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I need to find a purpose in life.

  1. paradigmsearch profile image94
    paradigmsearchposted 4 years ago

    Just saying...

    Comments? Thoughts? Suggestions?

    1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image98
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I can give you a list of people I'd like to see get punched out. Does that offer the kind of sense of purpose you're needing?

      1. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Nah. I'm a kinder, gentler paradigmsearch. big_smile

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        Motown2Chitownposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Are you having a rough day, Marcy?  That's rather uncharacteristic of you.  Now, I have my own list so if PS is willing, I'll add to yours.

        wink

        1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image98
          Marcy Goodfleischposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          Lol!  Mostly wanted to shake things up. But I'm sure I have an old list of names around here somewhere . . .

    2. Jason Marovich profile image88
      Jason Marovichposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Obligatory quote:

      "He who wishes to serve his country must have not only the power to think, but the will to act."
      ― Plato

      1. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        True. As a side note, vitamin B deficiency robs one of the ability to do either. And many people have that deficiency. I make it a point to take a B-complex vitamin (with food) every other day.

    3. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      http://s2.hubimg.com/u/7962917_f248.jpg

      1. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Thank you, Cantuhearmescream. smile smile smile

        1. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
          Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          It's true!!!
          :-)

    4. SimeyC profile image99
      SimeyCposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Your purpose in life - easy - ensure that SimeyC doesn't have to work ever again! Now that is a noble purpose in life if ever I heard of - and no cheating by killing me!!!

    5. twig22bend profile image79
      twig22bendposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Finding a purpose in one's life is not always that easy. Sometimes we can't find
      it, but it will find us eventually if it is to be. By not pressuring ourselves might leave some creative thought as to what it is we are looking for to fill that void.
      We have a tendency to put a lot of demands on ourselves which can cause us such discomfort mentally and physically. There are times we need to focus on a few things instead of spreading ourselves too thin. Concentrating on doing one thing right and then moving onto the next, might help. Your purpose will come from within you, if you take the time to recognize it.

    6. cheaptrick profile image70
      cheaptrickposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Go to Sea World...they have lots of purposes there...you can even swim with them.

      1. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        big_smile

        Thanks, but I think I'll pass on the swimming-with-them part...

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          Motown2Chitownposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          I'd love to swim with the intensive porpoises!  While I was living in Chicago, the Beluga whale at the aquarium gave birth to two babies.  For $300 per person, you could get in the tank with them and someone found out that they loved to have their tongues petted.  I wanted to go and do it SO bad.  Of course, we never have $300 at one time that isn't owed to someone or another, so we never were able to do it, but it sounded like SO much fun, and the babies were freakin' adorable!

          1. TheKatsMeow profile image91
            TheKatsMeowposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            That. Sounds. Amazing! Adding swimming with baby beluga whales and then scratching their tongues onto my bucket list!

      2. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
        Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        purposes... ha ha ha, I get it! Funny!

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      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Back in '06, I was about to face the worst time in my life, but I didn't know it yet. I tried to figure out what I should be doing with my life. I always dreamed of singing and I wrote a lot of music, but I didn't feel as compelled to pursue my dreams with 4 kids. Somehow I ended up with a Dr. Phil book about your topic and realized what I loved more than anything else was my kids. My youngest is adopted and I just wanted to keep on adopting. I think Dr. Phils msg. was basically whatever you loved and felt happiest doing was what you should pursue. You should get the book from the library though cause if it were that easy, he probably wouldn't have needed to go to the effort of publishing. Maybe you could even find it online and get the gist of it and apply some of the ideas.

    8. CroftRoan profile image82
      CroftRoanposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I find the best way to decide your life's purpose is to just think about it. I would look out the window during a stormy night or even stormy day and just think about what makes you happy and what you feel you need to do. I found out that I had to be a writer this way.
      I hope this helps and good luck in your journey.

    9. Mark Johann profile image54
      Mark Johannposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      A hubber named "francisassissi" has hubs about Living with Purpose. You can search him. Life begins from the supreme Creator. smile

  2. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    Goals help! What do you want and when do you want it?

