I need some wisdom, so I'd like to take a "show of hands"?

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   RKHenryposted 16 years ago

   The gathered information will help me to determine future approaches &/or participation.
   
   It is a simple YES or NO poll.  No rebuttals please, they aren't necessary when addressing this question.  It is an all or none instant, with the direct purpose of excluding the variables of "only if", "only when" or "but....," & other said types of variables. Thank you for your help.
   
   The question:
   
   "Is asking a clear, direct question[s] to a fellow hubber wrong in a forum?"
   
   Yes or no please.

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      AEvansposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      My answer to you, is No.

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      R. Blueposted 16 years agoin reply to this

        Ummm...I have a hanging chad! Can't get the thing to punch out....looks like.....nah...it's got to be a maybe...Sorry!!

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      reggieTullposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      Confused...If a question is posted on a forum directly asking a single hubber a question - NO, could turn to bullying.  Post an email directly to them and keep it private.
      
      Daily, I see questions posted directly to Hubbers in forums - hey, that is what the discourse is all about.  Hubbers are constantly challenging the opinions of other Hubbers based on forum responses.
      
      So No then Yes. 
      
      Sorry about the lack of clearness of this response.

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         RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

         Sorry you lack clearness.  But it's clear that others are not having the same problem in this. 
         
         If your sole purpose was to bring forth a critique.  Thank you.  I accept the points you made, and will weigh it upon the fact that others did not seem to have a "clearness" issue.  Thanks.

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      Leta Sposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      NO.  Of course not.

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         RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

         Lita???  Are you sure you feel this way?
         
         
         ya gotta know I'm just teasing.

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      sandra rinckposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      no

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         RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

         Sandra, have I told you lately how lovely you are?  Excuse my English.

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      MissJamieDposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      No, sir!

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      MagicStarERposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      No, of course not, especially if that is what you are looking for... 
      
      Being direct and authentic is how people communicate best.

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   Colebabieposted 16 years ago

   No.

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   Anna Marie Bowmanposted 16 years ago

   I would have to say no.  I know you asked for a yes or no answer, no ifs, ands, or buts.  But there are some.  If it is directed at a specific Hubber, maybe sending them an email is better.  If it's directed at all Hubbers, no, no problem there.  I guess that's really it.  Unless it's not appropriate, then maybe it shouldn't be asked.  I have no idea what question you are wanting to ask, or to whom you may be directing the questions, but I hope this helps.

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      RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, many hubbers report such said emails as harassment do they not?  I don't mind emails.  But clearly some do.  A lot the email I receive, the sender makes note.  So...., that is why it is not included into the mixture.  I have a strong growing curve.  I do have the ability to learn from others mistakes.  I wouldn't advise emails, based on what I've learned from my friends here on hubpages.
      
      So looks like we have 4 no's. 
      
      No it is not wrong.

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   Dame Scribeposted 16 years ago

   Yes.... don't want be attacking somebody. Use their email.
   
   No .... if they initiated the conversation.
   
   Suppose that puts me in the middle. Maybe. Depends..etc sorry

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      RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      Again, to anybody who reads this.  I highly suggest no to the email. It is my understanding that you could be flagged, or banned for that.
      
      Again, this is concerning CLEAR and FRANK questions.  Not insults.

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         R. Blueposted 16 years agoin reply to this

           Perhaps it would help if you asked if you could ask a clear and frank question before doing so.  If you are going to ask such person if they are gay, you might say..."do you mind if I ask you a question about your sexuality?"  or if you want to hit on some hottie you might ask "can I ask you how you'd feel about sex with me tonight?"...therefore..the question in question would determine my yes or no.

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            RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

            If I was to inquire about someone's sexuality, I'd ask:
            
            "Are you gay?", clear enough?  That's what I'm talking about if the subject is approach. 
            
            Are you gay? 
            
            Understand?

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               R. Blueposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                 Again the question and subject matter would determine if a frank question were appropriate.  "Did you use strawberries or blueberries in that recipe?" would be an appropriate question...unless it was a trade secret.  Asking someone if they are gay on a hunch would be absolutely inappropriate.  Asking a fat lady what tentmaker she goes to to buy her clothes would be funny, but totally inappropriate.  So again my answer is depends on the topic and the question you want to ask....you have to use some common sense.

