to be skinny, because as soon as a celebrity puts on a bit of weight or is seen on the beach looking even slightly bloated, it is printed in every magazine for everyone included the celeb in question to see, it doesnt matter what size you are as long as you are healthy and happy with yourself, people that judge others for their body size are shallow and probably insecure about their own body anyway.
I think it is tragic that women think more of the image than of their health. I am a people watcher, and many times I have watched women pay more attention to other women than the men that are watching them , crazy! Of course men have a there own problems , I know! But women are so image concience that it actually seems strange to watch. And vanity? Ok I'm shutting up now........
I agree that the whole culture of super skinny celebrities and size zero models has had a huge impact on the way women perceive their own bodies now. I mean, one has only to glance at a fashion magazine or at the top hollywood actresses these days to see that most of them are extremely skinny and only reinforce the concept of 'thin is beautiful'. And while being conscious of one's body image is a good thing (eating healthy/regularly exercising), to starve yourself to stay thin is just another extreme - but one that more and more women, especially teenagers are getting sucked into.
Btw. I must add, that most men I know don't care for that super skinny look; it's more of an obsession with women I think...
Thank you Thunder Vixen for saying, "people can be beautiful with their natural body types" and thank you to everyone else who has said something similar.
Being *healthy* is the key to beauty, and for different people different weights are what is physically healthy for *them.* I remember watching one plus size model talking about how when she weighs a certain amount (about twenty to thirty pounds heavier than what is considered acceptable) she has more energy, stamina, her moods are more stable, etc. But I've also heard the opposite from others who do better physically and emotionally when they are on the thinner side. Physically they are different and thus have different needs in regards to weight.
I am naturally thin and have faced discrimination from other women because of it. I accept people no matter what they are (even if they are morbidly obese) so it would be lovely if they would do the same. Right now because of health reasons I am too thin, and physically I would feel better if I weighed just a bit more. But I accept that I have thin body type (and even except that my being too thin right now is just fine in appearance even if it's not fine in my energy levels) and a woman who has a heavier body type would be better off accepting her body type. It would be great if Men would accept this as well.
Physically healthy is beautiful. And physically healthy encompasses many weights and shapes.
feeling sexy has nothing to do with your physical size - it has more to do with confidence, self-esteem, and sensory awareness. Having been both skinny and fat, I can say that it feels best to be slim - free and confident. Men make up their own minds about what is sexy in women and women who are trying to please men may SAY that they feel sexier one way or another - but what they are actually doing is trying to be sexy for a man - in my experience that doesn't really work. If you feel sexy and confident the man will think that too! I can't say that enough!
Anamika, I think you've got this right. For the most part, I really like the size I am now. My lowest body fat percentage in recent years was about 20.5%, and this was in the 1990's. It's amazing how different you feel about yourself when you are getting close to "buff". And may I say it's not a particularly feminine feeling. It depends on your body type.
Laugh if you must, but when I reached that body fat level by working out with weights, I had a hard time sitting down. I got so lean that I could feel the pelvic bones digging into my flesh. It took 6 weeks to get used to that feeling, and I'm not sure I want to go there again, even though, at some subconscious level, I know it would be better for me. Osteoporosis runs in my family. It is a grim spectre hanging over my head (and that of my sister's), and working out with weights slows down its development.
OTOH, being 10 pounds overweight at my age, as I said above, wouldn't be bad, for the fact of women having more estrogen stored in fatty tissue that MIGHT help delay osteoporosis. Perhaps there is a perfect weight to be when you are 50, and I just don't know what it is!
The thing that bugs me about the whole fat-vs-skinny debate is how it's always about what men like. Who cares what men like? It's obvious that they have different tastes, so there's somebody out there for everybody regardless of weight.
Women should be happy at the weight they feel healthiest and most comfortable with, but instead (in the US) we starve ourselves to fit some ridiculous ideal that most can never hope to achieve, while in places like Mauritania, where bigger really is better, girls are literally force-fed up to 16,000 calories a day until they conform to THAT society's male-defined standard of beauty. Both situations are sick.
To me, girls starving themselves is sad because that's the portrayal of how they look at themselves. It's a fact that how they look at themselves influences how they turn off/on other people around them. And I'm not talking sexually. I'm talking just confidence, just wanting to be near a confident person.
However, it's not really the size that bothers me. It's the outlook these girls have when they try to harm themselves. Otherwise, people of ANY sizes can be gorgeous when they just enjoy themselves.
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it is not cool they can be nice and pretty but people don't think that way they can't help being fat they try to lose weight but they will still have loose skin come on yall have some niceness in u an stop picking on...