hate! how do you deal with it?

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  1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
    nikitasnow2posted 9 years ago

    If someone really hates you and you can not avoid that person because you are living in the same house, what would you do? Considering that you even have to basic things with that person.

    1. Lady_E profile image65
      Lady_Eposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      My goodness Nikita.  Hatred is such a strong, negative feeling. Personally, I think one should try and make peace with the person while in the house and if it doesn't work, just move out for your own peace of mind.  If it's your house, then gently walk them to the door.

      Spiritual wise/Karma wise its not nice to live under those circumstances.  Its negative energy and can even hinder your progress but lets not go deep.  Good Luck smile

      1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
        nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        thank you for the advice

    2. spiderpam profile image78
      spiderpamposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      1 John 3:15 "Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him."

      1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
        nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        waaao. I had not known that, hope it wpount go to that extent.

  2. JSwanson profile image53
    JSwansonposted 9 years ago

    Hate is a very strong word.  I can't imagine being forced to be around someone with those sort of feelings toward me.

    I would do everything in my power to resolve the issue or to move on.

    1. lrohner profile image80
      lrohnerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more. I would add that you should try to have a frank and open dialog with that person and try to come to some middle ground.

      1. Ladybird33 profile image65
        Ladybird33posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        I agree completely, be open and honest and then find a new place to leave asap.

    2. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      you are right, but what if talking is no option?

    3. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      movew on? good

  3. tksensei profile image60
    tksenseiposted 9 years ago

    Too many people misuse the word 'hate,' to unfortunate effect.

    1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      yes, but they may be winning in bringing out the effect

  4. Dame Scribe profile image59
    Dame Scribeposted 9 years ago

    I know the feeling of being on the receiving end of somebodys hate tongue I just ignore them rather than join them tongue and if I were you...I would move somewhere else or tell the other person to leave ...if it's family...maybe help them find a b/f or g/f so they can move out is good too lol tongue

    1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      ........lol,
      thank you Dame, thank you for the advice

  5. Beth100 profile image73
    Beth100posted 9 years ago

    Hate is a very strong emotion that is directly reflective of your anger towards that person.  Mediation and conflict resolution are the best ways to resolve the problems and to begin a separation.  It is not healthy to be with another person if you do not like each other.  It is not healthy for you, the other person and any third parties, such as children and family.  Resolve, and move forward to a more healthy lifestyle.

    1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      you are right,itsjust that somethings are easier said than done. do you agree?

      1. Beth100 profile image73
        Beth100posted 9 years agoin reply to this

        The human spirit is very strong and if there is the right motivation, anything can be overcome.  It takes courage, dedication, time and focus to achieve these goals. There are degrees of difficulty, but the intesity associated with "hate" is deep and requires extra dedication and courage to overcome.  We have seen this throughout man's history of how great adversity has been overcome by the power of the human spirit to achieve a greater self.

  6. anime_nanet profile image61
    anime_nanetposted 9 years ago

    Let it flow... It comes than goes. Time helps.

    1. nikitasnow2 profile image60
      nikitasnow2posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I guess time heals, ha!

  7. Eaglekiwi profile image80
    Eaglekiwiposted 9 years ago

    Do you really hate them ? or hate what they do ,say ,beleive?
    Have they hurt you?
    , then perhaps moving on ( by moving) is best for you.

    Hate is a strong emotion and its ugly like a poison.
    I wish you well trying to get free of it
    smile

  8. Miss Match profile image58
    Miss Matchposted 9 years ago

    '...violence cannot be overcome by counter violence; hatred can only be overcome by love’ Mahatma Gandhi

    Hate is such a powerful emotion. Before you hate this person, try to figure out why they are behaving they way they are? And why does it offend you? It could be their way of reaching out for help. Don’t leave things unsaid, you will only fester in your own anger and the situation will get worse.

    Try to talk about the problem no matter hope hopeless it may seem, there’s always a way out of misery. Remember that communication is a two way process. If you both get passive and remain angry then the tension will only heighten making life unbearable for everyone involved.

  9. Misha profile image71
    Mishaposted 9 years ago

    What goes around, comes around...

    1. An Archigirl profile image58
      An Archigirlposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      karma:)

  10. Davinagirl3 profile image60
    Davinagirl3posted 9 years ago

    If someone hates me, and there is good reason for it.  I like to humble myself and apologise.  If they hate me for no reason, I don't care about them.  They can't hurt me unless I let them.

    1. lrohner profile image80
      lrohnerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Well said, Davina. You go girl!

  11. Nikita profile image66
    Nikitaposted 9 years ago

    well, you don't mention who this is and the two commont things you have I guess is your husband and the common are your kids. If I'm wrong forgive me but eighter way the advice it's the same.

    Provably the person feel like that because someone else is putting stuff in their mind. Just move and get a better healthy life. If it is your husband, he will change as soon he sees you growing into a better life without him.

    If you asked why and it is your fault, apologize, ask for a second chance and win back the love. If there is no reason for it, maybe it's jelosy. Move on.

  12. profile image0
    fierycjposted 9 years ago

    I love it. Shows I'm doing something right.

 
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