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                  RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                  Wouldn't the clear and direct answer to the use of which berry be a yes or no?
                  
                  Yes strawberries
                  no blueberries
                  yes strawberries
                  yes blueberries
                  no strawberries
                  no blueberries, watermelon.
                  
                  Can you ask someone in the hubpage forum a clear, direct question?
                  
                  Maybe???
                  
                  Okay, thank you. 
                  
                  Not on the list.  Sorry.

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   badcompany99posted 16 years ago

   NO

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   ledefensetechposted 16 years ago

   No, I believe all posts should be asked.  If a person is a tool and a bully it will come out in what they say and do.  Most people who see that will draw the correct conclusion and ignore the poster if they are a tool. 
   
   Second, if a person has the stones to post something, they should have the stones to stand by what they say.  If they can't they belong on the playground rather than big kid's town.

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      RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      

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   The Misty Roseposted 16 years ago

   Absolutely Not Wrong

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   Leta Sposted 16 years ago

   Blue there just might have a definite point, RK! 
   
   Without enlisting any kind of rebuttal.  (Just teasin' ya.)

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   Curious Travellerposted 16 years ago

   On the face of it, no. There are a great many questions, however, which simply cannot be answered in such a succinct fashion, and I would have to know the specifics as to why you pose this conundrum to reply in any greater detail.

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      RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

      It is as simple as it is.
      
      To place in buts in this instance, is stating that everything you said before the but, was truly a lie.  For it is yourself placing upon the stipulations to a direct answer.  Making the words stated before the but, worthless.
      
      Please take the question at face value.

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         Curious Travellerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

         
         
         
         Firstly, I did not use the word, "but." Secondly, your reply is absolute gibberish!
         
         Given what I now perceive to be your thought processes, my answer has changed to most definitely yes, it is wrong!

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            RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

            Thank you for the insult, oh I mean constructive criticism.  However, I was only giving way to my position and addressing my opinion to everyone.  YOU, brought forth a point, that I wanted to address.
            
            It is my belief that "YOU"[meaning JOE PUBLIC].........
            Curious Traveller:
            I will not argue with you on whether I said YOU SAID BUT.  BUT, you're confused in my direct opinion. I never said, "curious traveller, when YOU [curious traveller] say but......."
            
            I did not say YOU said that.  Got it? 
            
            Now, let me be frank here, YOU were wrong.  Now are you going to rebuff your insults or are you going to be a petty fool?

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               Curious Travellerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

               I regret to say that once again your reply does not make sense. Your grasp of the English language is clearly not sufficient to make yourself understood.
               
               I wish you success in finding the answer to that which you wish to establish but as I cannot understand your words, there would appear to be little sense in continuing this debate.
               
               Good luck with the English language lessons and stick in there - you need them!

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                  RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                  Ah, thank you.  Please do excuse me if I choose not to insult you.  Bad Karma. 
                  
                  Clear enough?  Correct enough? 
                  
                  Be well.

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                     Curious Travellerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                     There was never at any time an insult intended.
                     You be well, too.

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                        RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                        Really?  The EXPLANATION marks, behind your critical critique of my knowledge of the English language wasn't an insult?
                        
                        Oh, and then there was and I quote, "Secondly, your reply is absolute gibberish!" Amazing.
                        "Absolute gibberish!"  Not an insult? Really.
                        
                        My mistake. 
                        Wow.
                        You are right. 
                        
                        If that was constructive criticism, I must need lessons in my native tongue.

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                           Curious Travellerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                           What are "explanation marks?" There is no such term in the English language! I presume that you are referring to "quotation" symbols.
                           
                           You have admitted to being a group, so I suppose that another one of you has now taken over with a "slightly" better command of the English language.
                           
                           I am astounded by the "native tongue" remark. If English is indeed the "native tongue" of the writer of this comment, your collective problems are far greater than I had anticipated!
                           
                           My intention in the first instance was to give a sensible answer to the question posed. It appears that such is not what you wished, rather some irritating form of abuse and discourse was your intention.
                           
                           Goodbye!
                           
                           Au Revoir!
                           Auf Widersehn!

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                              RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                              lol.
                              
                              Bad Karma, chow.

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    Leta Sposted 16 years ago

    Europeans can just be so snotty (!)
    
