We had just found out we were pregnant. My husband booked a spa weekend in a posh hotel. There were roses and sparkling apple cider (non-alcoholic). As soon as we got there, I got nauseated and spent the majority of the time hugging the bowl. Damn morning sickness!
Well there are many to ponder on. Around 5 years ago this guy took me to this little cabin in the middle of a rainforest in the middle of no-where.It had a log fire, all 5 star inside. In the spa room it had a great mirror where you could see outside but no-one could see in, and we sat in there with champagne and watched all the nightlife go by. He put rose petals all over the bed, candles, soft music, blah blah. We went on the patio and made love beneath the stars, then suddenly we heard a moo moo. There was a bunch of cows standing right beside us hahah taking notes. Haha the perves...
hahaha oh there was some good moo-sic going on, and so we kept going, can't have a bunch of cows putting out the spark. What was funny hahaha is they were chewing grass, everytime I looked at them, these huge mouths were chomping arghh arghhh arghhhh, had to try not to look at them or I would have lost the plot.
I guess it depends on what you think is romantic. I have had many romantic times just watching TV and in a really touching part having him look over and kiss me and say he loves me...I found that very romantic! LOL, it all depends what you believe!
You have got it nailed Colebabie. You deserve the romance you get, because you understand it is a two way street. Some men are a waste of effort, your man gets it. I love the fact that you always seem to be able to see a man's point of view as well as your own.
I try to see as many viewpoints as I can Men vs. Women is the easy one. My man definitely gets it. There are sooo many ways for guys to be romantic and as long as the girl appreciates it they'll keep doing it. Take me to dinner, you got some dirty lingerie. Lay under the stars with me, you're gettin what onthewriteside and I discussed earlier
earnesthub, You are correct and I am wrong. Thank you for bringing my attention to this thoughtless and sexist remark...I really should have said "people", not "men". Both sexes are at fault for this, not just men!
All you men have my heartfelt apology!!!! My bad! Please forgive me and let's be friends!
I've been on many amazing dates. For Valentine's Day this year my boyfriend picked me up for a night downtown. Our downtown area is quite small and right by the beach. It is just a few blocks of delicious food and great music, art galleries and cute beach-side shops. I wore a red dress with my lips stained the same color. I answered the door to a dozen long stemmed roses, and an adorable guy with a red tie and big smile on his face. I got into his car and he said he must of left his cell phone inside because he couldn't find it anywhere. "Can you check under your seat?" When I felt under my seat there was a jewelry box. He smiled and told me to open it. There were beautiful earrings inside that I immediately put on. We went downtown where we walked around for a bit. Then ate a long yummy dinner on the patio of this great restaurant, where we watched people go by on carriage rides. After dinner we went to this famous ice cream place where we grabbed a milkshake and headed to the beach. We counted shooting stars and then went home where we lit some candles and made love. The next morning we slept in and I made french toast. Oh one of many romantic nights. I have another if you want to hear
That is right while there may be men who may not be romantically minded there are plenty of sweet Cassonovas who know the art of being romantic. You just have to give some a little incentive to be.....bring it out them with sweet loving
I love you man! You know how to win my heart with the blues...But you are married...We will have to keep it light! Pity, but that's life! Inuendos are fun and and while you know I love you they really mean nothing. Otherwise it would too dangerous.
A office full of flowers and chocolates from a man I never met.......I wrote a hub about it..."Beware of Romeo Online"...I've changed the title of this hub several times. It was originally titled "Romeo, Roses, Laptops and Old Navy".
I'm just saying that a man's idea of romantic will NEVER MATCH UP to a woman's idea of the same. I mean a man says, "Hey...$50 on flowers, $30 on a movie, $100 on dinner...I don't mind forking out another $150 for the hotel room". But a woman thinks, "Hey...he actually noticed the color of my eyes instead of my gigantic boobs that I have taken great care in hardly covering tonight...so he must be the real deal!"
This doesn't matter to me. I love it when he stares at my chest. And money doesn't matter either. I'm perfectly content layin on the beach. But I'm in a long term relationship. We got the romance thing down pat. And we're both a sure thing. So we honestly do the romance thing for each other.
I've been with the my "better half" for over 12 years now, (longer than my two marriages lasted combined), and I love her dearly. But as far as "being romantic" goes...we don't do the "Hallmark holiday" thing, we don't do any of the "cutesy" things that are considered typically "romantic". Neither one of us are "emotionally needy" that way, (although I think she probably is and is just hiding it because she is really the most rational woman I have ever met).
But we know how to treat each other with respect and admiration, and we are best friends...and that to me is sexy.
Who says men are not romantic? What about all those so-called "romantic" poets? Isn't that classic? What about winemakers? Aren't then mostly male? Buying flowers counts. Cooking dinner counts -- barbequeing, even.
I don't believe that being romantic necessarily means forking over a lot of money, tho. Sometimes the most romantic times are, as K@ri said, just quiet and spontaneous. MM
My parents were separated twice, divorced once, and then re-married each other. They still bitch at one another on a daily basis in some fashion or another, but truth be known...they wouldn't know what to do with themselves if the other wasn't around. You are right...every couple is different...
