wow this could be deep think i will stay out of it
My response to your question- I don't know!
My opinion, I can offer. Many of the older generation were brain washed and at church every time the door opened.
Therefore we were taught that there is only the union of "one man"- one woman".
Children of today are not raised in churches and therefore have not been taught (had certian theories drilled into their minds),
that it's supposed to be "one man-one woman".
Homosexual people I know tell me they have dated the opposite sex but they are attracted to the same sex they can't help it.
people are born with their sexual identity, which is why those crazy "deprogramming" things don't work - why deny your true self?
Now, I bet this refers not only to sexual orientation. Anybody dares to think it through?
Are all the replies supposed to be questions?
Is it not good to reply with a question?
What if a person prefers to answer with a question?
Can I post a thread that is not a question?
Are questions good things?
Are questions bad things?
What if a person needs to answer with a question?
What is your favorite color?
It's the nuture or nature question all over again, but only this time is in relation to gay people.
I will actually answer this one seriously. I think for some people it is a choice, and for some people it isn't. I just experienced first-hand how genes get all screwed up during fetal development (no damage done by Mom, I might add). I do think there are many folks whose genes just get messed up in utero and they were supposed to be the other sex.
That said, my ex-hubby has a sister who, after 20 years of marriage and 2 kids, decided she was gay. She lived the lifestyle, had a girlfriend, lived with her, talked about getting married to her -- and then 5 or 6 years later decided she wasn't gay and remarried her ex-hubby.
So yes. For some folks it is a lifestyle choice, and for others it's not.
Yes...and concerning your first paragraph, I'd even take it further. Maybe it's actually something of a balance in nature thing. Optimizing sexual reproduction in a species for survival of the race. Just something I've thought about.
Oh, and scientists believe the in utero argument has to do with a balance of hormones the fetus is subjected to.
Choice: Possibly, in the example of your ex-sister in law, she is bi. Then, lol, yes, I guess you could say those people "have a choice."
You are too much, Misha. No. She is not "bi". I believe she was suffering from a mid-life crisis, much like Nelle is now, and that's how it played out for her.
And your bit about "optimizing sexual reproduction in a species for survival of the race" just sounds a bit too off for me. A bit Germanic, perhaps?
Okay, now that I'm done cringing, perhaps I should remind you that there is a difference between Germanic and Nazi.
What are you smoking, Lisa? God forbid mistaking me for Lita, we are two absolutely unrelated species
Um...I wrote that, not Misha. And I'm not German, either. I'm Danish. Anyway (?) Not sure what that meant. German in thinking or philosophy? OK...just read Valerie F's. comment.. Uh, no...I'm a nasty liberal, far from a Nazi, I'm talking, sigh (omg), about a balancing act inherent in nature. Maybe a bit Spinoza in being 'off'.
And dare I say, what you "believe" and possibly what "is" can be two different things. Perhaps you've heard sexual orientation is kind of a continuum? From completely straight to completely gay? Your sister in law MAY fall somewhere in between...frankly, she'd better, otherwise, I don't know how she'd manage to be attracted to another woman, .
How you were wired is not your choice. What you make of yourself is.
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