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I like the idea of contributing to society. Which we all do whenever someone reads one of our hubs. I just want to somehow turn it into something more. Something that would give me passion. Something that would be my first thought every morning when I wake up.

      1. HollieT profile image85
        HollieTposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        I'm really into nature and conservation, but those topics will never bring me vast amounts of traffic or earnings. Other than this, at the other place I've written about helping ex-offenders find employment and helping lone parents raise money and get out of debt. Both of those topics do pretty well, but it's just so depressing that so many people are in such a fix.

        Draw on some of the rotten times in your life, and think about all those people who are now going through the same things. You could help more than you know.

      2. agilitymach profile image99
        agilitymachposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Look through your hubs.  What do you write on the most?  Perhaps this is what you are most passionate about?  If so, find a way to make it more "concrete" in your life.

        I found my passion by looking back at my childhood.  I looked at what inspired me the most as a child, and for me, it was training my collie to simple obedience.  I loved that and felt most alive when doing that.  As an adult, I decided to relive that part of my childhood with my new dog, and it has lead me to new life.  I'm now a professional dog trainer, compete Nationally at a very popular sport and was even blessed to decline an opportunity this year to compete at the World level for the USA in the sport.

        What did you LOVE doing as a child, and how can that translate to today?

        Also, consider volunteering.  What better way to contribute to society!!!

  3. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    I want to visit Ecuador, this year. Which is, of course, completely out of the question. I need around £3000 to do so, much more if my son and daughter are to come with me. (On second thoughts, leaving them at home might be a desirable option)

    So, I'll go next year. Emm, where will the £3000 come from? Questions...thoughts...Crime perhaps?

  4. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    EDIT: Which of course is not a purpose in life, just a silly desire.

  5. wilderness profile image98
    wildernessposted 4 years ago

    Procreation. 

    The purpose for every male on the planet is procreation.  It is an evolutionary imperative to spread your seed as far and as wide as you possibly can, whether that be into the next residence, the next valley or the next continent.

    Now if we could only convince the fairer sex of that purpose...

    1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image98
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hey, I think many women are in favor of that - as long as men hang around to help cultivate, harvest and preserve the fruits of the labor.

      1. wilderness profile image98
        wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        No, no, no.  They cannot be spreading seed while stuck at home cultivating, harvesting and preserving. 

        And as far as being fruits of labor, well, they are not.  They are ALL brats that need kept at a distance.

        Excuse me a moment - My little grandson is spending the day and needs a hug and some time...

      2. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        I'd consider helping women practice procreating...

        1. wilderness profile image98
          wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          It should help.  Reading from your earlier post here, it will certainly provide a contribution to society.  It will provide passion.  It will turn into something more.  Merely turning your head in the other direction will make you think of it each morning. 

          It fits all of your criteria, just as evolution intends.

          1. paradigmsearch profile image94
            paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            All that remains is finding a willing student...

            1. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
              Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

              I don't want to seem forward or anything... but saving a life is saving a life...
              ;-)

  6. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    You're clearly not thinking the consequences through- all that child support could bankrupt a man.

    1. wilderness profile image98
      wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Child support!  Something dreamed up by women to prevent following the laws of evolution.  Totally wrong, it is!

    2. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The key word is "practice"... However, if a mistake were to happen, I'd just sell the kid to Lindsay Lohan.

      1. wilderness profile image98
        wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Now that sounds like a real winner.  Make 'em, sell 'em and you've got the money for another conquest.

      2. profile image0
        Motown2Chitownposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Okay, I hate to sound mean, but I wouldn't put a cockroach into the care of Lindsay Lohan.  I'm surprised she's still alive herself with her apparent lack of ability to take care of anything that lives and breathes.

        1. wilderness profile image98
          wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          OK.  I don't know much about her but will take your word for it.

          So what is your current offering for rug rats?  In good health, of course?

          1. paradigmsearch profile image94
            paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            I don't currently have any rug rats to sell her, but I do have a mangy cat.

            1. wilderness profile image98
              wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

              Can't sell my cat.  He'll have to learn to go on the road with me. 