It is not the money, the location, any external factors for romance.......it is in the mind, and can change any scenerio into a golden delicacy of unbridled love. A good woman can bring out romance in a man who never knew he had any.
When my husband and I were dating, he created a very in-depth, complicated scavenger hunt for me through the city. From clue to clue I had to figure out where the final destination of our date was to be. Ended up being a picnic in one of our favorite spots. It was so fun and thoughtful.
I can't think of a particularly romantic moment between me n my boyfriend. We've been together over 2 years, thus 2 valentine's day and have never managed to spend that day together.
But when it comes to birthdays and special occasions he nearly always nails it wit gifts. We'd been goin out about 7 months when my birthday came around and he took me to Paris!
My birthday is 2 days before Xmas and between them both he got me things I had explicitly said I wanted. It's not that I'd been dropping hints, he'd just been listening when I talked about shoes and perfumes and girly stuff and so knew what to get! I thought that was pretty amazing!
Well, you see, that's the thing. I'm only 17 so I'm not sure I know what it is like to have loved. I write alot of poetry because I have always had issues with feelings and expressing them (as in I'm fairly withdrawn...not because I'm autistic or anything like that) so I wrote her a sonnet which I never gave her. I guess now it just reminds me of things...you know, what things could have been like if I had given it to her. Ah well...
Wow I ramble alot, a forum is hardly the best place to talk about such things [haha]. I apologise for that. =]
When I came in from the pharmacy tonight, my husband was online checking out couple's getaways to Jade Mountain in the Caribbean. He was fretting at the cost. We couldn't afford it, but he was daydreaming. I thought that was so sweet. He had the whole trip planned in his head.
Actually, here in HubPages, people talk of many things on the forums. Is it too late to give it to her...or do you just not want to anymore?
I too have a lot of issues with telling my feelings, but here it is getting better. I don't really understand why people feel you are autistic if you are not social any more...when I grew up it was introverted.
Read some of the hubs here...maybe they will help you, as they have helped me!
Cheers, That is very nice of you to admit, thanks =] I guess I hang onto it to remind myself not to go all out there again, I let this girl get to know my every though and that turned out to be a mistake. She never shared anything with me...ah well
I posted the sonnet up if you're interested. If not then I don't blame you. It just one of those things.
I went and read the sonnet. Lovely! She must not understand, because she is missing out. I am sure you will find a wonderful girl one day! Your heart is open and there is someone out there that will appreciate it!
I would like to thank you for your lovely comments. I literally have about 60 poems I wrote over the past few months which I just kept to myself. Your comments have given me the confidence and ego boost I need to post more up. Thank you =]
Well, seeing that I no longer a "young" woman, I have been romanced a time or two during my 1/2 century (OMG, that REALLY SOUNDS OLD!!! I better not ever do that again!!!!)here on earth.
I have many fond memories (OMG, that sounds bad too.... MANY??? Does that make me sound like a really BAD girl or what!!??)
Ok, to get to my answer .... one of the sweetest things ever, and ended up being very romantic: I was dating a sweet, cuddly bear of a guy who owned a nice cycle. I was working swingshift and got off at midnight. It was summer, warm and clear sky; as I walked out after my shift, he was waiting in the parking lot to take me for a nice long ride on his motorcycle.
We ended up at the top of a big dam in our town, under the stars for a meteor shower!!! He brought yummies, so we had a midnight snack of wine, cheese and crackers!!! So sweet, I will never forget it or him (some of the guys I barely remember their names...LOL...OMG, that sounds really BAD!!!!).... I better stop....LOL :-)
Hi, I might be a bit late on this one, but I have one time that was so romantic, and certainly not even planned! It really made me think it was really planned on his part anyway! I'd gotten into the shower, thinking, after we'd just put on a movie etc. blah blah... but when I got out of the shower, I seen my black see thru nighty hanging on the back of the door. Well, I dolled up a bit, and slipped into the gown. I thought, at least maybe it'll get a spark or something during the movie! Something different, unexpected for him. When I came out, he'd set two places, made a nice little salad "sort of snack" not really a dinner or anything, but THE WHOLE HOUSE HAD TEA LIGHT CANDLES EVERYWHERE! I must of looked like Dorothy when she opened the door to munchkin land. Everything glowed! He pulled out my chair as if in a fine restaurant and we sat and had our candle lit salad! He was most certainly surprised I didn't come out in my flannel LOL. After we ate, and had a glass of Champagne (I thought was for another time we were saving) he took things to the livingroom. There was no tv, just US. We drank our Champagne, and just talked about how neither of us had expected the other's actions! Of course one thing led to another, and it was the most romantic unexpected and loving thing a man has ever done for me. Timing was perfect because by the time we were ready to sleep, the tea light candles had burned out on their own! It was a night I'll never forget, just on the note, neither of us planned on the other doing anything romantic.