your thoughts on marriage?

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   pisean282311posted 13 years ago

   how to you perceive marriage?..formality to approve companionship?..made in heaven?..not necessary?..or any thing else?

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      Originposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      A union of souls between a couple. That's basically it to me, a joining of people who love each other and want to be committed to each other for the rest of their lives.

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         pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         union of souls..wonderful words..

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            ThoughtfulSpotposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Indeed they are.  Well said Origin.

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               Originposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Ah shucks! *blushes*

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      goldenpathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Ordained of God
      
      Designed to be eternal
      
      Only source of true happiness
      
      Requiring 100% effort from both and NOT 50/50
      
      Union of souls for the purpose of eternal life and ultimate joy
      
      A pain at times but definitely worth the journey

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         Rafiniposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Only source of true happiness
         
         
         aaww man!  Now there's 2 ways to ensure I'm never happy!!   

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      Stevennix2001posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      i believe marriage should ideally be a union between two people that truly love each other deep down in their hearts, and would never want to be apart.  I also think people shouldn't rush into marriages because that's how people often end up getting divorces.  As many people are often so eager to marry someone because they think they're in love with them, but in reality they may have only been going out for like a few months or weeks or whatever.  True love takes time to develop and shouldn't be rushed.  Although I know some marriages aren't always made out of that ideal reasoning like arranged marriages and such.  However, to me that's ideally what marriage should be.
      
      this is also one of the many reasons why if i did meet the girl of my dreams someday, I wouldn't want to rush things with her if it felt too soon.  As I only plan on marrying once in my life.  It's just that I've been in a few relationships in the past that didn't go anywhere, so I've never been in any type of serious relationship. 
      
      That's why I always told myself naively that the woman i'd marry would be the only girl for me that truly understands me.  but hey that's just me.  lol.  anyway, peace out homies!  (just kidding)

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   ThoughtfulSpotposted 13 years ago

   A marriage by definition is a union, or a bringing together.
   
   A marriage between people, I believe, is a commitment, an assurance that you intend to love one another forever, an admittance that you need that person in your life, a promise that you will work hard when there is hard work to be done and an affirmation that you have found something that was missing in your life and that you plan to hold on to him or her for as long as life will allow.
   
   As with all intentions, things may not go as planned, but marriage is about dealing with the bumps along the way rather than walking out at the first sign of trouble.  (I'm not preaching against divorce here, merely saying that I think that may be the step where we move from simply "a relationship" to "marriage."  That time when we see that the rough patches are just that... patches, and that it is worth the work to get through them if it means he [or she] will be there in the morning.)

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   lightning johnposted 13 years ago

   A marriage is a contract. Some people have almost the same relationship with their employment companies.

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   Greek Oneposted 13 years ago

   an excuse not to use condoms

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      there you go again ..greek one's one liners...

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      andromidaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I guess so.Your statement is more politely known as marriage.I like you comment.thanks greek

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   tobey100posted 13 years ago

   Marriage works for me!  I guess it all depends on the spouse you choose.

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      that great that marriage works for you..but my question is how you perceive marriage?

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         tobey100posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Oh, sorry.  In a nutshell, the perfect environment in which to experience and share ones's life.

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            pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            perfect...

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   Dobsonposted 13 years ago

   Marriage is a commitment for life, one that you don't make based on lust or what you can get out of it. You must bewilling to work through whatever the issues are without believing you can just chuck the whole mess when it does not go your way.
   
   I like the "soul" idea as that is certainly true. If you have found the right person your souls intertwine and the experience is beautiful!

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   Precious Williamsposted 13 years ago

   I perceive marriage at its best to be a wonderful union in which to people feel one half of the same person. For many happy people it is a union in which you can be yourself.  For others it is a comforting relationship that does not excite but it is companiable and suits both sides. However, marriage can also be a relationship that descends into boredom, distrust and disinterest and at its worse it is a prison.

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   Cagsilposted 13 years ago

   Marriage is a religious concept turned ordinary and made about money by government.
   
   A couple does not require marriage to maintain a life long love for one another. Love does not require marriage.

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      ThoughtfulSpotposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You are right that love in no way requires marriage, but personally I believe it can be improved by it... - or maybe "enhanced" is a better word.  [But, only if it is right for that couple. I'm in no way saying that what is right for me is "right."]  I remember the day I married my husband with such fondness and joy.  Our love exists outside of our marriage, but having a formal convention to express and celebrate that love was a wonderful experience for us.  Having a whole day in which we formally committed to continue to work for our love, through the good times and the bad, and then celebrated that new commitment and shared our happiness with our family and closest friends is a warm and wonderful memory that I will carry with me the rest of my life.
      
      I am a very independent woman, however, I chose to take my husband's name (which some of my friends balked at).  I did that because I enjoy the concept of us being our own "family unit."  Although I do believe that family is not based on name, some of these traditions and conventions ground me and remind me of the simpler joys in life.
      
      That said, as to your first statement... I personally believe that Government should stay out of marriage altogether.  But, that's another thread.

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      andromidaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      amen to that.

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   Mishaposted 13 years ago

   Never again!

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      pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      

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    Shadesbreathposted 13 years ago

    Marriage is one of those words that is easy for the simple-minded to try to define as "X."
    
    Thinking humanity will see it differently. More of an X based on X. 
    
    From there I would say that if two people have the same X of X, they have a pretty good shot of making something amazing out of the idea given some real communication, understanding, thought and dedication.

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       lightning johnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I think that my X is from the planet Niberu, planet x

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          Shadesbreathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          hah!

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    defenestratethisposted 13 years ago

    Nice idea, but not alltogether realistic

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    WizardOfOzposted 13 years ago

    Prelude to divorce.

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    Beth100posted 13 years ago

    Committing verbally through vows and a marriage ceremony are only the beginning steps.  For some reason, people believe that once you're married, you stay together for life.  It takes work from both parties to make the marriage. If one partner grows in a different direction and the other doesn't, it can lead to separate paths.  If one communicates and the other doesn't, it can lead to separate paths.  For marriage to succeed, there must be:  1. trust; 2. communication; 3.  growth - personal and together; 4. give and take; 5. empathy for the other; 6. appreciation and gratefulness for having the other in your life; and 7.  maintaining one's own individuality - a mistake than many make in a relationship  which eventually damages it.  Independence is just as important as dependence.  There's more to marriage than this but I would end up writing a hub... hmmm 

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    andromidaposted 13 years ago

    Marriage is just for social introduction of your new relationship, it is not anything related to commitment. To be committed to someone,we don't need to get married-to be committed we need to be honest from inside.Though Greek made a funny comment,but he got a very strong point behind that comment.

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    KCC Big Countryposted 13 years ago

    A union of souls and all of those other flowery flattery butterfly phrases can all be had without the need for a marriage license.  Being married means nothing without the commitment and respect that goes with it.  Marriage is highly over-rated and like Misha said...."never again!".

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       pisean282311posted 13 years agoin reply to this

       quiet right..commitment is the key..

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    Rafiniposted 13 years ago

    My thoughts on marriage.....marriage is a religious ceremony designed to affirm the relationship between a man and a woman and present them before God as one.
    
    Other than that, I've got nothing good to say about marriage...if you can make it work then good for you.   I know I'll never ever try that again!!  lol

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