              Rug rats, though - that's a different matter.  They make messes at both ends.

              1. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
                Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

                No, see there's a trick to that... if you don't input anything at one end, there is no output at the other... I had to learn the hard way :-)

        2. paradigmsearch profile image94
          paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          She is indeed a true mess. Alcohol and drug addiction are indeed a serious disease. The judge who sentenced her to 90 days rehab is literally just trying to save her life.

        3. Cantuhearmescream profile image82
          Cantuhearmescreamposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          She's Lindsay... she can do what she wants without "real life" consequences :-(

  7. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    You are a pair of heathens. lol.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I'm going to get that printed on a T-shirt.

    2. wilderness profile image98
      wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      lol

      I suppose it all might sound a little odd coming from a man married for 37 years, but oh well.  One must acknowledge the laws of nature, after all.

  8. HollieT profile image85
    HollieTposted 4 years ago

    Nature has this way of making you wish that you hadn't given into her. Deny that if you can?

  9. JosephSorbara profile image60
    JosephSorbaraposted 4 years ago

    Don't join the service, please........, stay without direction it'll be fun, I promise.

  10. rebekahELLE profile image87
    rebekahELLEposted 4 years ago

    Lyrics from a song come to mind after reading your OP - Drive

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting song. Fear is indeed the ruling emotion for most of the animal kingdom. And many people do have fear as their own ruling emotion. Self-awareness is the key to breaking that gestalt.

      1. rebekahELLE profile image87
        rebekahELLEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        para, I have a couple of hubs that may help, you can find them on my profile.  One is about what do you want to be when you grow up and the other is about how to find passion and vision in our lives.

        1. paradigmsearch profile image94
          paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          Most passions can be converted to some form of contributing to society. I just got to find that passion. At the moment I'm revisiting every hobby I had as a kid. So far, no reignited spark; but we shall see... And btw..., I don't wanna grow up! I've already done that, and it's a pain in the a$$. My plan would be to keep the basics, and revert back to childhood for the rest. lol

  11. janshares profile image99
    jansharesposted 4 years ago

    Don't mean to go all religious on you but have you seen Rick Warren's "The Purpose-Driven Life: What On Earth Am I Here For?" Regardless of your religious persuasion, it is helpful in giving you another perspective on finding your purpose. Once you get past his preachiness, it helps you to think outside of yourself in determining why you're here and what you were meant to do.

    I know Rick Warren is controversial but just use the first few chapters to help you search. Don't let it be about him. I couldn't finish the entire book either and I consider myself religious and spiritually-based. I recommend the book as a tool.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I'd forgotten about Rick and his Purpose book. I have no bad thoughts about him and had always meant to read that thing someday. The library will get my regards next week. smile

  12. Nicole Winter profile image61
    Nicole Winterposted 4 years ago

    It's interesting... I was just thinking about this yesterday.

    What's to follow isn't interesting however...

    First of all... the laws of science?  The laws of NATURE, you say?  What a joke.

    Here's the real deal, gentlemen... every since we've made our existences, (to some extent,) cozy and domesticated, (and no, dears, I'm not talking about the lack of spreading your seed willy-nilly,) without the struggle of living, the ends and outs of maintaining "x" amount of calories, and the energy of providing "y" amount of warmth, the ins and outs of finding "z's" appropriate shelter for the evening... basically in essence fulfilling all of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: seemingly with the touch of a button: Life has no meaning.  It was the struggle that made it worthwhile.

    Anyways, that's what I was thinking about yesterday.  I'm not suicidal or anything, just a diversion of my brain in a path I wandered down just yesterday.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Something that simultaneously fulfills Contributing to Society and Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs would indeed be perfect.

      1. janshares profile image99
        jansharesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Feed the hungry, feed your soul.

        1. paradigmsearch profile image94
          paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          And that can mean hungry for knowledge as well as hungry for food. I'd like writing PSA hubs, but every one I've written so far is totally ignored by Google; so that particular idea is dead.

          1. janshares profile image99
            jansharesposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            Yup, both. Keep searching.

