What if your friends set you up with someone you didn't like?
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago
0i just saw this film called, "life as we know it", and it's about these two people that get fixed up on a blind date, and they both hate each other. The girl is a bit of a control freak about everything, and the guy...well lets just say he's a playboy that hooks up with girls, but never stays for the long haul if you catch my drift. Anyways, they both meet and hate each other, and agree to never date again. Years later, their friends that set them up on the date to begin with just died, and guess what? In their will it says that they're both chosen to take care of the baby..TOGETHER. providing if they accept this role that is. This would require them to move into the house together and raise the child as if she was their own. Although there are other options like her uncle, aunt, grandfather and such, but neither of them are exactly qualified to raise a baby at all.
Therefore, I would like to ask you all this. What if this happened to you? Assume for the moment, your friend didn't tell you at all about the guardianship of their baby would be given to you, in the event of their death. Let alone be told that you would be required to raise the child alongside someone they tried to fix you up with years ago, and it didn't work out. Would you honor their wishes still? Or would you seek other options? Please have fun discussing this.
wow this is what we call wheel of fortune
I think this is a nice situation, I hope to have one. There'a a lot of room for second chances. There's no harm in trying! Raising a child with the "beast" on my past could be an exciting experience hahahathat's so true. plus, who knows. maybe the person your forced to raise a child with, they might actually turn out to be the special person your looking for in life after all.
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
i guess since i started the forum, i'll go first. if it were me, i'd honor their wishes. sure, it would be kind of rude of them not to discuss it with me first. Plus, i would still think it's kind of their clever ploy to hook me up with that same girl they know i wasn't attracted to the first time. lol. however, you never know. to be honest, i always wanted a family anyway, so who's to say that the girl and i may not hit it off raising a kid together eventually. if not, then i can always do what that guy did in the film, and use the kid to pick up girls.
j/k 
yeah, that's true. well i think its very sweet of you that you would give it a chance diane.
plus, your right. if anything else did happen, that would only be more of a bonus, as you said.
Okay, so marry me, do what I say, bring home a big pay check. Let's do it!!!!
Just kidding don't take this the wrong way okay. well, i kind of figured you were joking when i saw the smiling icon, so i didn't take it seriously.
no, i wasn't mocking you at all. i was just saying that i got your joke, and thought it was funny. i mean nothing ill by it. besides, i make it a point to never offend a lady anyway.
sweet. I was sorta testing you
really? did i pass?
yup
You know me and kids Steven.
That aside, I'd have to see him again, and see how things are between us during the present time. People change and what didn't fit in the past might fit in the present. There's always a hope.
If we really hit if off, then no qualms. I'd do it.
If we still grated each other like finger nails on a chalkboard, then I wouldn't do it. Why? Because it is detrimental to a child's well being to be raised in a family where adults fight, dislike each other and pretend to be what they are not. The child's welfare should always come first.i agree with that completely. as always beth, you always have insightful answers about everything. i guess that's why i always liked you.
- Thanks Steve for everything. I've been over my head lately. Forgive me?
Yup it is. I left my last position thinking I'd step down into an easier position with fewer responsibilities -- yea, right. Oh well, I had my break down tonight over this.... tomorrow is another battle of meetings and more. Not looking forward to tomorrow -- the work part that is. Talking about work, I have to head off .... up before the sun rises and home after the sun sets. blah!!!
Ya know that's not how I feel about you. Hold your head up and smile. I love you too. xoxoim sorry to hear about that beth. well i hope tomorrow is a better day for you. you know if you ever need to talk about anything, you can always talk to me okay. i promise i'll always be there for ya.
i know, i was just trying to get you to laugh. you have a great day tomorrow beth; i'll definitely miss you. xoxoxo
This thing is sooo romantic ! <3 true friend should honor wishes specially dieing ones.. We'll the probability of falling in love with each other in this status is really high because hmm opposite attracts.. Oh and having a somewhat "built-in" family, why say no if the opportunity knocks?
yep, you are right. it does sound like the ultimate romantic set up.
Ha! What mean friends lol. I think doing it for the innocent child sounds great on paper but realistically 50 percent of marriages end in divorce and that's with someone you actually liked lol soooo I'd have to say the child would be better off in a loving family. I see it turning out a disaster with an innocent child stuck in the middle only to go through heartache with all the fighting and splitting up that is bound to happen. Guess I'm not painting much of a fairy tale ending lol.
In reality, this set up is just too good to be true
.. If the such exist I'd like to snatch it hahahaha- well you never know.
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
Hey Steven, yeah I'll add just give me the kid, then I'll be happy.
lol. okay, deal then. i'll be sure to drop her off at your place first thing tomorrow.
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
i guess nobody does.
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
Would I become Rich too?
I would date the person once more to see. Then of course say NO!!!no, but you would get a new house out of it too.
- Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago0
I really don't get it! So here's the scenario: My friends hook me up with someone I don't like and I never did like and I go out anyway and then marry him and have a kid with him? WHAT? wtf? I can't wrap my brain around that without getting very very nervous.
Because that sorta describes my marriage!
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