Why lie?
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago
0lack of sleep can amplify emotions...but as a woman i have to say the telling of a lie is with the intent to cover something up. if it were me, i wouldn't say anything to him, but i would check the cell phone records. i don't see any purpose for running the shower except to muffle sounds in the bathroom, but then again i am kind of paranoid that way, heh. i hope it's nothing and that you feel right again soon. xox
is this the smiley you wanted?
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
None taken marine. I appreciate your opinion.
again need a smile that is sad looking
Do you mind me asking marinealways24, are you married? I think I would seek the advice of a weddingconsultant over a marine.... just to conform to the stereotypes
I'm not in the marines anymore. How's that for the stereotype?
And, yep I am married. And nope, I don't lie to my wife. If I felt a need to lie, I wouldn't be married.
- ralwusposted 14 years ago0
thanks ralwus I appreciate that
too bad there isn't a sad smile smiley face...
- ryankettposted 14 years ago0
He is just being a man. Men are dirty. We sometimes pick our nose, fart, scratch our balls (or our arse), and not being bothered to take a shower in the morning falls within that. Sometimes my girlfriend has to remind me that I havent had a shower for three days. Im ashamed to say that, but most men are just not as clean as most women. The reason he was insistant that he had taken that shower, is because he was embarressed about being found out. What grown man wants to admit to his wife that he faked a shower? Its a childish thing to do, and he knew it. It just means that he is unlikely to do it again.
As a kid, did you ever used to run your toothbrush under the water so it looked like you brushed your teeth? Same thing.
Lets face it... the ultimate betrayel is infidelity..... and he sure isn't having an affair if he is going to work stinking of BO Did you leave his fan club?
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
Hon, Don't let your insecurities get in the way of a shower running and the situation when you were at your mom's. Maybe you should sit down and talk about it so that it doesn't prolong the issue. I am certain you are taking out of context and something from a past relationship you had is rearing its ulgy head and jumping into a beautiful relationship. Instead of letting it eat at you talk to him about it without argument I am certain your viewpoint will change after the discussion.
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
Awww CW, Everyone else has written such good advice ,cant seem to add too much more.
Gosh anywhere from 3mths to 3 yrs is always full of crazy sh**t ,you know the questions...
Does this mean this...Whats that really mean...Why doesnt he/she just say what theyre really thinking...Whats on his mind..
Honestly it does do ya head in ,no wonder ya not sleeping well
that poor old brain working overtime on ya!!
I do hear where youre coming from ,you would probably prefer he trusted you enough to be upfront and totally honest about every little thing. I used to as well.
Now well I sort out the big stuff from the fluff stuff.
Except when the relationship is young everything seems 'BIG' stuff. Listen to people who have been married for a long time and they will tell you , its nothing or certainly not meaning anything more than what it is.
Perhaps he was running late and mind on the test etc, he must have thought your question odd too, and maybe he felt threatened. Hope he does well in his test too!
Shower together
Crazdwriter, this is an epic Fail. Showering with my girlfriend always results in certain parts of my body being dirtier than they were before I went in.... that does kind of defeat the objective of a shower. But I suppose you would both have a smile on your face right now
- mtsi1098posted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
Wow annvans...I hope my hubby doesn't do that. He probably will say it's the military shoewr in and out. But still it is gross to think that he is't getting cleaned...but why lie? doesn't make sense to me why he has to lie...he could have just said I'm running late and I'll take one later but nope he didn't
I agree on this one. I have to confess that a couple of times I did the shower show, becuase I didn't want to be seen as a dirty guy.
But I didn't lie in other more serious aspects with partners I respected
Itds not making shower babies thats the problem,its the lying about it..
Guess he needed some privacy all the same, guys sometimes primp n preen you know wheres- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
- annvansposted 14 years ago0
- Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago0
I don't mean to seem "hostile" by any means, and I know nobody likes to be lied to; but if I came out the bathroom and someone questioned me about what I did or didn't do in there, I'd lie just to end the "interrogation". I'm about as honest as any person could be; but the one thing that will drive me to lie is when I feel someone is asking a question that I think is too personal. I can see, too, how if it was morning; and he didn't feel like getting into the "wasting water and money discussion" he may have had yet more reason to go for the lie, in hopes of ending the discussion. A less "polite" option may have been, "Don't question what I'm doing in the bathroom," or the old, "I don't spend on anything else, and if I want to run the water I'm going to run the water." An even LESS polite option (that some people would have gone with) might be, "What are you - my mother?"
(If someone asks me how much money I make, or how much I paid for something; I don't want to be rude, so I feel pushed into either not answering at all or else making something up. My reasoning is that when someone is out of line in their questioning they either deserve no answer or else don't deserve a truthful one.)
I don't think this particular lie should be lumped in with other kinds and sized lies. If you really think about, one episode of running water for whatever reason isn't going to do a whole lot to the water bill. Besides, there's always the chance he dried himself on in the tub and stepped into his shoes. I'd say let it go, don't worry about it, and discuss saving money on the water bill some other time.- "file it in the far back file..."
My girlfriend had an "invisible coin purse", and she would "put imaginary coins in it" each time her husband did or said some small thing. She said she imagined it getting more and and more full as time went on. (I'm not sure that imaginary coin purse is a great thing, though; because coin purses can get too heavy, weigh someone down, or else break. )
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