hate! how do you deal with it?

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   nikitasnow2posted 14 years ago

   If someone really hates you and you can not avoid that person because you are living in the same house, what would you do? Considering that you even have to basic things with that person.

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      Lady_Eposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      My goodness Nikita.  Hatred is such a strong, negative feeling. Personally, I think one should try and make peace with the person while in the house and if it doesn't work, just move out for your own peace of mind.  If it's your house, then gently walk them to the door.
      
      Spiritual wise/Karma wise its not nice to live under those circumstances.  Its negative energy and can even hinder your progress but lets not go deep.  Good Luck

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         nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         thank you for the advice

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      spiderpamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      1 John 3:15 "Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him."

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         nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         waaao. I had not known that, hope it wpount go to that extent.

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   JSwansonposted 14 years ago

   Hate is a very strong word.  I can't imagine being forced to be around someone with those sort of feelings toward me.
   
   I would do everything in my power to resolve the issue or to move on.

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      lrohnerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more. I would add that you should try to have a frank and open dialog with that person and try to come to some middle ground.

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         Ladybird33posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I agree completely, be open and honest and then find a new place to leave asap.

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you are right, but what if talking is no option?

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      movew on? good

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   tksenseiposted 14 years ago

   Too many people misuse the word 'hate,' to unfortunate effect.

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yes, but they may be winning in bringing out the effect

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   Dame Scribeposted 14 years ago

   I know the feeling of being on the receiving end of somebodys hate I just ignore them rather than join them and if I were you...I would move somewhere else or tell the other person to leave ...if it's family...maybe help them find a b/f or g/f so they can move out is good too

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ........lol,
      thank you Dame, thank you for the advice

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   Beth100posted 14 years ago

   Hate is a very strong emotion that is directly reflective of your anger towards that person.  Mediation and conflict resolution are the best ways to resolve the problems and to begin a separation.  It is not healthy to be with another person if you do not like each other.  It is not healthy for you, the other person and any third parties, such as children and family.  Resolve, and move forward to a more healthy lifestyle.

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you are right,itsjust that somethings are easier said than done. do you agree?

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         Beth100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         The human spirit is very strong and if there is the right motivation, anything can be overcome.  It takes courage, dedication, time and focus to achieve these goals. There are degrees of difficulty, but the intesity associated with "hate" is deep and requires extra dedication and courage to overcome.  We have seen this throughout man's history of how great adversity has been overcome by the power of the human spirit to achieve a greater self.

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   anime_nanetposted 14 years ago

   Let it flow... It comes than goes. Time helps.

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      nikitasnow2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I guess time heals, ha!

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   Eaglekiwiposted 14 years ago

   Do you really hate them ? or hate what they do ,say ,beleive?
   Have they hurt you?
   , then perhaps moving on ( by moving) is best for you.
   
   Hate is a strong emotion and its ugly like a poison.
   I wish you well trying to get free of it
   

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   Miss Matchposted 14 years ago

   '...violence cannot be overcome by counter violence; hatred can only be overcome by love’ Mahatma Gandhi
   
   Hate is such a powerful emotion. Before you hate this person, try to figure out why they are behaving they way they are? And why does it offend you? It could be their way of reaching out for help. Don’t leave things unsaid, you will only fester in your own anger and the situation will get worse.
   
   Try to talk about the problem no matter hope hopeless it may seem, there’s always a way out of misery. Remember that communication is a two way process. If you both get passive and remain angry then the tension will only heighten making life unbearable for everyone involved.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   What goes around, comes around...

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      An Archigirlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      karma:)

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    Davinagirl3posted 14 years ago

    If someone hates me, and there is good reason for it.  I like to humble myself and apologise.  If they hate me for no reason, I don't care about them.  They can't hurt me unless I let them.

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       lrohnerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Well said, Davina. You go girl!

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    Nikitaposted 14 years ago

    well, you don't mention who this is and the two commont things you have I guess is your husband and the common are your kids. If I'm wrong forgive me but eighter way the advice it's the same.
    
    Provably the person feel like that because someone else is putting stuff in their mind. Just move and get a better healthy life. If it is your husband, he will change as soon he sees you growing into a better life without him.
    
    If you asked why and it is your fault, apologize, ask for a second chance and win back the love. If there is no reason for it, maybe it's jelosy. Move on.

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    fierycjposted 14 years ago

    I love it. Shows I'm doing something right.

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