  13. SimeyC profile image99
    SimeyCposted 4 years ago

    Real answer - live you life as if it's your last and help anyone and everyone that needs help that you are able to.

    Last week a close colleague lost her daughter - I cannot imagine losing my daughter and it made me think of how short life is and how I always get stuck in my own 'worry' box - my worries are simply financial, I still have my daughters..........

    1. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image98
      Marcy Goodfleischposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's certainly a wake-up call, Simey.  I'll just take a break now and give thanks for the blessings I have.  And I'm saying a prayer for your friend.

      1. wilderness profile image98
        wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Ditto here.  Leaving aside the joking, my grandchildren are a large part of what makes my life worthwhile.  As I look around right now, there are 4 of them here, one on my lap, and they mean the world to me.

        1. Rochelle Frank profile image95
          Rochelle Frankposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          Those little ones will know that they were loved by you and that is something important they will carry forward into heir lives in the future.
          We may never know what influence we have left in the memories of others, especially those close to us. 
          Our actions influence and carry forward even in the kind actions we do for strangers.
          Do you remember , to this day, any small surprising thing someone did for you? I do-- and it influenced my life and my future.

          1. wilderness profile image98
            wildernessposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            And that's enough purpose for me.  To leave a legacy behind in the minds of the little people in my life.  A memory if nothing else.

            It's enough.

    2. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.

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    delleaposted 4 years ago

    I've found that trying to live a Christ-like, married life has definitely given my own life purpose. I'm not big on Rick Warren... he's too much of a Universalist for me. I like Pastor Mark Driscoll and of course like our own Pastor Corey McLaughlin at our Sheffield Chapel. I'm not sure what your beliefs are paradigmsearch, but loving, helping and praying for others in a Christ-like fashion has been very rewarding in so many ways. Being strengthened by God and being filled with the Holy Spirit gives life more purpose than anything else I've tried or experienced.

  15. Mel Carriere profile image94
    Mel Carriereposted 4 years ago

    Do what you enjoy doing pardigmsearch, regardless of whether or not people tell you it is impractical or a waste of time.  Learn to be comfortable in your own skin regardless of what others think or say about you.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.

  16. paradigmsearch profile image94
    paradigmsearchposted 4 years ago

    btw, Randy G. is alive and well and says Hi.

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image59
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      ...me too!...hey Randy!....and you too PDS!....Hi!

      1. Pearldiver profile image80
        Pearldiverposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Ho - Hummmmm... don't feel a need to say hi to me huh SWOH??  sad
        Hope you're all well...

        PS... the purpose of life will always be what you choose it to be and often it a change of perspective is the answer to finding or rekindling it.  Have you ever deeply considered your purpose in life from your cat's perspective??  smile

        1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image59
          SomewayOuttaHereposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          Hey PD...haven't seen you around in awhile....hello...hello...hello

          i've sent you about 3 messages over the past few months...send me one if you read this.....later gater

  17. Kangaroo_Jase profile image80
    Kangaroo_Jaseposted 4 years ago

    "Do unto others, what you would have them do unto you, unless you do it to them first" wink

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    Sarra Garrettposted 4 years ago

    Ah but you do have a purpose in life....it is but to write, teach and entertain us.  smile

    1. Nicole Winter profile image61
      Nicole Winterposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Love this!  smile

  19. 2uesday profile image83
    2uesdayposted 4 years ago

    Which of your interests, would you miss if they were taken away or denied you? If you were in a prison cell and denied freedom of choice, what would it be that you wanted to do apart from escape? Do not answer that, just use it as a point to start a line of thought on what matters to you.

  20. karthikkash profile image92
    karthikkashposted 4 years ago

    If you want a strong purpose, living a great life (not ordinary) is a purpose. If you think about it big_smile

  21. paradigmsearch profile image94
    paradigmsearchposted 4 years ago

    The replies posted here have been truly awesome. My deep, heartfelt thanks to all. The information in this thread could actually help lots of people. So much so, that I've posted links to it. The thread, itself, has turned into a contribution to society.

    http://s2.hubimg.com/u/7083877_f1024.jpg

  22. Joy56 profile image60
    Joy56posted 4 years ago

    Men are men, and all seem to think the same about this subject.   No matter how long they have been married.  Quite sad really, it is a flaw, in evolution I think......

