Dashing Scorpio: I personally do not believe in having sex when one is not married. It's in the Bible, and it is the way I was raised.
When an unmarried woman and an unmarried man have a relationship, everything changes. At first it is fun, wonderful, passionate, and even addicting. Then things slowly become a novelty, and it gets old.
This is why I see no sparks between couples at weddings. They have eliminated the wonderful wedding night and are into a routine. I have been to wedding where the couple has said they could not wait to get it over with...
I personally believe that eventually the man takes the woman for granted. There is NO commitment on his part...he is getting what he wants. She, on the other hand, is much more committed. She has given her heart and soul with no commitment on his part... I read letters in the paper all the time to the columnists, "I have been with "Fred" seven years but he does not want a commitment...he is in no hurry to marry, but I want to marry and have children." THIS may be one reason a woman loses interest in sex. She starts to become unsure of herself and begins having doubts. in my opinion, sex complicates things. And many relationships fail because of it. IF the unmarried couple has children, the woman will be so exhausted trying to raise them which, again, could affect the desire for sex. All of the above is just my personal opinion. Blessings, Sparklea