When you first meet someone, what do you notice first? Their shoes-their clothing-their hair? What is the best accessory someone can have-that they should never leave home without? When I first notice an individual- I notice their posture... It says a lot about a person. Someone that stands up strait-looks forward not down-says confident. A person who slouches and hangs their head low-says, uncomfortable, and perhaps give a vibe that they are unapproachable and unfriendly. I am not suggesting that this is true all of the time-just that it is the first impression. I believe that a person that always carries a smile-carries their most precious accessory. Smiles as well as a frown are contagious. So how about you-what do you first notice on a person? What is the best accessory?
All kidding aside I notice different things depending on the point of view when I take notice. Far away, left, right, behind, relative to where I am standing, their position, sitting, standing, or perhaps walking all affect what I notice first.
When I first notice someone, besides taking in their physical appearance, which is inescapable, I first notice the way they speak. I will admit that I am slightly biased towards their accent, but their manner of speaking and usage of vocabulary are what I tend to judge.
Improper grammar and the like really turn me off when I'm first meeting a new person; it makes me think they're unintelligent.
For me, I suspect (although I'd not care to stake my life on it) that what I notice first depends one heckuva lot on circumstances. A few examples:
--People headed my way on the sidewalk as I'm strolling through gang territory. Here I'm looking first for numbers, body language, weapons, and how they're positioned strategically.
--Pretty girl going away from me, then I'm checking out the hip action. It's how I got married 7 times. Pretty tail, who cares about the rest, don't date her, just marry her.
--If eye contact is possible and appropriate, then yes, that for sure. Today in Wal-Mart, a tall girl and I passed each other (going opposite directions) and there was a flash in her eyes that said she knew I'd been admiring the view. Had, too: Nice form, well clad, great confident stride, hot boots.
--If in the men's john, then I notice whether the other guy is paying attention to his business and not mine.
LOL!!!ha!ha!ha! I couldn't stop laughing just by reading Ghost32's replies...he just rocks...HIPS!!! man, your wives must have gotten crazy having you...anyways, for me when I look at someone's eyes when they smile it shows their soul whether they smile genuine or just a FAKE!
I notice the eyes because I like to see the shape (almond shaped, etc.)you can see if someone is sincere or confident if they are looking at you or "through" you. I look at the mouth because I like nice full lips, and clean, straight teeth.
First things I notice...for gilrs, is she looking at me like I might need to fight? The nasty glare, head to toe and back up, toss the head and smirk? Or does she smile and look friendly? For guys, height, shoulders and hands. For both, how are they dressed? just stuff I notice...once I actaully start to talk to a person, I look at the eyes.
I think for me it depends on the person. Most people have something that stands out - beautiful eyes, beautiful hair, ugly eyes, ugly hair, etc. I guess I probably notice whatever stands out the most first. Strangely, I don't put a lot to weight to smiles. It's too easy for a lot of people to slap on a phony smile for "social purposes".
I agree completely... People can change depending on social occasions and surroundings... phony smile- sad eyes as well as more dramatic changes like changing hair color- getting a nose job or lypo- we have the ability to change just about every physical characteristic that God and nature gave to us.. So physical characteristics-I make an attempt; not pay attention to-I more so focus on the way the person carrys themselves.
1)Height, I like tall men. 2)Eyes 3)Mouth and teeth. I like a kissable mouth with "meety" lips and could never kiss someone with ugly teeth! 4)Hands. I used to go for the "well manicured look" now I am starting to prefer big and strong ones instead.
hmm... probably something about how they carry themselves. That's the best I can do to explain my strange way of noticing people. It's sort of their entire manner and presentation and how it comes across... definitely not any one physical feature, unless it's something really unusual.
The most amazing thing is that I can rarely tell you anything specific about a person I've seen or met but can describe their personality with specifics. In the 60's and 90's someone would have called it their "aura" but whatever it is, the personality is the first thing I notice. I didn't even know my honey's eye color until 6 months into the relationship. I know..."weird".
Although I've met a few people who smell too much like perfume or beer, I can't say I've met anyone who smells like campfire smoke, horse, or cat "poop". That certainly would be enough to create a bad impression. Either you meet a real lot of people, or else you're hanging out in the wrong circles.
It's not weird! I had a woman once tell me she loved my hands and all she had done is seen them. Other women have stared at my hands and you could just see their minds start to imagine if it is true what they say about big hands and big feet. In fact they asked me straight out. I told them that there is only one way for them to find out!