    1. profile image0
      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      What is this about?

  23. ahorseback profile image82
    ahorsebackposted 4 years ago

    I believe that passion is the key , we have to become passionate about something , anything !  Now look everyone Beth is a passionate person ! Follow her lead !

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      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      lol, aw Ed... maybe too passionate in areas that don't matter.
      What a special person you are. smile

    2. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Beth is indeed a keeper. big_smile

      1. profile image0
        Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Beth likes it when two nice men say nice things about her right in a row... thank you both! smile

  24. ahorseback profile image82
    ahorsebackposted 4 years ago

    You bet shes a keeper !  I love the way she flirts !  I wish she was  one of those stalkers that everyone talks about  !..lol...Hi Beth !

  25. ahorseback profile image82
    ahorsebackposted 4 years ago

    Beth ,.....I never had any doult !.Your the best ......:-}

  26. paradigmsearch profile image94
    paradigmsearchposted 4 years ago

    95 degrees. My purpose in life today is to not die. No A/C. Needs freon.

    1. profile image0
      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I don't feel good. You could come make my family dinner. If that doesn't give you purpose, i don't know what would! smile

      1. paradigmsearch profile image94
        paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        Sorry, my purpose in life today is to get my blankety-blank Canon printer to work. The thing refuses to print in black and white. I feel multiple Canon rants coming on...

        1. profile image0
          Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

          well if you get it fixed, print us out something nice and fax it. smile

  27. profile image0
    delleaposted 4 years ago

    Paradigmsearch... I've looked at quite a few of your hubs and they are great, lots of excellent content! However, I see that most of your comments in the discussion areas seem to be frivolous, unrelated, or even sarcastic at times. My suggestion would be to simply pump out more of your excellent hubs and to not bother posting so many comments unless you're truly attempting to add some value to the discussions you're commenting on. If I've offended you, my bad, it just seems to me that such a brilliant mind should not be wasted on worthless comments. Peace!

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I don't do sarcasm. As for the rest of it, live with it.

      1. HollieT profile image85
        HollieTposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        PDS, your new purpose in life is surely to post as many frivolous, unrelated and utterly sarcastic comments as you so desire. I, for one, really enjoy them. big_smile

        1. paradigmsearch profile image94
          paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks. I really don't do sarcasm though. I'm now beginning to think some of my whimsical comments have been misinterpreted.

          Here is a quote that I try to constantly remember, "Miscommunication causes more problems than all other factors combined." It is an original by yours truly. It used to be on my profile page, along with "One of the most important lessons a person can learn in life is that other people are as real behind their eyes as you are behind yours." Maybe I should throw both those quotes back up on my bio.

          1. HollieT profile image85
            HollieTposted 4 years agoin reply to this

            I remember those quotes on your bio, put them back they belong there, in addition to writer/editor.

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      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Helpful in what way?

  28. Grant Kearney profile image60
    Grant Kearneyposted 4 years ago

    hello 
    Im not going to tell you what to do, there are lots of others who can do it better than me smile

    however for me I find going to the beach and sitting or walking in the surf helps to calm and quieting my mind. This then opens the world of possibility.

    I think it was Helen Keller who said "Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing"

    Maybe get outside your comfort zone and do something that total scare the heebee geebee's out of ya!

    Grant

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      Beth37posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      She gave some of the most amazing quotes ever.

      1. Grant Kearney profile image60
        Grant Kearneyposted 4 years agoin reply to this

        I googled it as wasn't sure the correct wording and found sites many many more quotes smile

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    Sarra Garrettposted 4 years ago

    PDM you need a dog.

    1. paradigmsearch profile image94
      paradigmsearchposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I do need something...

      What I need is a soul mate and partner in life. I am reasonably certain that soul mate and partner in life is right here on HubPages.

 
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