    I'll have >you all< know (southern grammatical usage that actually works quite elegantly, though I personally don't use it myself)]that my Yankee education learned me, lol, that English was majorly influenced by a number of different languages and cultures, not the least of which was that of my ancestors.  Danelaws were the norm and Danish was the 'civilized' language in Britain many many years ago.  Oh, then there is Latin, ...
    
    English is, of course, an amalgam of different cultures and peoples who add to and change it--precisely what may be witnessed here.  Snottiness can be so funny, too....
    
    (With my apologies to the likable Brits on this forum, truly.)

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       Curious Travellerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

       Firstly, the instigator of this issue is almost certainly an (illegal?) immigrant to your country from Eastern Europe or Asia somewhere.
       
       Secondly, it was my genuine intention to give a sensible answer to the question posed here in the first instance and the abuse levied against me for same is totally out of order.
       
       Had someone of your obvious experience on these forums taken the trouble to make such determinations in the first instance, you may not have made such a preposterous post in the first instance.
       
       PS: what are all these weird symbols about in your post - are you drunk?

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    RKHenryposted 16 years ago

    So back on track, my apologies.
    
    It seems that there is one hubber who feels that it is wrong to ask a hubber a clear, direct question.  A couple of maybes, a confused, and several No's. 
    
    The question is:
    
    "Is asking a clear, direct question[s] to a fellow hubber wrong in a forum?"
    
    Yes or no?

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    Leta Sposted 16 years ago

    No--creative occasions for poetic formatting, so I've been told.  Also could be I worked as a graphic designer for a period of time, I just don't know... Could be I think other people can catch on to diversity in expression, but I realize that is not always the case with those so rule bound.
    
    (I just get a kick outa people who start their sentences with 'Firstly,' and 'Secondly,' I must say.)
    
    And know, Dear Sir & Madam, the OP (that's original poster in internet speak for the uninitiated), or as you would say, 'instigator,' is not an illegal alien.  He's a youngish black guy from around Chicago most probably attending an ivy league college on our East Coast.  His diction says so.
    
    
    
    Take it all with a grain of salt, there, Traveler.  I'm simply in a mood to be witty (or perhaps not, depending on where you stand) today.

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       RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

       Darn it Lita!  You blew my cover. I like being view as an illegal. 
       
       Teasing.  That's too funny.
       
       Curious Traveller- funny.  I no speak'ca` english, Padre!   
       
       Curious Traveller, do go on with your comical assumptions and insults.  You're unique carriage is truly entertaining.

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    sassychicposted 16 years ago

    I say no. You can do that its fine. Just dont be condicending

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    Sufidreamerposted 16 years ago

    No problem, as long as you accept their right to refuse to answer

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    LondonGirlposted 16 years ago

    Yes but no but yes but.....
    
    (Little Britain, anyone?)

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       Sufidreamerposted 16 years agoin reply to this

       
       
       The computer says no!

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          countrywomenposted 16 years agoin reply to this

          Sufi- What else can a dumb thing like computer do except for regurgitating the preprogrammed logic.
          
          RK- But seriously humans may not always want to have the ability to react in a binary tree and boolean logic (of 0,1) etc unlike computers which are programmed accordingly (although computers don't get tired or have moods).
          
          Humans respond differently to different stimuli. If someone has a very close rapport with me then even an uncomfortable question would evoke a yes response to answer one way or the other but if I don't have that level of trust or rapport then certainly prodding somebody to take a definite stand would be considered as pushing it. I guess in general my answer would be NO.

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             LondonGirlposted 16 years agoin reply to this

             "Computer says no" is a catchphrase from the programme I mentioned, Little Britain.

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       RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

       

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    Herald Dailyposted 16 years ago

    I vote no, on the assumption that the question pertains to non-personal matters.

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       RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

       So asking you if you were straight would be out of the question?
       
       [joking:lol:]

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          Herald Dailyposted 16 years agoin reply to this

          You can ask me!    I'm not sure everyone feels that way about very personal matters, though.

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             RKHenryposted 16 years agoin reply to this

             When I saw that you found my response I thought to myself, "BUSTED!"
             
             
             Thanks for being a great sport.

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                Herald Dailyposted 16 years agoin reply to this

                I had to laugh when I read it.

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    Research Analystposted 16 years ago

    I would say "NO" because direct questions make it easier to know how to answer.

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