no one decides whom they will love. love is an emotion. like hunger. you don't decide to be hungry.
You can have an emotion and feel love towards someone, but not act upon it.
At the same time you can act like you love someone, when you don't (yet) and the feelings can develop over time. If you didn't "act" like you love someone it's possible that the "love" would never develop. So
in summary it's both.
Just my opinion...based on experience
Love isn't a degree on a scale that when reached you can say, "Oh, I'm in love now." It comes in varying forms, amounts, and types.
If it were so simple that you could boil it down to one thing or the other, bookstores wouldn't have a "self-help" section.
Love is an emotion, but the decision to act upon it, to work with it, to strengthen it, or to end it lies with you.
You can love a friend, even love someone long enough that you might see yourself happy with them. That's where love becomes a decision. Or you can meet someone, and suddenly, at the most obscure moment, you realize without them you feel empty and alone.
You can also have "puppy-love", where you seem to fall in love at first sight, but really it's just a strong attraction that will most likely crash and burn at the end of two weeks. Sometimes you might at first despise each other, and then after a civil conversation, realize you like them- maybe even love them. (Hand to God I've seen it happen...)
Unfortunately, there's no accurate description of love. I generally expirience a sensation in my chest similar to if someone were blowing up a balloon inside me, I lose all ability to focus, and suddenly what I say to this person becomes the most important thing in my life, because if I say something stupid it's the end of the world...
I hope that helps!
I think both. Loving feelings and loving actions often go hand in hand but not always. For instance, I may do something loving when I don't feel like it. I think love often takes effort, whereas loving feelings take no effort at all. While I'm washing my husbands underwear I'm not thinking Oh I love you so much but I'm doing it because I do love him.
I wrote a hub which covers some of this that you might like to read: Save my marriage - why falling out of love should not be the end of your relationship.
Love is an emotion...It can make you cry like crazy with either happiness or sadness..
But when you mention it as 'a decision' - that still has the posibility to develop into emotion. For example, in many countries there are still arranged Marriages with happy outcomes.
The dictionary has a million different definitions for love, but I'm not sure I completely agree with any of them. I think many times people confuse love with emotion or feeling. If love is just an emotion I don't want it. Every human has emotions and feelings that are up and down and different with each passing moment. To me love is the willingness to give up anything and everything for the well being and happiness of another. When you do that for someone you then obtain the emotional connection with them. I would never question a LOVE like that.
I think that love is most definitely an emotion. We have control over the decisions we make, but are held hostage by our emotions.
I believe love is both an emotion and a decision. The decision is your commitment to the love you feel. It's very easy to say 'I love you', but there has to be a commitment that accompanies those words. If the commitment is not there, those words mean nothing.
The deepest type of love is based on a decision and a commitment you make to love a person. In a relationship, I believe we are drawn to another (at first) based upon attraction and yes, feelings. But feelings cannot be trusted for the long haul. Emotions come and go like a roller coaster and if we depend on our emotions we will be falling in and out of love all of the time. I also wrote a hub on love called "true love" and it explains the three levels of love.
Neither.....I consider it an action. Actions truly speak louder than words, an unconditional behavior, which sometimes doesn't grant you favor due to sacrifice. Emotions do change, you can't love one day then the next day you don't feel like it or choose to "LOve someone else. Neither can you decide to love because........(whatever you have chosen to fill in the blank with). Love is not a random decision. Love is consistency, forgiving, understanding, patient, kind, sacrificial, all of which is done without thought or decision. If I truly loved you, I would be consistent with my behavior, actions, motives, etc. come what may, regardless of what you do, my Love will never fail you, neither will it dessert you. In some cases, for self preservation you may dessert someone you love because they are not respectful of your love or they don't deserve it! Just like anything that is precious to you ie: diamonds, your children, your assets, you wont leave it in the hands of someone that is irresponsible, the same goes for Love it is not only precious but powerful and isn't something to be taken or given lightly.
Vonda G. Nelson
None of these "Love is a Feeling that tends you to care your beloved unconditionally".
If you make the decision to be in love...then you must be nuts...
A state of mind... a hook!
and r we talking about love in the eastern or western sense? an often mistaken jumble of emotional lust... w/a lack of common sense, arriving at the wrong decisions....just sayin!
I think love is an emotion more than a decision. You can decide to take actions that will affect how another person feels about you, but I don't think that you can decide to or decide not to love someone. It's something you feel if you have it, and you don't if you don't.
Love is a raging fire sparked by emotional fireworks. Once the initial blast has faded, it takes a concerted effort by both parties to keep the fire burning. Communication, commitment, and respect are the most important things to consider. Always appreciate the one you love and demand the same in return.
Falling in love is easy. Chemicals facilitate it. Staying in love is very difficult. Love is perfect, but we live in a very imperfect world.
I think it begins as a feeling but that feeling won't last forever without the decision to make it do so. In a marriage for instance, you know you won't stay in the type of love you may have felt when you first met or even when you first got married. When people say they no longer are in love with each other this I think is what they mean. When that stage is over you have to make a decision to love if you want to stay together. I know you can't force love. But you can build up a relationship and turn it into, if not that googly eyed you're perfect and I'll make out with you anywhere without thinking love into something more friendship based, something perphaps deeper and longer lasting. That leads to attraction and better intimacy in and of it's self.
Love although the attainment of it is often a conscious effort, the biochemical reaction that spurs the emotional state, is more akin to a feeling, or emotion of you like the word. My answer, emotion. BB16
It can be either depending on why your in the relationship. if its because you have become dependent on the person you may have just decided to be there.
It is both.
Love starts off with emotions and then when we feel that the person is not good or is good...then it is decision time IF we want this relationship to last but, alas there are some who let their emotions conquer their decisions and could suffer from a bad relationship if it turns out to be such...
It is both, but the decision side of it should take upper hand than emotion.
Oh..love, real love is neither an emotion nor a decision. It is complete and total compassion that does not distinguish between anything or anyone at all. It is not given and therefore asks for nothing in return. It springs from the hearts of those who have completely renounced their egoistic demands.
If you mean romantic love, it is dictated by our karma and quite complicated.
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