what do you do when your boyfriend flirts with someone?

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   bbpaula888posted 13 years ago

   A friend of mine was in her boyfriend's  office  one time, and then, a girl entered the room. Her boyfriend asked the girl why she was there. She said, she just dropped by.  my friend told me that the minute the girl entered, her whole posture was saying, "Im here to flirt". The girl even asked the boyfriend if he was going to treat her out.  The girl was obviously flirting and the guy was encouraging her and this happened right in front of my friend who was not even introduced.  Girls, my question is, what would you have done if you were in my friend's place?

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      couturepopcafeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Observe and learn.  Don't behave jealously.  Don't quiz him afterwards.  Just observe his behaviour.

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      marinelady92posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      i think she should've been like "HEY, that's a great idea babe, we could go hang out as a group!" and then gone and kissed him. i think she probably would've gotten the idea. and then the girl would look stupid and your friend wouldn't look jealous.

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      Marie Louiseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I think flirting is healthy, keeps him on his toes.  As long as he still goes home to you and knows where his boundries are there is nothing to worry about.  Dont be a jealous girlfriend though, might push him away

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   heart4thewordposted 13 years ago

   Understand...it was the girl more than your boyfriend.  I say some girls have allot of nerve!  Flirting with the man, in front of the girlfriend or the wife.  It is so hard not to get furious about it?  Personally I feel, this kind of situation should not be ignored, I believe it helps for him to understand how it hurt you.  To know how not to encourage girls like this, if his heart is truely for you.  One of the biggest things, is to also forgive him.  Hopefully it will not be an occurence...time and time again, on his part anyway.

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   Claudin_Dayoposted 13 years ago

   that's a heartache! Well since it already happened, you can open a conversation that will lead to that topic, but don't act like a detective. That's sad, your boyfriend doing the such in your presence seriously if I were the girlfriend I would walk out.. It hurts, really.

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   chenderson00posted 13 years ago

   If it were me, I would have MADE myself own, first of all. Your friend should have introduced herself. Secondly, if the girl was flirting and the boyfriend was flirting back, it's on him. Everyday, people in relationships have to deal with others, and if she witnessed her boyfriend flirting with another girl in front of her very own eyes, it's his problem. She shouldn't make a big deal, but simply ask what was the deal.
   
   If he had nothing to hide, he would tell the truth...what he thought - if he tried to play it off as her being jealous, then I would say the way he acted was unacceptable. She shouldn't be a jealous girlfriend, but she should be upfront with her own feelings with her boyfriend.
   
   In my opinion, being in a relationship and being friendly are two separate different things. You shouldn't encourage that sort of behavior, especially in front of your lover, and if you do, you are asking for trouble.
   
   She should just confront him, get it off her mind, let it be known how she feels but not be too obsessive about it. Women can be sneaky and upright mean, but that's no reason she shouldn't mention to her boyfriend that it made her mad. If you can't talk about these kind of issues in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be with them. What would have happened if it were him in her shoes? Would it be the same factors? No. He would be pissed if she flirted with some guy in front of him. She should just ask him about it point blank. End of story.

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 13 years ago

   Call me old fashioned, but I'd be very upset
   and would dump him. but if I really loved him
   I'd advise him not to do it anymore..and try to leave him if it continues I guess.
   
   I think it goes both ways, so if you're being non flirty why should they? and vice versa.
   
   I think it's just poor etiquette and rude to do that.

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